ZGH 12 th Episode , Zaroon : Double Standard .

12 th Episode

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66Xff3TeQKo[/YOUTUBE]

For sometime i was thinking , looking at Zaroon , does he have double standard . One for him and that does not for the other person . Asmara , he already knew has lots of friends and he also hanged with them . The day she got engaged , she became his property that he can dictate what she should do or not . Zaroon has seen his family while growing up where mother has her own ways and father never stopped her . Perhaps now after getting engaged to Asmara , he does not want a life like his father . Infact some one was sitting with me and just pointed out the Zaroon has double standards . But in real life i have seen boys like Zaroon getting conservative in their thinking sometimes . So whats your take on Zaroon


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Zaroon visits parents back home. Sara is curious to know why zaroon & asmara are not on talking terms, he informs it's the same problem as farhan & her. sara is clueless of what zaroon is trying to say. Kashaf is surprised at herself , how slowly she is losing her faith on god & people around her. Later, we see Kashaf pass her exams with flying colors, she is one of the top rated
student in CSS. Hammad brings in the news of Kashaf clearing her exams, Nigar & murtaza are Surprised, Murtaza is happy at the prospects of kashaf becoming an Assistant commissioner.
Meanwhile, Zaroon is surprised to hear Asmara has gone to Dubai with her friends for a show, Zaroon is upset to know this, earlier too Asmara didn't inform him. Back home, murtaza visits rafia, to congratulate on kashaf s success and her selection, we see a sea change in behavior of murtaza, kashaf hates him all the more. Rafia is upset with kashaf's behavior, but kashaf is not
apologetic of it, since she notices this change only after murtaza came to know of her success.
Farhan confesses to zaroon, he loves sara but he is unwilling to take stress of her so called independence , freedom. She is indifferent towards his expectations, just concerned with her freedom. Zaroon requests his mother to speak with sara & make her understand importance of husband and married life. Asmara come back from dubai , mother informs zaroon called when she was away. Sir abrar is ecstatic to know kashaf s success, kashaf feels sir abrar is like her father,
which she never had. She owes her success to his guidance and support. Sara decides to divorce farhaan. Rafia informs kashaf, murtaza has offered help by dropping her to Lahore, however she refuses it. Asmara & Zaroon have a heated argument about Zaroon ignoring her. Zaroon makes it clear that this relationship can only work if she starts giving importance to him and this
relationship. He expresses his displeasure on her frequent outgoings with friends rather than with her family.

Actually I dont feel its being double standard.. I think its Conservative. Zaroon to me cums across as a character who draws boundries solely for the sake of his loved onez! Ok for one, Asmara was at fault here. First she didnt tell him about her concert outing. I agree that they used to hang out together but now She is engaged. Simple fact is that even If I wud have such a conservative Fiance, I wud have called him atleast to tell him.. If not that then msgd him or even that is not possible.. I wud have informed my mum to tell him about my outing or agar wo bhi nhi toh atleast I wud have informed him on the way or whatsoever.. And returning at 2 in the night is not safe.. Be It India Or Pskistan. My parents wont allow it let alone him. She informed him after cuming back and during her another outing she didnt inform him at all..!! Zaroon was right she wud have atleast msgd him.. Marriage is a respomsibilty and being engaged is the first step towards same.. So she has to keep sum responsibilty towards him na?

In some review somewhere, someone had commented tht the background frm where Zaroon came, he had 2 choices whn it came to his relationship wid his wife/ fiance. One was to be like his dad and meekly accept whtever his wife does or else to be the one to dictate terms nd he chose d latter. Also knowing where he comes from, I don't definitely condone his double standards, but can empathize wid him.

Maybe he feels dat coz his father doesnot say anything and he also saw dat in case of his sister's husband Farhan, the females take undue advantage of tht and hence he was not going to have any of tht where his relationship wid his wife was concerned.

BTW I was reading the review of the novel and it seems in d show we hv a very refined and toned down version of a very chauvinistic nd double standard Zaroon.

OK this double standard views of some guy sitting with me while i was watching . But i myself do not think he has double standards . He is concerned where its his own . He does not like Sara staying so late and he rightly said about people gossiping where a girl is concerned . And asmara has already told him when she got engaged that she will not like anyone interfering in her life style after marriage . When you think of Zaroon ,s psyche , he wants healthy home where wife is there for him . He is not rigid but wants some limitations . He yearns for a home where mother is there for children which he and sara were deprived of . Just if you listen to his thoughts and his conversation with Kashaf when both are having dinner outside after marriage , he honestly told her that he does not want mute cow but a woman of substance , with strenth of character . Zaroon is very much clear in his thoughts later on when he goes to Sir Abrar for Kashaf .
Just wanted to read some opinion and knew will get the same response . Any girl will be lucky to have Zaroon kind of life partner , where he shed his ego and handled Kashaf,s insecurities with patience and love .