Does anyone else feel ill...? - Page 12

Originally posted by: Je_aime

Cordy, yst Bani was telling AD's MIL that how can one move on when everyone
betrayed her…so am I wrong in making an assumption that Bani did tell something
about her past to AD's MIL? I might be wrong but that is the feeling I got from
that dialogue.

i havent watched the epi so i cant say... 😕 but i am sure that AD's MIL is thinking that Bani hates Jai and moving on would give her a better life... ie. she has good intentions... 😉

Dear, I am not saying Massi is great but I like Massi better than AD's
MIL in ONE aspect where I can compare both of them. AD's MIL is trying push both
Bani and AD instead of giving him space. Both AD and Bani are not in the
situation to move on nor they are thinking to do so. Bani never even displayed
any interest in moving on except for uniting with her kids. OTOH, Massi never tried
to push JB with they are under lot of emotional turmoil…yes, after JB marriage she
wanted to bring them together but that was because she thought that they married
out of love and are still a bit shy with each other. But after coming to know
about Jai's rape, Massi never tried to push Bani or Jai to move on and get
together. She left them to solve their own issues. She gave them space. This is
the only issue where we can compare AD's MIL and Massi and I prefer Massi.

that's true i guess, but i guess, post shraddh she didn't actually do anything for anyone so i'm not surprised... i guess that's my biggest problem with her - she was in a position of authority yet did absolutely nothing, she had best opportunities to resolve matters but didn't. 😭

Sorry cordy, I don't like AD's MIL...I can have my own preferences
right.😉
of course Meenu! now i feel bad for arguing with you!!

theek hai meri jaan, you go on hating the sunflower - if she EB's AD or Bani into marrying each other eg. on her deathbed or something - then i will join you!! 😡

You know cordy, for her age and wisdom and her level of understanding emotions, she should understand that one can feel highly betrayed only when they love or trust them too much. I am wondering if she knows about Bani wanting her kids…If she does know about the betrayal, then she must know about the kids too na. I don't know what she thinks about the kids. If AD and Bani has to get together and if Bani wants her children, what about the children? They will be separated from their father and what about children's feelings...I don't dear, If her concern came at any other time and situation, would have appreciated…but here the situation is complex and children are also going to be involved. I am not surprised that AD's MIL only thought about medicine for her Jeet…if she really cared about Bani, she should understand that Bani's medicine is not jeet but her children. well, lets she what she does in future…if she stops interfering, I will leave her…😛

( that's true i guess, but i guess, post shraddh she didn't actually do anything for anyone so i'm not surprised... i guess that's my biggest problem with her - she was in a position of authority yet did absolutely nothing, she had best opportunities to resolve matters but didn't. )

I hated Massi for that as well…but in the case of post ONS…I appreciate her…Both Jai and Bani had been through the biggest heart breaks and this is the time where they need space and Massi gave exactly that. It's a different issue that she was performing disappearing acts. 😆 From the little we saw her, she was behaving herself.😉

( of course Meenu! now i feel bad for arguing with you!! )

Nah, don't feel bad babes…Don't we argue about Bani and Jai…AD's MIL is our new topic of discussion.😆

( theek hai meri jaan, you go on hating the sunflower - if she EB's AD or Bani into marrying each other eg. on her deathbed or something - then i will join you!! )

Until then I wont spare her if she sticks to her plan of getting Bani and AD together.😡😉😆

agree Jemine AD's MIL is just irritaing and unbearable.
she just think about her jeet beta.nothinf about Bani .she already knows Bani has 2 kids.
just don't torlet this MOTI.
Moti can't see that bani has no feeling for her jeet beta.i want to see her fase after JW and DDG marriage.believe even after marriage she think of durga for her Jeet beta.

now Bani will cook food and may be just forget to add salt and jeetu will eat it (just like JW who drinks tea withou sugar)and then again This Moti start her BAKWAS.
i hope they sideline MIL soon

Cordelia:
see above hun, i did not have much problem with your happy sunflower - much prefer her to St. Billo!!

Maybe Meena too will melt too when she sees my happy sunflower in full bloom (getting there slowly and steadily😆 ) And I love my Billo massi too! 😳 I miss her 😭

And please let's not talk about AD's "style" - whenever he waves his arms about and flaps like a bird I feel like tying him to a chair!! But I guess, if I do that - you can take over from there!

The only problem I have with him "flapping like a bird" (love this expression and please may I use it), is I can't see his face in those times 😭 "The better to see your face with my darling" as the big bad wolf said to Little Red Riding hood... About the chair bit, that is a thought 😉

Sun, Meena,

I too have a problem with the romance track at the moment. Plus I don't want AD falling for Bani (more for AD's sake) and if he does fall, I don't want him to go in dukhiyara or the sacrificial lamb mode which unfortunately is what JW became.

I don't want a JW/BW reunion rightaway either. I don't want a repeat of June 19th until JW avenges his humiliation (notice I did not say Bani, I said HIS humiliation). Given the way things are between the two at the moment, a June 19th on the anniversary or pretty soon will cheapen the original June 19th. JW has to fight Pia on his terms and come put on top.


