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Posted: 11 years ago
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Awesome post Julie! Want to give you a pat on your shoulder on how beautifully you have kept these little pieces of Raghav and made him stand and showed who he really was and what he has become now. Your critical analysis is enough to make people understand about today's episode. So good job on that!

I don't know what else to add here. I would like to copy and paste my old reply in one of Sejal's post that I posted today exclusively about Raghav and Kalpana. It is relating to the topic here. So here it is.


"See Sejal, the problem is not in them or in their personalities. In fact, I love how they are so much different from each other. Aur ye to asli maza hai understanding ka. After all, why do people even say that opposite attracts?

The problem is not in them but in their concept of life which is why it's keeping them apart. Raghav has been a guy who has actually experienced struggles in his life. He has earned everything of his own. He knows how much hard work he has put in his work to finally achieved what he has now. He always wanted to be "My way or highway" types. And he is pretty much up front about it which is why he uses such behavior as for his natural defense.

On the other hand, Kalpi has imagined her baba as her Prince Charming. She has seen how her baba is subtle, cool and calm and to be Honest Juru ka gulam. Her concept of persuading her life is different so she tend to look her Baba in every guy. She did the same thing with Raghav. The explanations that she was providing is explicitly relating to his family's life style. Kalpi "never" really experienced struggle, because her needs has always been provided by her aai, baba. Now that she has her Job and practically surviving, she has just started to learn the worth of earning through hard work.

So both of them thinks differently in their own ideas of perusing life. But now, things have changed. They have fallen in love. What they need to do is to make adjustments through their actions. They need to see beyond their concepts. They need to step out a little from their own created world and see what other things are demanding them. Raghav and Kalpi should try to resolve their small issues because there are still much more coming which aren't going to give them good vibes. They would have to deal with it more maturely than childishly.

They need to spare sometime for themselves outside of working environment and talk."



I want to add that Sammy-Raghav argument was expected. We saw Raghav feeling agitated many times but he controlled himself. Today it had to go the other way as he was depressed and sad. I am finally happy that Sammy won't distract him from now because I want Raghav to deal with his emotions by himself. I would rather see him making efforts to make Kalpi understand his side of story than him taking help from people who don't have a clue about his feelings.
Edited by Manoshono - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Chinkz, Yipeee, you unreserved it without reminders😆Your comment cracked me up😆 I needed a good laugh so thanks😆 especially : worst element being kept out😆

Eeven I disliked the way he insulted her, but then again what is wrong in saying have you forgotten your manners? Don't we say this very same thing with people at home?😆 I do, whenever anyone toches anything in my room. If am staying away, I expect everything to be exactly how I left them, and if even my chair is not in the right place, I create hungama at home😆😆 My dad forces me to lock my room so I do not create havoc😆😆😆 But at the same time I understand exactly how Kalpi felt today! Her pain was so visible, and since she has those huge eyes, it makes it even worst because you cannot help but feel bad for her. And he knew, he knew he had crossed a line and ended up putting their relationship back to square, and even his puppy look could not mend the situation when he tried to comfort her.😆

I know yaar, everytime she decides today is the day, she will openly discuss what her heart desires,destiny plays a cruel trick on her, leaving her feeling more shitty than ever. Will she ever find happiness without having to fight with the world for it? She had put the status talk at the back of her mind when he had blasted her after the police incident, but today he reminded her of the harsh reality of both of their lives. BIG MISTAKE.

Haha! Thats the beauty of Raghav, when he sets his heart on something or someone, no matter what negative force comes their way, that force will have to go through him first. Today those Belgium sets, that were so dear to him, felt the brunt of his feet😆😆 will Kalpi have a similar fate, if she dares tell him no?😆😆 Kidding!!! Kalpi just have to have faith, but alas he keeps breaking her faith thus preventing her from expressing herself the way she wants to.

