Parents or your love?

This may be a repeat topic, if it is i apologize in advance.

In this day and age there are a lot of people getting married to the person of their choice. however, there are certain times when your parents do not agree with your person of choice and you are basically left to choose between the person you love or your parents.

who would you pick in this situation? the person who has your heart and you have dreamt about spending the rest of your life with..........or your parents, the people who raised you and loved you from the day you were born.

please share your views. 😊

very nice topic 👏 👏 👏 however i dont have the answer to your question, this is a tricky one, let me fall in love with someone and then i will let you know 😛

your very right raunaq, it is a tricky one. luckily i never had to face such a situation. my parents approved of the person who i chose. but i know a lot of other kids who pick someone from another race and their parents basically disowned them.

the kids are left wondering why their parents can't seem to see the fact that this person makes them happy. and the parents are in shock as to how this person who they loved and raised beyond belief could cause them so much pain by going against their wishes.

Depends on level of commitment one has given to the loving partner.

To begin with, in the first place person as a individual should decide what is best in the interest of both parties before getting involved in relationships that might not be acceptable.

Ok, love happens blah blah - Stand by your commitments.Your partner in most cases is not an orphan has a family too, be considerate and take the route which you personally feel is right. End of day should make you happy orelse big prob.

Practically speaking if responsibilities and expectations, love towards parents is continued irrespective of your actions then over a time things will fall in place. After all in most cases (yes, again most cases) all parents seek child's happiness and will honor the decision.

Finally decisions after you have grow up is upto individuals and good or bad they are accountable for. Toh all the best!!

Depends on relationship with parents and the dude!
Hopefully it'll never get to that!
Personally if it's choose one or nuthing..It'll be my mother...she gave me life and gave everything to be who I am, I would never throw that away for a chance with a boy. But that's just my viewpoint 😳
It always differs by the situation and who the person is 😊

One has to be in the situation to know how to handle the same. It depends upon various things. But if you have faith in your relationship and that you will be happy with the chosen one then go for the partner because in most cases parents come around afterwards. Also the period until your parents agree wont be smooth sailing even between you and your partner in regards to that aspect but with love, understanding, respect, commitment one can go ahead and live happily. 😊

I don't know if I believe in what I am about to write but it is the only practical option I think would work. I don't believe in love is blind and emotions can't be controlled. It can be and it should be. If one cares about parents so much then he should think about parents' approval before pursuing life partner. If he knows that parents would never approve of the marriage then instead of ruining so many lives just stick to parents' choice.

But if still emotions can't be controlled and one wants to go for love then forget about parents' opposition and stand by your spouse. It is cowardice to go against all odds to win your partner and not being able to stand parents' interference. Know your parents well before pursuing your love. If you don't care about parent's approval then go for your love and never ask for the approval. Stand by your decisions. Don't fall for any emotional tactics by anyone later.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

I don't know if I believe in what I am about to write but it is the only practical option I think would work. I don't believe in love is blind and emotions can't be controlled. It can be and it should be. If one cares about parents so much then he should think about parents' approval before pursuing life partner. If he knows that parents would never approve of the marriage then instead of ruining so many lives just stick to parents' choice.

But if still emotions can't be controlled and one wants to go for love then forget about parents' opposition and stand by your spouse. It is cowardice to go against all odds to win your partner and not being able to stand parents' interference. Know your parents well before pursuing your love. If you don't care about parent's approval then go for your love and never ask for the approval. Stand by your decisions. Don't fall for any emotional tactics by anyone later.

So true Maya. I am totally with you on the bolded, underlined, and highlighted in red part. Rather than going against your parents' wishes at first and then later on not having enough guts to sheild your loved one from their barbs and yourself succumbing to the pressure eventually, I would rather that you listen to parents in the very beginning so that you do not end up shattering one innocent person's life. I feel very strongly about it. Be here or there right from the word go...do not ride on two boats simultaneously. You will not make anyone happy by doing so.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

I don't know if I believe in what I am about to write but it is the only practical option I think would work. I don't believe in love is blind and emotions can't be controlled. It can be and it should be. If one cares about parents so much then he should think about parents' approval before pursuing life partner. If he knows that parents would never approve of the marriage then instead of ruining so many lives just stick to parents' choice.

i thought i was the only one who thought this way. but when i was going through uni there were several individuals who were interested in developing a relationship with me and i with them, however, i knew my parents wouldn't approve so i held back. i didn't let myself get to the point where i was madly in love with them. and i ended up finding someone who exceeded my parents expectations. 😊

I would choose my love - without a doubt. I am enormously lucky that I have parents who I know would never make me choose...if they truly love me and want the best for me, why wouldn't they want me to be with the person that I am the happiest with? I generally don't do too great with emotional blackmailing - i cant stand it when people do that to each other. So the whole we-loved-you-since-the-day-you-were-born-and-now-you-have-to -listen-to -us just wouldn't work for me....I'd rather they loved me selflessly (and we're back at the discussion on the other thread). This is not to say that I wouldn't consider their perspective at all...I'd probably ask myself what it is about the guy I am in love with that my parents cant stand...his personality, his character or is it just a matter of me being with someone that they didn't handpick for me...perhaps i'd take a second glance at the man I think I am in love with, and question myself whether it really is love. But at the end of the day, if I still think he's the right guy for me, and that what we have is indeed love, then I'd never pick my parents over him. Ultimately, they're not going to be spending the rest of their lives with him, I am. And if I let love go, at some point in my life, when I'm miserable and unhappy, I'd always wonder if things would have been different if I hadnt let go of love. Maybe the person will work out for me, maybe he wont...but if I am the one making the choice, at least I'll have only myself to blame.