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rtms

@rtms

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#21

grt post.wt ever u hv said is right,specially the last point-this kind of marriage needs to face ths type of challenge.its so real.loved the episode for DivAn's excellent performance.this phase is needed in ishra's life.hp raman will learn lesson frm this mistake.am sure even ishita will see things frm a diff view once somthing like this or other happens.this is bringing ishra more close to each other through the pain they r undergoing.

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MERARAI

@MERARAI

Stunner

Posted: 11 years ago

#22

Whatever Raman and Ishra are going through...the breakdown is due to lack of communication. Ishu gave him so many chances to tell him, as a friend, confide him in (the happiest of marriages is when couples talk to each other, don't keep secrets, accept and appreciate each other, root for each other to do the best in whatever they pursue).

Wonder if Raman's "I"m helpless" also that he wants Adi to be cared the same way Ruhi is being nurtured by Ishu. He knows Adi talks rudely to Ishu, forced her to apologize, and he is being left home alone and he deserves better. He wants Adi living with his family but with Shagun having custody of him and the extent to which she has poisoned his mind he doesn't know how to find a solution. There is helplessness there too.

But whatever Ishu said today was right on👏. She's got the recipe for a happy marriage but one person alone can't get there if the other still reacts based on the past failures. It was real in how she expressed where she saw herself going in their marriage. If he can't open up and have the courage to share the truth with her she wants none of the grief he's dishing out to her and the innocent members of his family. Everyone sees he's really in a bind but he's too proud and scared to ask for help. How does one get over the helplessness if he refuses to ask for help or take it when offered? Ishu even told him many times she'll support him in everything to do with his children, Adi too, but he didn't trust her as much as she does him.

Adi didn't like Ishu during the shopping trip but when she showed him she was the adult and he was the child he toed the line. He needs someone like Bala to show him how to be a decent man. Right now, Raman needs to sort himself out before he can really guide his son into adulthood. He would be a lousy role model if he continued this way.

Raman has to walk through the fire and leave all the poison from his marriage to Shagun or he's going to make Ishu pay for it the next time Shagun pushes his emotional buttons. This is a huge wake up call for Raman to sort his priorities out and ask himself some real tough questions if he wants a real marriage with Ishu and a strong bond with Ruhi. Ruhi will be impacted by the way he deals with Ishu in their marriage. Ruhi dadima, notices a whole lot so Raman needs to think of the effect his behavior has on Ruhi.

Edited by MERARAI - 11 years ago

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Elita

@Elita

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

#23

Glad you wrote it Shakti... you have analysed the hurt and pain of Raman & Ishita well.

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divya17.8

@divya17.8

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 11 years ago

#24

Awesome post... Completely agree...👍🏼

Raman's pain was so visible.. Raman's emotional breakdown was so difficult to see.. I couldnt stop myself from crying seeing raman in this state..😭 😭 😭

And what do i say about karan.. He is jus superb.. Actully superb is also a very small word to describe his acting.. Karan..👏 👏 👏 👏

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JazzyM

@JazzyM

Rocker

Posted: 11 years ago

#25

Awesome post yar! I liked the fact that even in her turmoil, complete break down, Ishita still wanted to protect Raman - she asked him to enter that house and there was no need to broadcast his misdeed to the sundry. Even in hurt, she protects her family. That's where the difference is, Raman is not her blood but she protects him. I guess, when women marry, it's the relationhsip that counts

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Reina

@Reina1

Navigator

Posted: 11 years ago

#26

Amazing post (Shakti, I gather your name is). I agree with both points. I like your emphasis on Raman sort of needing approval from Ishita now. I don't think she is his life, not yet, that spot is still defended strongly by Aditya, but she is important nonetheless. There are a lot of questions in Ishita's mind that begin with 'WHY'. But I feel that they have dug a pretty big hole for Raman's character. WE see his inner turmoil and guilt. But that does not correct the things he has done. A simple sorry will not suffice now.

But I do agree, that the foundation of a relationship is made stronger with turbulence. Iron must be tempered in heat to become stronger. This will be good, because now they will both fully understand each other's worth. This is not 'Ruhi ke liye' they are not bonded by simply that thread now. This will make them both realize that what they have gotten themselves into is much more than just a marriage of convenience.