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Originally posted by: skanda12
Jyoti, this is a very insightful post on all the characters. You have caught the key points of their personalities perfectly!👏But see here there's one topic that really made me think. We know that Vikram hates "doormat" women and likes his own non-nonsense Naani because she is not your typical doormat.As for Shobha, there were two seemingly conflicting advices she got yesterday. Her mother said "stay in the marriage and don't rake up issues" while her friend said "accept the truth of what's happened and move on". It seems as if the mother is telling her to be a "doormat" while the friend is telling her to be the opposite.But if you see both advices are actually asking her to be a doormat only, because it is not really the opposite of a doormat to walk out of the marriage either!Here I feel Vikram may be the only one telling Shobha "Neither should you stay and be silent nor should you walk out. To be a non-doormat, you have to stay in the marriage but fight the man. Take him to court and strip him of every naya paisa. Put up a fight for rights and don't let him slip off the hook so easily. Do you have the guts to fight him tooth and nail to avenge your self-esteem?"And in return I think Shobha will say to him "What you are asking me to do, why did you not do yourself in your relationship? Why did you let your woman slip off easily and why did you not put up a fight and try to make her see what you are trying to make me see? In a way you too have been a doormat if you walked away from something instead of getting what you wanted by putting up a good fight with life!"I think this story may not be the superficial idea of what is commonly considered a doormat ... I think these two people will be forced to question the idea of what is really a doormat and see that neither 'staying silent" nor "walking out" is a sign of strength. Staying in a situation and fighting it is also an option and it may be more difficult than walking out and pretending you are not a doormat!Don't know if I made sense here?
Mansi u made perfect sense 😃 .. thats a fab take on what might happen in future assuming Vikram had a past relation too with some girl who might hv betrayed him 🤔
U made a very interesting point about Usha here .. yup indirectly she too asked Shobha to just accept and move on instead of fighting for her rights .. If Usha had asked Shobha to divorce the guy and ask for alimony by stripping him off in court as thats what he deserves , then we can say ok as a woman thats the right advice one can give to a friend but in this case though Usha helped Shobha in coming out of her denial but she actually asked her indirectly to keep quiet and accept it all as part of her life .. Mayb she was more direct compare to her mother but it was more or less same advice .. u do hv a point here 👍🏼
Mayb thats one reason why Vikram's words left more of an impact on Shobha compare to Usha or her mom's words .. When Vikram spoke about how women r doormats and lacks that fighting spirit .. they just quietly accept it all ... thats when Shobha decides to find the truth .. so what Usha or her Mom could not do , Vikram managed to do it ...
But hving said that its also right in a way that if Vikram in the past was betrayed by some women , why dint he go around fighting for it .. Why was he quiet then and now stereotyping or venting out his frustration on all women .. Of course we r assuming this bit but if its true then Shobha in future will definitely counterattack Vikram on this and it will b interesting to see their banter on this subject of doormat .. its not just women who r doormats .. Men too can b at times 😛😆
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