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AyeshaKt

@AyeshaKt

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Posted: 11 years ago

hi all new to this forum and not a fan of the individual characters but rather a regular serial hugger.

So i saw on another topic, everyone was blaming gunjan for her outburst and how she was inscecure, mentally ill etc.

but having been in similar situations I can definitely sayy she was correct

veera interferes a bit too much (even gunjan said, she does not even knock before entering their bedroom!) and ranvi sees veera as the most important thing on his life

if he chose to be this way, he should not have married at all and spoilt a woman's life who has to compromise with his sister her whole life.

that day, ranvi yelled alot at her because of veera

then even in the b'day episode, he yelled at gunjan and told her to shut up and not utter a word against Veera

I Mean, if your wife is not the most important to you then the marriage is not going to work.

I Don't know how it works in India because I have seen most of the ladies here defending Ranvi but in the US, Husband and wife are the most important in each other's life and there is no way an adult sister should be in-between.

I Mean Veera is like 22 , She IS old enough to understand.

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Princessxyz

@Princessxyz

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Posted: 11 years ago

Hey 😊
First of all, welcome to the forum 😃
I disagree with your point actually , in a marital relation both the husband and the wife HAS to compromise , no matter what.
Ranvi hasn't destroyed Gunjan's life IMO , he has given her the love which she had yearned for years.
And if you're aware of the first few months of post leap Veera you must be knowing about the things Gunjan had done to defame Ranvi as well as Veera.
It's Gunjan who had tried to destroy RanVeera's lives.
Instead of being thankful to Ranvi's family for accepting her even after what she had done , Gunjan insulted the daughter of that house for no particular reason.
She herself had turned all this into a competition. And comjng to the latter where you said that Veera interferes in Ranjan's lives , IMO it's Ranvi who involves Veera in everything and NOT Veera.
Lastly, it's Gunjan who needs to understand RanVeera's relation I guess. She claims that she loves Ranvi , but loving someone also means to love their loved ones too which clearly Gunjan is not doing.
Just expressing my opinion 😳 stay active here 😃

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AyeshaKt

@AyeshaKt

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: Princessxyz
Hey 😊
First of all, welcome to the forum 😃
I disagree with your point actually , in a marital relation both the husband and the wife HAS to compromise , no matter what.
Ranvi hasn't destroyed Gunjan's life IMO , he has given her the love which she had yearned for years.
And if you're aware of the first few months of post leap Veera you must be knowing about the things Gunjan had done to defame Ranvi as well as Veera.
It's Gunjan who had tried to destroy RanVeera's lives.
Instead of being thankful to Ranvi's family for accepting her even after what she had done , Gunjan insulted the daughter of that house for no particular reason.
She herself had turned all this into a competition. And comjng to the latter where you said that Veera interferes in Ranjan's lives , IMO it's Ranvi who involves Veera in everything and NOT Veera.
Lastly, it's Gunjan who needs to understand RanVeera's relation I guess. She claims that she loves Ranvi , but loving someone also means to love their loved ones too which clearly Gunjan is not doing.
Just expressing my opinion 😳 stay active here 😃

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but that is the past and If Ranvi married her, her past definitely does not bother him\

as for Ranvi giving love to Gunjan, Gunjan is a human being, it is not okay to say just because someone did not got parents's love, they should settle for whatever comes their way, nobody deserves to be treated as second-class citizens, Ranvi is like the typical Indian guy for which sister,mother comes first then there is the night-loving and roti-making second class citizen called wife

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Mandy

@MrDarcyfan

Stunner

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Posted: 11 years ago

One question? Did you create this ID just to come here and defend Gunjan?

Yeah she is right! After you get married, only YOU have rights over your husband. Everybody else needs to get permission from you to speak to him? Right??

I am married too, and I find Gunjan overbearing and irrational. She is blaming Veera for issues she has with HER husband. Ranvi is the issue. Not Veera. She is just jealous of Veera. That is why she said all those things!!

