Everything has a place and time. And time, especially.
Anandi wanted to study in childhood and you did not allow it to happen in time. it was too late when you realised your fault and allowed anandi to study.
You did your best to separate Jagya and anandi by marrying him off to Gauri. And when you saw Jagya with Gauri happily married, you could not take it and again created problems all around. You should have supported that marriage as it is you who initiated it.
You did not allow anandi to go away from your grip for your selfish possessiveness. Like a dog in the manger. You will not give justice and you would not allow justice be done for anandi.
In your zeal to get Shiv hooked to anandi, you used unfair means like telling lies to Urmi Devi and facilitating meeting between anandi and Shiv. Anandi's initial troubles in Ira's house with Ira and Sanchi were also a result of a marriage based on dhokha.
And then you took the side of Ganga between Sumi ganga fight. You did not care for Sumi's feelings at all. You also supported Sanchi blindly just because she belonged to aandi's sasra. You made many U turns then.
When Jagya is living peaceful life with Ganga, you decided that widowed anandi should stay with you forever. Will any elderly lady take such a decision?
When anandi wanted to leave, you are trying to brush aside the feelings of all. Cat thinks that the world is not seeing it drinking milk by just closing its own eyes.
And now you are giving unpleasant surprises too.