LOL1 Raghav wanted to be on his own anyways, so thank you Sammy for going to strike as your jealousy idea sucked😆😆 But wah Sammy, you made me proud today😛 Kya jawaab diya Raghav ko😆 Phikar not a hug is on its way for you too😆 he will manaO you first😉😆

Haha! I want him to be obsessive with his gharwali! Even if a hair is out of place, I want him to fix it for her with those passionate caresses😳😆
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Posted: 11 years ago
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:@ Anum!! Cheers for the pad on the back, it has been graciously accepted😆

Thank you so much for your appreciation Anum, it means a lot😃 I knew he was going to receive the brunt of many today😆, but see the beauty of this show is that it beautiful depicts natural reactions, to the point where we can relate and say, hey, I do that sometimes, or someone I know does that sometimes. Its easy to connect with the characters for this very reason.

I agree that Sammy and Raghav's argument was an expected one. He did not like being forced to do things he was not comfortable with, but he went along with it, thinking, what the hell, lets give this a go. But when Sammy kept pestering him, he felt agitated as you right pointed out. And there is only so much a person can take before the erupt. But Sammy was good in giving him that reality check. Perhaps she is something he wants to acquire because of how hard she is playing to get. He did say he likes difficult missions. 😆 But we know by now, that, this is most definitely not the case and that he truly does care for her, and would do anything to make her happy. He himself is on a path of learning more about how to adjust to accommodate others in his life, and once he learns the art of compromising, then am sure their lives would be a lot less rocky.

I agree with you Anum! Both come from very different path of life (no am not referring to status). They both understand what hard work means, but Raghav has been around a lot longer than Kalpi. He has seen life more than her, he has experienced more than her in all sense of life. Whilst Kalpi did have to fend for herself when she was living in boarding school, but she had people to look up too, her baba especially. He has always been her guiding line in her time of need. Whilst Raghav had no-one but himself. He has built a wall so high that it became impossible for others to trans-pass that wall until he allowed his guard to be down and fell for Kalpi. However, Kalpi too has built a wall of security around her, a wall she refuses to let down because everytime she thinks about doing so, circumstances are such that it forces her to shut up, and its sad. The only way to sort their issues and fight their inner demon is via communication as you right pointed out. But alas other than eyelocks they fail to discuss anything= UNLESS they are both piss at each other😆 Like you and Chinkz said, they have to find a middle ground because neither is willing to come down to each other's level and when one does try things do not work out for the best. So they need to find a middle ground where both will feel comfortable to let their guard down and discuss their issues in a mature way, no blushing or anything as such.😆
Edited by _innocent_ - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Darn it Jules I see this now, sleep calls me will comment tomorrow 😛

Beautifully written though 👏 ok bye now
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: KyaRe...

Darn it Jules I see this now, sleep calls me will comment tomorrow 😛


Beautifully written though 👏 ok bye now

😆😆 Night night Sahana-! I shall await your comment tomorrow!😛




@Anum edited on page 3! I am half asleep too, so apologies if it makes no sense😆
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@julie: The only thing that irritates me is that if one gets hyper and angry, then the other person doesn't make any effort to pacify them right there. Instead, they let them go and cry. This is their constant actions towards each other. This time i wanted them to move a level up. I want them to get hold of each other and try to rectify the issue the moment they have it on. It's no fun to let it be and see it tomorrow. That's what I saw in Raghav today and that's what I have seen in Kalpi's way of handling things too.
You know even with understanding, they need to explore one another. They need to see why the other person behaves, acts, or do things in certain ways. If you are able to understand it, then it will benefit you. If you can't adjust, then try to show them from a different perspective and see if they are ready to see the difference and perhaps ready to change their point of views. That's all!

