What do the kids want? Who cares?

Hello all,

Just wondering if we all are thinking from the POV of the kids. I am not trying to debate who is a better person or will be a better influence on the kids.

Based on what we have seen so far -

1. Bani's kids were snatched from her at a tender age of .5 days (based on what was shown).
2. They say the biggest bond between a mother and a child is the mother's milk. In this case the JB kids did not get to experience this bond
3. Instead they found a mother in Rano (dadi and masi maybe but no concrete evidence). And they always had their father's love and affection, despite him being in a slump or watever. So to them so far the parents have been Jai and Rano.
4. However, they were raised to know their mom. I am guessing that Jai/Rano did the needful so that they could always know their mom, if not meet her. This is also evident from the fact they they recognized Bani and accepted her without questions asked.
5. But someone has been doing the opposite. Atharva once asked if Bani did not love them (someone mentioned something to him I am guessing) and hence left them when they were small.

Based on this my conclusion is that the only stable factors in the childrens lives so far have been Rano and Jai. For kids aged 5, will it be okay to be suddenly moved from this known environment to another which completely unknown to them. Is it fair to the kids?

We are all discussing what environment will be good for the kids to grow up? AD's house or WM? But the fact remains none is better than the other. Personally, the kids grew up to this age just fine in WM. Also, there exists a bond (irrespective of the nature of it) between the kids and the habitants of WM.

We are dicussing who the kids should stay with? Jai or Bani or Both? Agreed, from the current scenario, it will be one or the other. (I see bleak chances of JB together for the time being.) But what do the kids want? Isn't it a medical belief that for a growing child, the influence of both parents and a stable household is necessary.

I am not trying to argue ADs ability of being a surrogate/adoptive parent. I have not seem his "parental" skills. But I have seen JW's and I can say for sure that he has been a competent father so far.

Bani is just learning to be a mother (I wish just giving birth made you a mother - prime example Pia or Jigs). And she is still trying to create the bond between herself and the kids. In this scenario, would it be right for such young kids to be removed from their familiar settings to a new setting? One where they barely know anyone and are still learning to cope with the existence of their real mother.

I sometimes wonder if Bani is thinking like a mother or as the woman who was deceived by her husband and had her babies snatched or just as Durga? Yes she wants to take revenge from JW and I am all in support, but would she be unknowingly hurting the kids in this process? Will she as a mother, being doing what is best for her kids?

But again, this is drama so I guess it is okay to revenge urself by doing unto others what they did to you. Who cares what the effects on the innocents are?

I for one was always taught that if you do what someone did to you, you are worse since you are doing it despite knowing the aftereffects and the sufferings.😕

Dont you think at this point both JW and DDG/BD/BW/whoever she is needs to start thinking of what binds them even today? Think of what they would need rather than their own personal needs?

Rivs

Dont you think that is too sickening...I am sure the "masses" want to now see how to oppress small impressionable kids...

Fantastic...i hate the "masses" sometimes...
Rivs

But do you actually believe that Bani/DDG really cares for the kids? She's been so brainwashed, the kids are her ultimate tool to destroy JW and she will play that card by this week, I'm sure. She will not think beyond her need for revenge, and yet she claims to be a mother!!

She will take the kids away from their stable environment because she can't think for herself and put them in danger with a dangerous psychopath. The kids will be a constant link to JW that AD can't afford and they will pay the price. And just wait and watch the "Its your fault Mr. Walia" to come out because she has never learnt to take responsibility for her actions.

M2C

rivs at present bani is blinded by her hatred and anger and i do not blame her..she is not thinking like a mother but as u said like a woman from whom her babies were snatched...for her to realize the bond the kids share with their father and the rest will be when she removes them from walia mansion ...only then will she suddenly start thinking like a mother ...not till then...when kids start demanding their father

Originally posted by: rajkona

But do you actually believe that Bani/DDG really cares for the kids? She's been so brainwashed, the kids are her ultimate tool to destroy JW and she will play that card by this week, I'm sure. She will not think beyond her need for revenge, and yet she claims to be a mother!!

See that is what I have been feeling too. In all her revenge plans, she seems to have forgotten an essential part of motherhood. I mean even animals are better arent they, they think of their kids once in a while.

Currently more than just a tool, I think Bani considers the kids some sort of property, something she and JW can play tug of war about...

She will take the kids away from their stable environment because she can't think for herself and put them in danger with a dangerous psychopath. The kids will be a constant link to JW that AD can't afford and they will pay the price. And just wait and watch the "Its your fault Mr. Walia" to come out because she has never learnt to take responsibility for her actions.

M2C

Lol...I am sure we will see a repeat of I did all this coz of what u did to me...but as I was told that eventually AD's entry is also JW's fault.

Why did u take birth Mr Walia? I wish mama Walia had checked ur horoscope and strangled you at birthtime, I mean that would be the ultimate this a mother can do...save their child from a lifetime of torture...lol (I dont know where all my negativity is coming from today)

Rivs

Originally posted by: sun29

rivs at present bani is blinded by her hatred and anger and i do not blame her..she is not thinking like a mother but as u said like a woman from whom her babies were snatched...for her to realize the bond the kids share with their father and the rest will be when she removes them from walia mansion ...only then will she suddenly start thinking like a mother ...not till then...when kids start demanding their father

So seeing the kids wither away in an unfamiliar surrounding is going to be an ultimate eye opener???? I sure hope so...

Rivs the kids are collatoral damage. That's why they have two. I am sure we will be fed some really gross stuff with the kids, never fear. NB is the most sadistic person.

Originally posted by: m3ghna

Rivs the kids are collatoral damage. That's why they have two. I am sure we will be fed some really gross stuff with the kids, never fear. NB is the most sadistic person.

Now you just scared me...

Currently more than just a tool, I think Bani considers the kids some sort of property, something she and JW can play tug of war about...

Exactly - and the strings are being pulled by AD. The other consistency I have seen in BT serials is the death of children in some form or the other. So I dont think its too farfetched to see a scenario where one of the kids dies and AD manages to blame JW for it and Bani believes it.

All this time we have screamed ourselves hoarse that JW can't be redeemed for all his evils but he is truly turning into a saint compared to Bani who claims to be a mother and yet will use her own kids as a tool..

wow...you guys talking about killing kids is getting a little sickening to me...
I mean...how gross can things be...but I guess in the real world kids die due to parents negligence...and hence it OK to show on TV... 🤢
Rivs