About MIL Meena, there are plenty of women in our culture who are betrayed by their husbands and in-laws and Bani did reap some serious consequences. Sometimes parents and well wishers force these evry same women to return and we hate them and our culture for making these women helpless enough to return, for giving them lectures on adjustment, for telling them your life is with your husband, your children no matter how ugly it gets for you. I don' know the conditions now in India but this was very much so in middle India when I left home. So I am happy that MIL is not giving her that lecture and I was happy with Billo that even though unfairly, she was there for Bani. These two have my support for being there for Bani. Sisterhood and all that!

MIL doesn't know how deeply Bani loved Jai. MIL doesn't know how deeply JAi loved Bani. MIL doesn't know that Jai needs more support than Bani 😆 . All MIL knows is that Bani was betrayed by her family and that her babies were snatched away from her at birth. All MIL is saying is make a life for yourself. And if it were a real story told to you from a betrayed woman's perspective (a woman who was betrayed, sent to jail, birthed two babies in jail, had the babies taken away by the father), would you recommend the woman to return to the original hubby and in-laws? Remember Bani thinks Jai did all that to her.

Bani is going to get the children no matter what. No where has MIL said forget your children and marry AD. The issue is not either/or, either you stay with us and forget your children or you go to jai and get your children. If this were a real life story, (Bani's),and I knew only one side of the story, my recommendation to the woman would also have been, leave the husband, make a life of your own, marry a hunk, and fight to get your children back.

You and I know how badly JW has fared in all this. Heck, I even think that the above betrayed woman was the one who played a critical role in the entire fiasco. But AD's MIL doesn't!

Sun, if we haven't already beaten the topic of AD using Bani to death, I will come back later to answer you. Gotta go for a meeting.

Abha

abha dear any time welcome..my point is why does always there has to be a love angle if a male and female are there ..is there no other relationship unless u are not blood related
second even i too a extent for AD do not want him to fall in love with her bcoz bani will never be able to love him the way maybe he will love her..so another prerna pendulumgiri between munna ,kids and AD.....if such an alliance occurs there is only heartbreak for all the party involved..and i think 20 yrs ago he did lose someone very dear...again the same pain..this time knowing the fact that if bani gets to know the truth she will run back to munna


it is a very big risk he is taking hence want him not to bhatkofy from his mission destroy walia
as for jai walia doing something i have started expecting a fairy godmother to come and solve problems for him but not him actually doing anything.....they have reduced him to a wailing baby as soon as he fell in love..and i want to kill basu lady for it

Originally posted by: abhavarma

MIL doesn't know how deeply Bani loved Jai. MIL doesn't know that Jai needs more support than Bani 😆 . All MIL knows is that Bani was betrayed by her family and that her babies were snatched away from her at birth. All MIL is saying is make a life for yourself. And if it were a real story told to you from a betrayed woman's perspective (a woman who was betrayed, sent to jail, birthed two babies in jail, had the babies taken away by the father), would you recommend the woman to return to the original hubby and in-laws?

Bani is going to get the children no matter what. No where has MIL said forget your children and marry AD. The issue is not either/or, either you stay with us and forget your children or you go to jai and get your children. this were a real life story, Bani's),and I knew only one side of the story (, my recommendation to the woman would have been, leave the husband, make a life of your own, marry a hunk, and fight to get your children back.

You and I know how badly JW has fared in all this. Heck, I even think that the above betrayed woman was the one who played a critical role in the entire fiasco. But AD's MIL doesn't!

Sun, if we haven't already beaten the topic of AD using Bani, I will come back later to answer you. Gotta go for a meeting.

Abha

Abha, so MIL does know that Bani has kids...Okay, I am not saying that MIL is being evil and is forcing Bani...But she is not giving her space either. Similarly, I dont expect her to advice her to go about to Jai. That would be foolish.

Yes, I also would advice my friend to move on but not when she still yearns for her children and what to get them to herself. She is still fighting and when she is fighting for her right, I wont start pushing her now itself. IF MIL tells Bani to move on after she has got her children to herself, I would appreciate her but not now...Sure dear, she does not know full side of the story but is she really thinking about Bani's children's future as well since she knows that Bani has children? I dont think so, for her age and wisdom, I expect her to thinking about lot of consequences...the situation is complex and children are involved and she is not displaying her wisdom just like Massi did not display in some stuff...

Sorry dear, her advice is probably right but I dont think she is really thinking about everything and everyone...for her, her jeet is most important...she wants him to be happy...

Originally posted by: Je_aime

her advice is probably right but I dont think she is really thinking about everything and everyone...for her, her jeet is most important...she wants him to be happy...

well meenu, she is a mother - of course that's her main priority. and it's not as if she is forcing anyone anywhere!! Bani (contrary to her actions sometimes 😉 ) is not stupid, nor a child - it is her responsibility to correct the auntiejee instead of just sitting there talking in riddles about love, life and pain.

and from what i read of today's update, for once, she did just as she should have!!! 👏 😃

Originally posted by: Cordelia

well meenu, she is a mother - of course that's her main priority. and it's not as if she is forcing anyone anywhere!! Bani (contrary to her actions sometimes 😉 ) is not stupid, nor a child - it is her responsibility to correct the auntiejee instead of just sitting there talking in riddles about love, life and pain.

and from what i read of today's update, for once, she did just as she should have!!! 👏 😃

Cordy, AD's MIL is not forcing but she is not respecting Bani's opinion either...Even after she said a determined No, MIL was so determined that she is was actually pushing her Jeet...Like I said before, my problem with her is that she is not respecting Bani's feelings and she just proved me right...😉