Child embarrassed of Parent(s)?

Some time back, I had read in the newspaper an article on a couple who had eight months old son. The couple were on the fatter side and so in order to reduce the fat they were supposed to undergo surgery for losing fat. The reason they gave for undergoing such type of surgery was their son. They thought that when he grows up, he might feel embarrassed about them among his friends or at school. They also felt that by removing the excess fat and becoming slimmer, would enable them to interact better with their son in all the activites like play or outings.

1) Does children get embrassed about their parent(s) if there is some physical or some other kind of irregularity?

2) Parents love for their child is unconditional and is it wrong to expect their child to love them back unconditionally when something is different in a parent(s)?

3) How can the fear the couple above felt, shall be dealt by parents in similar or different situations?

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Originally posted by: sweta01

Some time back, I had read in the newspaper an article on a couple who had eight months old son. The couple were on the fatter side and so in order to reduce the fat they were supposed to undergo surgery for losing fat. The reason they gave for undergoing such type of surgery was their son. They thought that when he grows up, he might feel embarrassed about them among his friends or at school. They also felt that by removing the excess fat and becoming slimmer, would enable them to interact better with their son in all the activites like play or outings.

1) Does children get embrassed about their parent(s) if there is some physical or some other kind of irregularity?

For physical irregularity, No. Its all in the mind of parents who think that way. Parents to kids are like kids to parents, are parents embrassed of physical deformaties of kids?

2) Parents love for their child is unconditional and is it wrong to expect their child to love them back unconditionally when something is different in a parent(s)?

Expectation is prety natural involuntary thought, cann't be wrong. But wehn expectation becomes "They need to" then there is a problem.

3) How can the fear the couple above felt, shall be dealt by parents in similar or different situations?

NA. Still have a say, its all in mind should just be what you are. However a very valid point mentioned by couple here i.e. to be physical fit to play ball, sports with thier kids, for that thier action is justified. Still would have suggested them to adopt natural ways of loosing weight and becoming active.

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Originally posted by: sweta01

Some time back, I had read in the newspaper an article on a couple who had eight months old son. The couple were on the fatter side and so in order to reduce the fat they were supposed to undergo surgery for losing fat. The reason they gave for undergoing such type of surgery was their son. They thought that when he grows up, he might feel embarrassed about them among his friends or at school. They also felt that by removing the excess fat and becoming slimmer, would enable them to interact better with their son in all the activites like play or outings.

1) Does children get embrassed about their parent(s) if there is some physical or some other kind of irregularity?

I don't think so. We accept them as they are, for what they are and what they mean to us.😊 If someone gets embarassed about their own parents, that means they're expecting their parents to be of a standard expected by others, that's really sad.😭

2) Parents love for their child is unconditional and is it wrong to expect their child to love them back unconditionally when something is different in a parent(s)?

A child loves back unconditionally most of the times and it's natural 😊, though there're always some who expect something out of their parents in terms of money or property.🤢

3) How can the fear the couple above felt, shall be dealt by parents in similar or different situations?

Not qualified to comment.😊

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Originally posted by: sweta01

Some time back, I had read in the newspaper an article on a couple who had eight months old son. The couple were on the fatter side and so in order to reduce the fat they were supposed to undergo surgery for losing fat. The reason they gave for undergoing such type of surgery was their son. They thought that when he grows up, he might feel embarrassed about them among his friends or at school. They also felt that by removing the excess fat and becoming slimmer, would enable them to interact better with their son in all the activites like play or outings.

Great topic Sweta 😃

1) Does children get embrassed about their parent(s) if there is some physical or some other kind of irregularity?

I don't think so. I think it is in their parents mind or imagination. Neither kids or parents are embarassed about physical look of each other.

2) Parents love for their child is unconditional and is it wrong to expect their child to love them back unconditionally when something is different in a parent(s)?

Parent's love for child is unconditional and so is child's love. To expect that from child is normal but to demand or make them feel guilty abt it is outrageous & unacceptable.

3) How can the fear the couple above felt, shall be dealt by parents in similar or different situations? 😳

Being unhappy about looks is something within. One should be able to deal with that. But to undergo surgery to be physically fit to be able to excercise , play sportsto take part in child's life is a good reason. Than surgery may be justified. Otherwise work on other natural way of losing weight & accepting the inner beauty to feel great all around.

Originally posted by: anon

Ok going slightly off topic here but if people have children at like 60+ ( which people have done, been in neewspapers and so, and look at worlds oldest mum who gave birth) then children would be more embarrsed of age rather than physical side. 😳

Can women conceived at the age of 60+? 😲 😕

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Sometimes, the looks are there cos of some accident or birth defect, in such a case if a parent thinks hundred times before conceiving or after birth to have some changes thinking that the child may feel bad about it, is it ok? or the problem is not solvable in medical terms, for a parent it is a valid fear and in such a scenario will the child feel that her/his parent is different from other parents? 😕

Originally posted by: sweta01

Sometimes, the looks are there cos of some accident or birth defect, in such a case if a parent thinks hundred times before conceiving or after birth to have some changes thinking that the child may feel bad about it, is it ok? or the problem is not solvable in medical terms, for a parent it is a valid fear and in such a scenario will the child feel that her/his parent is different from other parents? 😕

Also, if other kids in the school teased the child cos of parent naturally the parent would get affected and the kid may get affected on most occasions. What can a parent do in such situation?

Originally posted by: sweta01

1) Does children get embrassed about their parent(s) if there is some physical or some other kind of irregularity?

At certain age and in some phases , it is not cool for children to be seen with their parents.. I know at the mall or being dropped off at school or school bus stop , my 8 yr old niece (and lot of other kids I know) get embarassed and her mom is very cool and hip..!!!

2) Parents love for their child is unconditional and is it wrong to expect their child to love them back unconditionally when something is different in a parent(s)?

One must not expect anything unconditional from anyone including children... the sooner one accepts the reality the better it is for everyone...

3) How can the fear the couple above felt, shall be dealt by parents in similar or different situations?

You can sort of pick your spouse , but cannot pick your family so one has to deal with what one has.. good or bad..

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