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For almost 2 months now I have been interacting on this forum and for the weeks gone by till now, I have been noticing something and I have remained silent, not making any statements on what I was noticing but the time has come now for me to speak because it's getting ridiculous/out of hand.The forum is becoming very conflicting, disharmonized, disruptive and contentious in the form of posts/comments between the 2 fan groups, it's turning into an all out war with each fan going after each other in defending their two favourite actresses. I've read posts/comments by members who are in no way commenting on the actresses in a negative light but due to the way the posts/comments are viewed and interpreted it fuels the emotions which are kicked into high gear and then the battle begins. I know there are many other posts regarding this whole bashing thing, calling for peace and normalcy to the forum but it seems like it's flying over people's head because people are still engaging in the war of words.

Is it so hard for the forum to have healthy discussions without the fighting and the bickering? Why is it that we can't apply the adage of agree to disagree, minus the harsh words? I'm telling you, it's becoming very disheartening for me to be seeing all these bashing going on between the two fan groups that I think my time here is about to end because I don't like conflict and confusion and I refuse to be a part of such turmoil.

Comment if you want but please no bashing, don't turn the post into a battle ground, it wasn't made so that people can start fighting with each other. Make your contributions and try to say it graciously, what you say is important but it's equally important how you say it. Think before you speak/comment and stop being so highly driven by emotions, remember words can't be taken back once they have been said. Thanks for reading and love to all.

It's sheer madness out here now and no joy to be around. Earlier, there was only one common enemy and that was the cvs.

Now. it's a free for all and it is utterly bitter and demeaning.

Hate what has happened to a once tranquil forum.

I certainly agree with u throughout ur post...

People, I have only one thing to say u can make comments about the story and all (u know the limits) but avoid any forming of bashing.inclusive of harsh words...because it doesn't show how great u are...it simply shows ur language..u can disagree with someone's opinion or comment at the same time u put ur opinion or comment without any harsh words...

If the other person does use any harsh words or comments in a bad tone..u too don't need to put in ur views in the same tone..otherwise there will be null difference between u and that person..

PS: It is just my pov not necessary to agree with...

PPS: I'm not directing at anyone..

Right. Is it so hard to ignore, or not to defend. Because right now it is useless to defend or even to explain our own viewpoint. No discussion/communication is complete till it is understood in the same sense by the other person. But right now it is impossible to have that kind of communication. So just ignore inciting comments, even if we feel like defending our own favourite, even Rachana! Things and goals are much wider and bigger than these small fights. This forum of love has to be maintained that way, even if it means ignoring! Fighting is useless right now.

Originally posted by: _green_

I certainly agree with u throughout ur post...

People, I have only one thing to say u can make comments about the story and all (u know the limits) but avoid any forming of bashing.inclusive of harsh words...because it doesn't show how great u are...it simply shows ur language..u can disagree with someone's opinion or comment at the same time u put ur opinion or comment without any harsh words...

If the other person does use any harsh words or comments in a bad tone..u too don't need to put in ur views in the same tone..otherwise there will be null difference between u and that person..

PS: It is just my pov not necessary to agree with...

PPS: I'm not directing at anyone..

You made good points Agu. Yes people should comment on the story and the characters, yes they can disagree but they don't have to be mean in their words. Yes there will be no difference between them and the person if they choose to answer back in the same manner/language. Harsh words stir up anger but a gently response turns away anger.

The forum is disturbed since 2 weeks.

Originally posted by: erikalui

The forum is disturbed since 2 weeks.

Earlier I used to make fun posts without any fear but nowadays, I need to add disclaimers so that no one is offended 😆

I have no clue till when this will continue and so am praying for EMA to end soon and then this forum will be archived and no one can post here even if they want 😆😆😆

I'm telling you, it's ridiculous the level at which it is reaching. It's like people have to choose their words cautiously and wisely as to not to offend anybody. I'm telling you, I'm also afraid to say anything 😆 because people are literally taking every word that is said to heart. I used to have so much fun when I first came here but now it's like I want to leave pronto.

Clearly!! Some ppl are not mature enough to know what's right and what's wrong!! Each have their opinion! Sure! But use your upstairs to do the right thing! Comment yes!! But understand and show consideration always!! Be conscious when writing! Do not offend!! One must know wat offends others!! Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!!

Very true .. I agree we are disappointed, but there is nothing that can happen, we just need to move on.. CVs never listened before so the will not change the track. .. This is new new EMA and everyone has to accept it as it will not change .. and that's is the fact,

Originally posted by: pippa

It's sheer madness out here now and no joy to be around. Earlier, there was only one common enemy and that was the cvs.

Now. it's a free for all and it is utterly bitter and demeaning.

Hate what has happened to a once tranquil forum.

Exactly, you can feel the negativity sucking the joy out of the forum, it's getting very discouraging to be around here anymore for me. The forum seems to going off course and heading in another direction which is not healthy for either one of us.