Deprivation

A couple of days back I had a discussion with one of my friend ...

would like to get some more ideas from you people

We tend to provide our children every possible thing which we can afford to make their lives as luxurious as possible to eliminate the sense of deprivation from them ..

Is it better to provide each and every luxury ( here I am not talking about basic necessities) or let them realize what the real world is .. for eg let them use public transport while you can provide them a car.. let them save their own pocket money to buy newer version of Ipod etc instead of providing it on first demand etc.

in other words what do you think a little deprivation is infact better in development or not 😊

I am pro little deprivation 😎

I firmly believe that if you provide a child anything s/he wants, they will never learn to value the importance of money. Of course, parents should not be so mean and rigid that they will deprive their kids of something that every one of their age group has. My cousin is in eight grade and all her friends and class mates had cell phones since 6th grade! (Yeah, every single freakin' person 😕). Her parents decided that there was no need for this luxury when the child is 11. And, I think they were right. But thinking about it from the child's perspective, I am sure it hurts them.Not having something that everyone else does may even bring about an inferiority complex. It was just this past month that her parents gifted her a cell on her birthday and the girl is totally euphoric! 😃. I think when it concerns things like this, parents should not be too stern.

And then there are some parents who are ready to spend thousands just to keep their child plump and satisfied. 🤢 I have seen some kids having PlayStation 1 and 2 and also an XBox. Seriously, what's the point?

I am all for kids having to save a bit of money to but their iPods and video games. Parents can help some and kids can contribute some.

No matter how rich one is, you never know when downfall may occur. We had family friends who were rolling in crores and kids were totally spoilt and pampered. They had real estate business and suddenly, some bad deals happened and they lost pretty much everything. It was a complete nightmare keeping the little child happy. So, parents should take full liberty to deprive the child a little (as long as they are not snatching away the necessities). This, in turn, will definitely help the child in the long run.

Totally all has been said by the above 3 for me 😊
Nice posts dewey, Rutu, dammy , tish 👏

I agree with ritu,I think a Skool/Collage going grils/boys should know/learn the value of the money ..parents can show the kid,how to spend n save money,The foundation is importent..If a parents is so lavish n give whatever they want, i think its wrong... 😊

a short story.......old one..

One day a father and his rich family took his young son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose to show him how poor people can be. They spent a day and a night in the farm of a very poor family. When they got back from their trip the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" Very good, Dad!"

"Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked."Yeah!" "And what did you learn?"

The son answered, "I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden, they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the garden, they have the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard, they have a whole horizon.

When the little boy was finishing, his father was speechless. His son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are!" It all depends on the way you look at things? You can have all the material possessions, but if you are poor of spirit, you have nothing!

Originally posted by: guess_gallery

a short story.......old one..

One day a father and his rich family took his young son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose to show him how poor people can be. They spent a day and a night in the farm of a very poor family. When they got back from their trip the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" Very good, Dad!"

"Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked."Yeah!" "And what did you learn?"

The son answered, "I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden, they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the garden, they have the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard, they have a whole horizon.

When the little boy was finishing, his father was speechless. His son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are!" It all depends on the way you look at things? You can have all the material possessions, but if you are poor of spirit, you have nothing!

loved your story. thanks for sharing😊

Rather than deprivation , i would consider explaining how hard money is to make to a child. Then again im more of a pamper kind i guess. We given everything i asked for as a child and we never asked for anything that was asking the parents to strech out. Always had the value of money and what it takes to earn , staying away from the loved ones all day , even weekends, comming from a middle class background a kid knows the value of money , they see how their parents live , etc , a lot of it depends on the parents , it depends on how level headed they are. I turned up okay i think , been given everything i asked for didnt spoil me.

A little deprivation is good for the child. The Royals in England go through grulling regime. A PMs son here in Canada may work at MacDonalds during summer. I have a swim coach friend who tells me that the kids she coaches sometimes tells her that they contribute in the home when they have rich parents.

This teaches a kid values and how not to take things granted. It also helps them lay a foundation for their future and how to appreciate things.

I have had a couple of friends whose family gave them the royal carpet....... guess what? They dropped out of school and became drug addicts.

While this may not be true for all, depriving a child just a little will not harm the child. I can vouch for that as someone who learnt a lot from it.

Cheers 😳

I am of the belief that to teach the importance of something we needn't deprive the person of that.

About importance of money I think each parent has a different method and take. While some will argue and let their children to travel by bus others will buy a car for them. It doesn't mean that the one traveling in bus is going to do great and learn importance of money and the one traveling in car will live a lavish life and become spendthrift. As for cell phones it is not a luxury anymore. It is a means to contact your child with ease. Parent can take such a plan so as to avoid the misuse of cell phones or providing it only when the kid goes to school or somewhere out with friends. While growing up I was not deprived of things. I wouldn't say that I demanded and my wishes were fulfilled in no time but I think I was not deprived. I still turned out well and so does many whom I know. I believe that I can provide best to my child and still teach her the importance of money. A parent can judge what is an unnecessary demand. I believe it is not the things that spoil the kids but depriving parental care does. A parent needs to be there. A parent needs to check what the kid is doing on the net, outside, with the money etc. As a parent keep tab on your child. You are bound to be called sneaky but that is responsible parenting. This is my take on the subject.