Adoption of kids from the same race

If one indeed wants to adopt a child, why choose someone who won't grow up to look like you?

One incident: I used to work in a doctor's office, the doctor was a pediatrician. One day, a white guy came with a child who had East Asian features. The doctor was strict and he usually did not look at little kids without the presence of the parents. So, I told the guy that we need his parents to be here before he can be looked at. The man looked a little flustered and he said, "I am his father."

In one debate, we have had opinions saying the child should not be exposed to the cruel reality of adoption. But by adopting a child who does not look a bit like you, you are making it so very apparent that "Child, I did not give birth to you." What I don't understand is that if there is a choice of adopting someone from the same race, then why not? The parents are looking for a child anyway, so how does it matter if s/he is from the same race and color as they are?

IMHO, it helps the child to fit in better and ensures proper well-being.

Originally posted by: raunaq

justice to the kid? i think the best justice to the kid is that he/she is adopted, if the kid can realize the racial difference, then obviously he/she will work around on getting the answer to this and would eventually find out that the kid is adopted and i dont think kid would throw tantrums on getting adopted.

The child didnt ask the parents to adopt him/her and nor are the parents doing any favour on the child. If the parents are providing the child with a nice home, family, protection and love then the child will also bring the parents alot of happiness in return. Adoption is a two way thing just like any other relationship in the world...and it's not a relationship if it doesnt go both ways..

I feel mixed race adoptions are very unfair to the child...because family is supposed to be your biggest strength and support but once the child grows up he/she will feel like an outsider in his own family....but there are always exceptions I guess :)

I agree with rutmodi 😳

Originally posted by: Supergirl7

The child didnt ask the parents to adopt him/her and nor are the parents doing any favour on the child. If the parents are providing the child with a nice home, family, protection and love then the child will also bring the parents alot of happiness in return. Adoption is a two way thing just like any other relationship in the world...and it's not a relationship if it doesnt go both ways..

I feel mixed race adoptions are very unfair to the child...because family is supposed to be your biggest strength and support but once the child grows up he/she will feel like an outsider in his own family....but there are always exceptions I guess :)

I agree with rutmodi 😳

Originally posted by: raunaq

oh Gosh!!! ek to neki bhi karo upar se taane bhi suno, well any orphan, go ask any orphan who doesnt have parents, how does it feel like to be without parents. isnt it enough that the kid is getting the love of parent, be it from any race? i dont know why the racial issue has to come in between unnecessarily. i have heard stories of people who have gone out of their way adopting kids from those small islands which 90% of the population dont even know that such places exist. any orphan wont ask such question. if this india-forum exists and if we exist to communicate, then bring me such case a where you would find an adopted kid questioning the parents, why did you adopt me, why didnt you leave me in an orphanage, then i would change my thoughts, i have heard stories of people raised in orphanages, some of the orphans are psychologically affected that they fear telling those stories to their own kids. i doubt any orphans would create such a scene after knowing that they are orphans.

thats the problem with society, racial difference is in the minds of people and they indirectly inculcate it in the minds of kids, thus giving further problems. if we stop questioning petty issues, this world would have been a better place LONG TIME AGO.

Originally posted by: rutumodi915

<span>Arey Raunaq .. galat samjhe aap! I agree with what Tish and QT said, that usually different race adoptions happen in third world countries and I am OKAY with that. What I am saying is, that if you have a choice of adopting either your race or different race, why try being exotic? </span><span> </span><br><br><span>Of course, the fact that they are given a home is a big thing but if they could give home to someone who will feel more at home, then why not?</span>

Originally posted by: raunaq

my reply was to supergirl7s statement: "The child didnt ask the parents to adopt him/her and nor are the parents doing any favour on the child". now the answer to your statement, why go to exotic places? let me give an example of non desis, have you ever seen non desis bowled over by indian food, japanese sushi, chinese fashion? everyone has their own choice, why we should question their choice? some like fair and some like dark, who are we to question? 😊 .

Adoption of kids from different race happens only in developed countries. All the cases I have seen in India, people prefer to adopt an Indian kid and try as much to hide the fact too so that the kid grows up to be one of them. In India if it is known to many then kids get the adopted tag quite often. But in US I rarely see that case. I was once amused when a Asian girl introduced to her Caucasian mom and the mom spoke about her 3 children as if all were her biological children whereas only 2 were her own and this one was adopted. Most of the kids are not tagged under adopted. So it becomes easier for them to adjust to the family even when they realize that they are from a different race because of the society. So I don't have a problem with people adopting from anywhere.