why doesnt paro understand?

I get that whatever she is doing is to bring mother and son back together (even the whole negativity act) but doesnt she understand the pain that mala and dilsher have put him through. Why doesnt she question them and lecture and tell them that they did with rudra was wrong. Why dont she tell them to ask for rudras forgiveness instead of forcing rudra to reconcile with his parents. I get that she cant say anything to mala because she treated her like a daughter and all that blah blah. But doesnt she understand that the only reason she got a mothers love is because rudra didnt get his mothers love. All that love she got from childhood is what rudra was deprived off in his childhood that why its so easy for to say that mala is her mother and take her side, she hasnt been on the receiving end of the pain and poison that rudra was on. Why is it that in the end the male lead is somehow always forced by the female lead or convinced by the female to move on and forget all the bad that people have put them through, and then showing the female lead getting all the credit for 'changing' the male lead. This is stubbornness. Why should rudra give into paros stubborness. Doesnt paro understand rudras pain why is she only understanding malas pain? This whole mahaanta act is tiring now.!!!!! And it really irritates me everday now when i watch the episode this whole stubborness of paro. Showing a few childhood memories and reminding him of them doesnt erase the pain that rudra has been through.