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First of all, I am amazed how much people are hating on her character from one episode.

Khusiya, is an uneducated and simple small town daughter-in-law, who has been subjugated to mental torture from the time the poor cow has been married. Her evil, cunning mother in law has kept her submissive and to top that, the very stupid, obnoxious and blind husband of hers, has also AWAYS time and again made her apologize and feel sorry and feel small in front of the rest of his monstrous family. This woman, has NOT known any other way of being, but being this submissive. IT is so easy for people like us to sit and watch the show from urban cities , not knowing any reality about how small town families are still rooted in a lot of this kind of archaic tradition of daughter-in-law being treated this way. Of course I blame her for always being too dumb to see how her mother - in law makes it a point to humiliate her in front of her husband and for never standing up for herself. But, imagine if she does raise a voice again Shanti, her husband is going to throw her out. From the mind set she comes from, where does she go? She doesn't have an education or a work skill to last out independently in the world apart from being dependent on her husband. She doesn't even know she can fight legally against her MIL or for the custody of her kids. For her, if she is thrown out of her house, it spells death, nothing else. So for some one in that position, there is no hope but to keep being submissive and look at it as the norm for how DIL should be like. That's probably what her mom passed on to her too.

As for her lashing out at Riya, Of course she is wrong, but for god's sake, the last thing that it can be reasoned to is her being jealous. The thing is, she is battling a lot of emotion inside of her, since the time she and Raghav have had a fight over the money. She has not been able to speak to him after thanks to MIL and her effed up plans of astrology and fasting and what not. To top that, Shanti has put so many doubt about Riya in her head, about her being modern and taking Shivam away from her and what not. Today, she instilled an absolute crippling fear in her about Shivam's misfortune thanks to the fast being broken. IT was simply a lot of pent up emotion that came out. And to top that, for the first time in her life, her son, the only one who supports her, answered back. ( he was right in his position to do so) but for her, it basically was a crumbling defeat, because her husband never stood by her, and today she thought thanks to the new wife, her son has spoken against her too. I actually felt bad for the poor thing because you can see how everything was evilly planned by Shanti, to cause this pain to Khusiya.

She has by far tried to always be very nice to Riya, but she is not a modern, or broad-minded person. She has a narrow outlook about what a DIL has to do, and she is also easily convinved by others to change her mind about things. Right now her relationship with her DIL is being ruled by SHanti. So she doesn't understand Riya herself, it is what Shanti tells her that goes through to her, which is basically a negative image.

If anything, I hope Riya ( the so called modern and educated, but really stupid and not street smart person at all) ends up understanding the games Shanti plays and understands the ill treatment of her MIL in the house and ends up being her support and empowers her to stand up for herself against her spineless husband and cunning SIL and MIL. That's the least you can hope from someone who claims to be educated. So far, Riya has proved to be stupider than illiterate Rani also.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: pp29

First of all, I am amazed how much people are hating on her character from one episode.

Khusiya, is an uneducated and simple small town daughter-in-law, who has been subjugated to mental torture from the time the poor cow has been married. Her evil, cunning mother in law has kept her submissive and to top that, the very stupid, obnoxious and blind husband of hers, has also AWAYS time and again made her apologize and feel sorry and feel small in front of the rest of his monstrous family. This woman, has NOT known any other way of being, but being this submissive. IT is so easy for people like us to sit and watch the show from urban cities , not knowing any reality about how small town families are still rooted in a lot of this kind of archaic tradition of daughter-in-law being treated this way. Of course I blame her for always being too dumb to see how her mother - in law makes it a point to humiliate her in front of her husband and for never standing up for herself. But, imagine if she does raise a voice again Shanti, her husband is going to throw her out. From the mind set she comes from, where does she go? She doesn't have an education or a work skill to last out independently in the world apart from being dependent on her husband. She doesn't even know she can fight legally against her MIL or for the custody of her kids. For her, if she is thrown out of her house, it spells death, nothing else. So for some one in that position, there is no hope but to keep being submissive and look at it as the norm for how DIL should be like. That's probably what her mom passed on to her too.

As for her lashing out at Riya, Of course she is wrong, but for god's sake, the last thing that it can be reasoned to is her being jealous. The thing is, she is battling a lot of emotion inside of her, since the time she and Raghav have had a fight over the money. She has not been able to speak to him after thanks to MIL and her effed up plans of astrology and fasting and what not. To top that, Shanti has put so many doubt about Riya in her head, about her being modern and taking Shivam away from her and what not. Today, she instilled an absolute crippling fear in her about Shivam's misfortune thanks to the fast being broken. IT was simply a lot of pent up emotion that came out. And to top that, for the first time in her life, her son, the only one who supports her, answered back. ( he was right in his position to do so) but for her, it basically was a crumbling defeat, because her husband never stood by her, and today she thought thanks to the new wife, her son has spoken against her too. I actually felt bad for the poor thing because you can see how everything was evilly planned by Shanti, to cause this pain to Khusiya.

