I think she makes no difference between them.
When she gave shelter to Sarita, she did not think it is interference.
When she supported Ganga against Sanchi and others, anandi did it naturally and she did not think she is interfering in BH affairs.
When she supported gulli, gulla, she did not think it is interfering in their affairs.
Anandi is also thinking of Jagya, ganga and mannu in the same way. So she never thinks that her advice will be viewed as interference. She does not think that it will enhance her image in the eyes of others. One has to understand anandi and her words in this context.
And she wont insist. She withdrew in ratan's case. Her offer is take it or leave it.
She told Gehna it is ok to consider remarriage. That does not mean she interefered. It can be called interaction than interference. Her intention is to see everyone happy.
Though I wanted to tell her so many times, 'anandi, mind your business and leave others to thier fate'