Past portrayal a bit imbalanced as of now...felt sorry for Ishu today

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vandana21

@vdna

Rocker

Posted: 11 years ago

Guys ..today when Raman was happily narrating the birth story of Adi..he said Shagun was screaming in labor pain and I was so frantic etc...he referred to Shagun in a very normal manner like she was part of his "fond" memories ...I understand it was a very joyful moment of his life ...but after what Shagun has done and how she has taken away Adi from him...he could have left out mentioning her so normally in the conversation ...

I don't know if it's only me but did anyone feel a bit hurt for Ishu ..I mean she can't bear a child ..and then to hear your husband talk very normally about his useless ex giving birth to her first child ..kind of felt hurtful from Ishu's perspective ...

Just want to know if i'm the only one that felt that way ..We've had a lot of one sided past of Raman that Ishu has so maturely and strongly faced without losing morale ...Won't her past pains be ever brought to light to Raman???? ..She also had joyful moments with Subbu ...why they never show her talking about it as naturally as Raman keeps talking about Shagun ...

Somehow I don't mind Raman talking about Adi and caring and feeling for him but when he talks naturally about Shagun I don't like it!!! ..Anyone else feel the same?????

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pomegranate

@pomegranate

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Posted: 11 years ago

for a second, he forgot what shagun did to him because he was revelling in the memory of his son's birth. A lot of his fond memories of adi involves shagun so she is bound to come up whether he, or we like it or not, and the presence of his ex wife should not taint the precious moments he spent with that brat. he wasn't even thinking of shagun at that moment, he was thinking of his first baby.

As for ishita, that scene could have easily become a way for her to linger in her pain but I'm glad CV's didn't take it in that direction. it was sweet how she was also finding happiness in raman's joy. her infertility will hit her the hardest when she is actually in love with raman, when she will realize that they would never experience the exhilaration which most couple experiences.

Edited by pomegranate - 11 years ago

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Anju.

@ALUJNA21

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Posted: 11 years ago

I agree this was a bit too much at least they should have made Raman narrating else like his childhood with his siblings instead of Shagun and Aditya two useless painful people in his life...
One day Raman must think how much Shagun used to respect him...
In a way it is a pain or a weird feeling for a woman to smile and listen quietly such things...mainly in Ishita case when she's said to not be able to conceive...
May be their relationship is on the level of a camaraderie that's why Raman w/o thinking twice just say it...

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aditi

@gupta.aditi20

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Posted: 11 years ago

i seriously differ from your opinion...

and raman and ishita are two mature individuals... and they married each other knowing each other's past... they are not teenagers or college couple who would get miffed about their exes...

they know their past and know it is bound to come in between the conversations... it cant be avoided... and should not be avoided... agreed their past is painful... but still it has some good memories... like falling in love for the first time.. and many firsts in their life.. so they just have to accept it... and its seriously nothing wrong or nothing to worry about...

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smilydear

@smilydear

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Posted: 11 years ago

That was a real cherished memory of a person , His first child was born.. definitely that time there relation was not that bitter , So he is like a normal person talking about a past incidence and reached to that tangent and feels what he feels at that moment and express his happiness and also the people associated with that happiness but as soon as he came back, he feels, that was nothing but a beautiful dream.

Yes Shagun will be there in all his beautiful dreams as he feels for her that time,She was her whole life. There is a very big difference here between Ishita's and Raman's situation, Raman was married to her for 8yrs But for Ishita Subbu was her Boyfriend, She was not that much intimate (Physically) with him that much Raman was with Shagun. Ishita has to face a lot more then Raman. Whenever Adi will be discussed, Shagun will be in the discussion. Ishita has to handle the situation in her own way, She can't behave like a teenager, neither a person who's partner is first time married nor like a wife who has to handle her husband as his first partner is no more , here her husband's Ex is there in front of them she is having one of her husband's child who is weakness of her husband. She can't ignore this as she has to take care of her hubby and take him out of that whirlpool , where he is stuck and genuinely wants to come out. She has to replace the memories with her own sweet memories.. for him .. with love and togetherness.

Ishita has to face a turmoil when they will be in Love and seriously want a child from there marriage, That time this will be difficult for Raman to handle Ishita as that is her weak spot.

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Amu_queen

@Amu_queen

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Posted: 11 years ago

I beg to differ...IMHO it's perfectly natural to talk about the birth of your child..the way raman did.if he were to talk to ishita about his and shagun's honeymoon or something..then yes..May be that is a lil too much...but even that I feel -the more mature a couple is ,the more they will be willing to accept everything that is a part of their partners past. It's very difficult to forget your first love...even more difficult to forget your husband/wife...and impossible to forget the father/mother of your child.To not talk about them is just hiding your feelings.It is so heartwarming to see the level of comfort they both share in order for them to be able to share their deepest fears and worries and insecurities with no inhibitions whatsoever.

The usp of this show is how naturally and truly they chose to depict this very complex relation that raman and ishita have.they are not your random lovey dovey...trip fall catch..huggy buggy couple.😳

They are an immensely mature,modern and practical couple.Its just beautiful!

A divorce is pure,plain ugly...the people involved in it..the partners and the children are scarred forever.FOREVER. Ideally,as long as their kids are under 18 Raman and Shagun will have to remain cordial and be willing to responsibly and amicably take joint decisions for the well being of their children.Ishita is mature enough to understand this.Shagun is not.For me ,Ishita's character is portrayed exactly how it should be...and hopefully will help at least a few remarried couples not be so bitter about their past.

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@lovely_lady

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Posted: 11 years ago

No, personally I really liked the scene.

Like it or not, Shagun was an important part of Raman's life for years. She was his wife whom he immensely loved. She knew everything about him and he worshipped her. So many of his good memories were probably with her. Hence why her betrayal continued to sting years after they separated.

Anyways, back to the scene. It was really cute. He was discussing an important part of his life with Ishita, describing the birth of his child. And I'm glad the CVs had Ishita react like a normal, mature woman. There was no jealously on her part or anything. And Raman wasn't trying to make her feel anything either, he was just telling her about an important time in his life. They've both lived different lives and are now beginning to share their previous lives with each other. The scene really spoke volumes about how far Raman and Ishita have come. They actually see each other as friends, good close friends.

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