From what I have understood about them so far is that their ego tends to jump in while they are arguing. And to be honest, it makes sense. Even in reality people behaves in such ways and later when their mind gets cool off, they try to put the puzzle pieces together and see what was missing. But they haven't learned anything yet from their other fights. I am glad for once that Raghav acknowledged his mistakes about being rude to Kalpi. So ateast one is down! Phew! 😃

It was really funny how Sammy told Raghav to keep him out of the mess. Ah yeah..?! Who has invited him in the first place? 😲 He was the one who jumped in without knowing the outcomes. I was like Sammy is that really you saying it? Did you lose your partial memory by any chance. 😆
Edited by Manoshono - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I so get what you said. This is exactly what I said in another post that I loved the episode cause it was so real. Both Raghav & Kalpi have got to know the true sides of each other, they've got to get all their emotions insecurities out in the open understand it & deal with it only then can they truly progress in their relationship.

Im glad they'll have someone like Gauri in their life & can't wait for Kamala yo see the bond between Gauri & Kalpi and realise how she has failed Kalpi.

Really loved how you've put the whole episode into perspective
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Hey..!!
It's so well gathered..kudos to you..!!
Kamala getting the same taste of her daughters turmoil would be a treat to watch...Guari n kalpi on growing relationship is the new ray of thought you have given to me ...all appreciation for that to you.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: drdee142

I so get what you said. This is exactly what I said in another post that I loved the episode cause it was so real. Both Raghav & Kalpi have got to know the true sides of each other, they've got to get all their emotions insecurities out in the open understand it & deal with it only then can they truly progress in their relationship.

Im glad they'll have someone like Gauri in their life & can't wait for Kamala yo see the bond between Gauri & Kalpi and realise how she has failed Kalpi.

Really loved how you've put the whole episode into perspective

Thank you! @bold! Could not have agreed more. We need to tackle our weaknesses in order to move on to stronger and better things, in this case RagNa's relationships! These two people are poles apart and until they truly understand each other's weak spots and how both cannot change themselves overnight, they will keep having these fights and sadly one day, both will wake up and realise its too late to understand each other. (Albeit I believe its never too late)😆

@Red!-I am looking forward to this more than RagNa's relationship😆





Originally posted by: myera

Hey..!!
It's so well gathered..kudos to you..!!
Kamala getting the same taste of her daughters turmoil would be a treat to watch...Guari n kalpi on growing relationship is the new ray of thought you have given to me ...all appreciation for that to you.

Hiya!! Cheers bud, appreciate that! And like I said, I am looking forward to this, because no amount of explanation in the past have helped Kamla realise the negative impact she was having on Kalpi by refusing herself to shower love on her.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Anum, this discussion page can be turned into a book😆 Very true! We have seen this over and over again, one gets angry and the other forgets it within a day or two, and the cycle beings again. 😆 See Raghav lashing out yesterday, I feel was his frustrations, and am referring to him blasting Sammy here! He has tried it his way, didnt get anywhere, tried it Sammy's way and managed to screw it up yet again, despite things going his way.😆
I believe we were all frustrated at how Kalpi forget his insults and how Raghav too forgot his earlier demeanor and expected her to confess ASAP! So when he went back to his stupid attitude kal, he realised just how much he tends to hurt her, and despite not wanting to, thats exactly what ends up happening. So lets hope atleast from his perspective, its a learning curve. Kalpi needs to stop being timide around him, I get the girl is shy and all, trust me, been there done that, but unless and until she herself allows herself to open up, he will never know about why she truly does not want to commit, and how when she does, things are thrown back into her face, whether by him or by external circumstances. Btw, understanding one another is what is going to allow them to explore each other's weaknesses and help each other work through them. But cvs are not interested in that it seems.😆 Kalpi and Raghav cannot live in each other's world without complications, its impossible, both are different people with different purpose in life, and unless and until they are both prepare to compromise and adjust each other for each other, nothing good will ever come out.

@Sammy, tell me about it! He jumped in despite Raghav saying no, and now he was saying, go and fend for yourself!😆 Thank you for the advice guruji, see you later😆 or as Chinkz said, enjoy your strike😆😆😆 I am looking forward to seeing these two make up though😆 I like their equation😆

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