I wont even bother talking about her. She is truly not worth it!! Such women are only good for going into houses and breaking them! So possessive and controlling! But I guess that is what some people perceive as normal and acceptable behaviour!! To abuse your sister in law and want to throw her out of the house is what ALL married women need to aspire to!!

Great!!

Edited by MrDarcyfan - 11 years ago

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Princessxyz

@Princessxyz

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: AyeshaKt

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but that is the past and If Ranvi married her, her past definitely does not bother him\

as for Ranvi giving love to Gunjan, Gunjan is a human being, it is not okay to say just because someone did not got parents's love, they should settle for whatever comes

their way, nobody deserves to be treated as second-class citizens, Ranvi is like the typical Indian guy for which sister,mother comes first then there is the night-loving and roti-making second class citizen called
wife

Thanks for your reply Ayesha 😳

Gunjan is not an innocent person , her troubled childhood doesn't justify all her actions , she very well knows the bond that Ratan and RanVeera share ( they had a very tragic past) still she wants Ranvi all for herself. Neither is Ranvi perfect nor Gunjan , they both need to communicate instead of romancing all the time. Why is Veera being blamed ?!
Gunjan hasn't even felt guilty about telling Veera the truth. Has she apologized ? Did she tell Ranvi about this ?
Gunjan's marital relation is not okay right ? The only way Gunjan can fix that is to accept Ranvi's loved ones , and if she can't do that she's not a good wife or daughter in-law.
The Sampooran family is giving Gunjan her due importance IMO.
Whatever Gunjan had done in the past is unforgivable and it's high time now she and uses her grey matter to sort things out rather than being jealous of her sister in-law.

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AyeshaKt

@AyeshaKt

Beginner

Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: MrDarcyfan
One question? Did you create this ID just to come here and defend Gunjan?

Yeah she is right! After you get married, only YOU have rights over your husband. Everybody else needs to get permission from you to speak to him? Right??

I am married too, and I find Gunjan overbearing and irrational. She is blaming Veera for issues she has with HER husband. Ranvi is the issue. Not Veera. She is just jealous of Veera. That is why she said all those things!!

I wont even bother talking about her. She is truly not worth it!! Such women are only good for going into houses and breaking them! So possessive and controlling! But I guess that is what some people perceive as normal and acceptable behaviour!! To abuse your sister in law and want to throw her out of the house is what ALL married women need to aspire to!!

Great!!

hi I do not think it is any of your buisness as to why I felt the need to make an account

and second off, I am not interested to know if your married or single, I came here to share my opinion on ranvi-gunjan and not hear about your life.

And your just a privileged person sitting infront of a computer wasting hours and hours and thinking all women have privileges like you do.

Gunjan has no privacy at all, Veera even enters their bedroom without knocking, that's just disgusting

right over others is one thing and invading privacy is quite the other and I DO NOT want to hear about Gunjan's past or future,I am talking about the present, it is Ranvi's fault he married her knowing her past, but now that he married her, he simple cannot devote is time all to Veera and not acknowledge he has a wife

I Mean Veera is 22! That is more than an adult for God's sake! No need to dot over her like a child,

And I am blaming Ranvi here not Veera

and accepting his family, she is not a good daughter in law,why does she need to be a good daughter in law?

Ratan has never accepted Bansuri , but nobody points at her, it is always the woman who has to accept everything, right?

and I don't want to hear opinions from privileged married people who waste 8-9 hours on forums and think everyone else has the same kind of lives, get real, Gunjan is nothing but a ''wife'' they bought for Ranvi's ''needs'' and to make rotis.

and yeah right, everyone who speaks the truth or how they feel is ''jealous''. that way even you are jealous of Gunjan, am I right?

