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aparnauma

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Posted: 11 years ago

#71

I would have liked if Anandi put her foot down and said that she would stay in Udaipur just like she said that she will stay back in India

But after she was told on her face that she is not fit to take care of her children because she cannot balance work and children without help from family how do we expect her to counter that statement from Daddu and Dsa?

Daddu the grand old man wants to escape from the memories of his grandson and Ira Alok probably have to go there and start their business which they probably started even before Shiv's exit from their lives and Meenu - I guess she never ever lived without Daddu Ira Alok - she needs their support.

Shekhars feel that she not capable enough to look after her children but not willing to stay back and support their widowed daughter in law Khazan Singh I doubt if he will be any help in the world that Anandi belongs to.He is a simple man who has absolutely no idea what goes on in Anandi's work life and he has no idea what kind of challenges she faces.

When all thse people believe that she cannot cope with being alone how is she supposed to counter them?

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None of them mentioned about children needing father figure.They only said about her children needing a support of a caring family along with mother's love so between Shekhars and Singhs they decided that Singhs will give the family support that her children need and made her or rather forced her to accept it.

Can she or for that matter can any single parent say that they don't need the help or support of family to raise children?

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anshurg5

@anshurg5

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Posted: 11 years ago

#72

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Can she or for that matter can any single parent say that they don't need the help or support of family to raise children?

This is what Daddu said that with the love and care for her children, a single mother also needs family support not that he or Dsa have no faith in the abilities of Anandi as a mother. Actually he said quite contrary that he knew that she is quite capable of looking after her children . It is upto a person how she takes those words.

Best solution of this situation was that Shekhars should stay with her or at least few of them like Daddu and Meenu who has nothing to do in Singapore . But for whatever mysterious reason as Daddu and family chose not to stay with Anandi , he was feeling the wrongness of it and also feeling guilty himself that at a time when Anandi and kids needed his support the most. he is leaving them alone . So to get himself free of this feeling he is wanting to secure another family's support for Anandi. In a way he is shifting his responsibility on Dsa . This was very mean of him , not shouldering his responsibilities but having guts to order Anandi to follow his decision. 😡

When Daddu asked for DSa's help about Anandi and kids shifting there she obviously could not deny it . And when she discussed with Jagya , he too could not deny it . They both of them obviously could not be comfortable if Anandi has to fend for herself alone and specially when Daddu was asking for their help openly.

Btw Parents always feel skeptical about their kids capabilities of shouldering big responsibilities all alone. It is upto to their kids to give them assurance that they are equal to handle it. We see this every day in our families and around us.

So IMO it was upto Anandi that she wanted to refuse the offer or accept it . With very little resistance she accepted it. It was not that bad if her situation is not complicated with respect to maika/ sasural situation and if this decision is only for a certain time period just to gather her strength again but shifting in BH for always is very regressive IMO.

Sometimes women have to go to their maika in case of any tragedy coz immediately after it they use to low on moral and are not capable of thinking straight at that time but mostly they use to find a best possible solution for situation with time. Staying always in maika with kids with even bhai bhabhi is not a very desirable solution regarding self respect of a woman . From any woman of substance it is not expected at all. Women with little means and skills too sometimes rose to the situation by showing exceptional courage .

So Anandi who still must be having an undying spirit of fighting, who has complete support of Khazan Singh, have few loyal friends in Chanda and company, perhaps no financial crisis too should have decided to stay at her home to give a more free atmosphere to her children or atleast should have decided to move to her own establishment after a time . Ladies sometimes have less than it but prefer to raise their kids all alone.

As for her first priority being searching Nandini and welfare of her remaining kids , shifting Jaitser will not help any of her cause.

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jhansijhansi

@jhansijhansi

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Posted: 11 years ago

#73

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Overnight her life turned upside down

From being happy contented wife bringing up her kid and expecting twins happy with her social service taking care of her inlaws everything she managing quite well

Then her husband dies - family issues still managing quite well had enough courage to hand over details of Anop's business details to the police which does require a lot courage to do

She does that

While helping out a lady due to one bad judgment she pays a heavy price

Which everyone seems to think that she has done a huge mistake

When one is emotionally vulnerable state it is very easy to convince oneself that they are not good anymore

When people like Dsa and Daddu also agree that she is not capable of taking care of her children how is she supposed to argue with them and assure them that she is capable enough when her morale is so low?

I think at this moment her kids welfare and searching for Nandini is more important then her proving to the world she is capable of taking care of herself and her children on her own.They have been searching for the baby for a few months so it is obviously is a priority.

Running away from responsibility or is it bowing down before what appears to be superior wisdom in the interest of her children?

As for her children growing up in Dsa's house - she is going there with her own money she will not be financially dependent on Dsa and I think she got a share of Dsa's property too so her kids will definitely not lack for anything

These points make sense to me.

well said...though anandi moving toBH looks painful and meaningless...still they have few reasons to makes it look reasonable...

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dolly

@tiny15

Stunner

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Posted: 11 years ago

#74

Originally posted by: kikyo
From viewers responses i can see no one is happy to see Anandi in BH Be it AnSh fans , JaGan fans or neutral viewers For 3rd time i am seeing such unity on forum after Sanchi ki kahani , GNN drama 😆

but the prob is that wenever theres unity 4 not showing sum crap track CVs defntly show it & wid full details 4 long time.

and i read the posts and ppl r saying its all abt men vs women but i think its all abt female lead 2 b shown as sufferer 4ever until last epi. its common in all shows.they think mor eteh suffering of female lead more ppl will b trps.sumtime smale lead alos join in this suffering.even in UT they showed leads getting suffered. iccha died but taps enjoyed her life wid her equally cheap hubby. smae happened wid meethi. she was shown not 2 able 2 bcum mother 4ever & ha d 2 adot he r husband & his ex's daughter. yes shes shown wid her hubby but he was criminal suddenly turned luvangel unlike in BV.while mkta whos as cheap & psycho as her mother taps & father was shown having her own son living wid gentle & humble prsn as her husband whom & whos ideals & morals she made fun of. she always did mistake /sins then ask sorry then again did same mistake & shown 2 b remain like this i.e doing same mistakes/sins then asking 4givneness then again back 2 sqaure one & also blaming oders 4he r miseries & cursing oders 4 not being happy if shes not happy

atleats in BV J after redemptn never repeated the mistakes & accepted his own sufferings due 2 his own deeds & din't blame oders.

and there r so many oder shows where u can see leads suffering whether male or female(depends on whether male or female is getting importance. if male is more impt then he"ll suffer or if female is made more impt then female will suffer)

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