She has by far tried to always be very nice to Riya, but she is not a modern, or broad-minded person. She has a narrow outlook about what a DIL has to do, and she is also easily convinved by others to change her mind about things. Right now her relationship with her DIL is being ruled by SHanti. So she doesn't understand Riya herself, it is what Shanti tells her that goes through to her, which is basically a negative image.

If anything, I hope Riya ( the so called modern and educated, but really stupid and not street smart person at all) ends up understanding the games Shanti plays and understands the ill treatment of her MIL in the house and ends up being her support and empowers her to stand up for herself against her spineless husband and cunning SIL and MIL. That's the least you can hope from someone who claims to be educated. So far, Riya has proved to be stupider than illiterate Rani also.


Even in all this drama she is not at all possessive about Shivam. She was so happy that Rani and Riya are fasting from respective husbands. She is superstitious and concerned about well being of her son. Also she does not know all the details that it was accident with no fault of Riya. They will do fine as soon Raghav and or Shivam talk to her. She is caring person at heart. I am glad she was able to speak out to Raghav about why can he never take her side.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Good u decided to write this!
Visited the forum yday after several days (too much work at office) , saw so many negative posts on cowsalya & made a quick exit.😆
Today caught this post and found something to write on. 😃
I'm with you on Kausalya.

What an awesome episode it was today!👏
Where Kusiya stands, based on the information she has & the background she comes from, she is ABSOLUTELY right in what she did today!!
She is a mother & will always wish no harm comes on her children, especially her jigar-ka-tukda on an "supposed" auspicious day. That too after hearing that neighbor's son had an accident for the every same reason.

She is constantly being fed twisted, partial information and boosted with incorrect half-baked facts by her conniving MIL all the time.
She will never stand up for herself, but when it comes to her children, she will definitely take a stand. She said so the other day when Nimmi is upset & distressed that Amma will get her married to some already married budda.

Today, it was for Shivam's life she talked for. Not for herself or for her pride or ego or whatever else..
She has all the right to get angry on Riya, question her, even scold her & she did exactly that.
If she didn't have that concern for Shivam's life that would have made her look like an insensitive mother.
All the incidents since morning drove her to that mental state where she worries more than on any other normal days. Anyone in her place even without a evil conniving MIL like shanti, untoward incidents are enough to drive anyone to that state, when it concerns their children.

She was right when she says - When you have a child and something wrong happens, let me see if you worry or not.
She was right when she says - I'm concerned here for your life and you are questioning me in front of everyone?
She is right when she says - Come what may, regardless of whether his mother is wrong or right, my husband always supports his mother. [By that she is not asking Shivam to be like his father. Only asking to be reasonable and understand of the situation, surroundings and the point being made.]
She is right when she says - If Shanti makes mistake, it is Kusiya that is wrong. If Riya makes mistakes, it is Kusiya only that is wrong. (I'm proud that you are a good son for your mother and takes her side always), But once would you ever take my side?


Such a wronged person in the entire (MAM) world! Seriously sad.

But Hail Kusiya!! Atleast today you opened your mouth and decided to vomit out a bit of your frustration! 👏
Entire truth of who is what, would come out only when the show is about to end, but for now, this much is good enough.👏
None of what is happening is any of your fault. If any fault, that would be that you are too naive, gullible and dumb when your MIL is in front of you!


I don't know how it would be continued, but for now, I loved the look on Raghav's face at the end when he listens to the lines "your son, instead of standing by me was questioning me infront of everyone." That to Raghav is a big mistake on part of Shivam , as he would expect Shivam to take his mother's side, like him. Those according to him are the "achche sanskaar".

It was sad to see Kusiya being trampled upon so mercilessly but I probably liked the episode as I didn't have to go through high pitched screeching of both Shanti & Sarla!

And I loved the precap. It is high-time Riya is brought down to the real-world from her fantasy land.
All the 4 days that she was away from Shanti-nivas for Pag-Phere she did nothing but shop, contemplate what to wear; aree, suit, bangles, bindi, sit in front of mirror and get ready and nothing else!
She had absolutely no concern towards what Shivam was going through. she knew he was upset with something that happened at home. She prods and he starts to tell, but then backtracks, yet, she doesn't pursue. All she is concerned about is - What should I wear, & How do I look?

She is an educated girl, seen the world, met people and she has no basic intelligence!
She really needs that jolt to be able to "see" the reality inside people.

Pehli Rasoi is coming up. Don't know what that is gong to bring 😆 Riya madam has no cooking skills & she made no effort to learn cooking while she was at home the last 4 days.

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