Edited by AyeshaKt - 11 years ago

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Muna

@DazzilerDizzy

Inactive

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Posted: 11 years ago

Welcome to the forum dear :)

But sorry, NO matter how ppl will justify G I will still not agree coz G has NO right to yell at veera especially with those lame excuses! Just my POV :)

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.driftingaway

@.driftingaway

Sparkler

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Posted: 11 years ago

Well I don't know about the US and India, but here in the UK if someone did have an epic meltdown like Gunjan did, they'd perhaps end up sectioned in a psychiatric hospital, due to fears of them possibly causing physical harm to themselves or another person. in Gunjan's case all her anger was misdirected towards Veera. Her problem is with Ranvi and she used Veera as her punching bag. Not only was Gunjan verbally abusing Veera but she was also being hostile and acting aggressively...Honestly she looked manic and unstable to me! And clearly she regrets nothing. That's definitely not normal or acceptable behaviour in my view.

She is not a child and she could have gotten her views across in a more rational manner.

Also Ranvi and Gunjan live in a JOINT family. If she wants to be the centre of his attention 24/7 then, she needs to move out of the SS home with him. When you live in a joint family, understandbly lack of privacy can sometimes become an issue. But the SS family has always been mindful of the fact that ranJan need 'alone' time. The one time I have seen Veera go to RanJan's room, she made sure to knock and asked Ranvi if she could come in. Please revisit that scene!

No I don't think Gunjan was right and her outburst was uncalled for. That is not what a grown ass woman would be expected to do. She had no right to treat Veera like that and to make all those senseless and petty allegations against her. I don't know how Veera has taken away everything from G, do you? And do you really think V has been plotting and planning since she was a child? Or that she was unhappy with RanJan's marriage when she worked so hard to get them back together in the 1st place?

The problem with G is that she's too posessive over Ranvi, and behaves obsessively.

Edited by Khaleesi - 11 years ago

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fullhouse

@fullhouse

Explorer

Posted: 11 years ago

The showmakers too showed that Gunjan was right.. In yesterday's episode, whatever Chaiji said to Ranvi clearly shows that Gunjan has all the right to be angry with him and Veera... It doesn't matter what Veera or Ranvi did for her earlier.. This time she's right

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springkissed

@springkissed

Dazzler

+ 3

Posted: 11 years ago

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Thank you for this post! I'm actually new to this forum, too. Not completely a regular watcher, but I have been sort of watching here and there recently. and I'm kind of baffled by some of the strong reactions against gunjun in this forum, I mean her reaction was a bit over the top, but all in all pretty understandable. I think she even burst out like that because she prepared for that birthday with alot of expectations on how ranvi's birthday was going to go down for the two of them, I guess it was something special for her as a wife? (I'm pretty sure, for couples the first birthday is pretty important).

and the times I have seen, idk it seemed like ranvi sort of gave more importance to his sister than his wife?! I absolutely adore brother/sister relationships and even more so, when they are close even after the marriage and do not forget each other, but there is a time and place for everything. As a husband, I think it is his duty to make her feel like she matters just as much as veera matters in his life, so in the times that it really counts, he has to show that to her. and birthday was an important occasion to sort of verify her such place in ranvi's life for gunjun I guess. It wasn't just the preparation, rather the underlying right she has as his wife that she felt was taken away by veera. (or haqq, in hindi).

However, I do think the reaction was a bit overboard and little too strong, but for the most part I agreed and sympathized with her. Her relationship with ranvi is new, so she seeks that verification from him to see if she is just as important to him as he is to her. but, seeing that sometimes, veera takes the priority for him, it is understandable that she felt left out. and in terms of veera, I understand that she had no ill intention in regards to gunjun, but even she needs to understand that because her brother is married now, she needs to draw a certain line where gunjun can take over his responsibility and as a result, also feel special and satisfied with her role in ranvi's life. But, after what the mom said, she understands. so, I guess for now, problem solved?

long rant short, I think this time, I agreed with gunjun even though she was going a bit overboard.

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