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Posted: 11 years ago

#31

If I may intrude...

The question that many are asking is'was that action of pulling her hair necessary?'

If you want to go down that path, then is any violence necessary at all in any situations? No, its not. Violence is not a virtue, nor anger a praiseworthy attribute.

But people get angry, people get violent. This is a fact. There are times when the anger was justified, as it was due to undue provocation. We are humans, and if we don't react to being provoked then we are just the same as the props in the serial. But there are also times, when the anger is just bad attitude.

In the movie provoked, Aishwarya Rai sets her husband on fire. She didn't do it while he raped her. But much later. It was like she was on automode. It was not premeditated, neither done for fun. But she was provoked beyond what her human limits could handle. Was it necessary to burn him? She could have gone and lodge a abuse case. But she set him on fire. Yet, can anyone say that she was completely wrong?

Now my point is, the question that need to be asked, in my opinion is not whether the action was necessary. The question is what led up to that. It was not an instant decision on his side. This has been building up from the first time she followed her sneaking out. He offered her his trust and friendship only for her to remain silent. Even when he was interrogating her, he offered his trust. She held on to her vachan. Betrayal is not something anyone can just merely say ' oh, you cheated me? Go away I don't want to see you'

I live in 21st century, and I can tell you honestly that had I been in his place, that is I caught my husband in a very compromising position, and when I request clarification he offers me none, I would have done what I always said I would do if he ever cheats on me...I WILL kill him, or at least that will be my first thought. But I will definitely want to make sure that his life is a living hell thereafter. In a marriage, you offer your life, love and trust to the other. When the other person crushes it, there is no telling what you will do. To me it would be impossible to be casual about an affair.

Am I a violent person. No, not really. I have no record of violence. But infidelity is NOT acceptable. Do we not hear/read of incidents where the woman beat the husband and the other woman good and blue when caught red handed.

At this point only, we viewers, maham and Rukaiya know its Sujamal. Jalal has no reason to now believe she was innocent because she herself has condemmed her.

To me, any warm blooded MAN especially who lived in that era would have beheaded her many nights ago, without asking for any explanation. Him pushing her and pulling her hair, its not the matter of right thing or not. it isexactly what the outburst would be like.

And there is absolutely no need to use harsh words like asking those who have different opinion or think you are bashing Jalal to go to hell. Their opinion is theirs to live with. Its not a burden of those who read it. Its possible to voice opinion is nice way without being on the defensive or offensive.

Edited by AJSharma79 - 11 years ago

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MyExiledSoul

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Posted: 11 years ago

#32

@TM : No, I don't think you are taking side of Pari and bashing Rajat. the hair pulling scene was between Jodha-Jalal and the actors has nothing to with it 😉. I know the scene could have been avoided but I thought it added more spice to the whole confrontation scene which we all were waiting for since past 2 weeks and this is how trp increases 😛. Coming to the scene, it was not a deliberate act and Jalal did not enter her hojra keeping hai-pulling, pushing in his mind. I think 1 or 2 episodes before this scene it was Jalal who said he can't see a woman cry ! That is the biggest proof how he is different from many men of this century and that era. Her silence was tormenting him and his repeated pleas were refused by her with just a single nod. When a man sees his wife with someone else in her room where no other man except him is allowed then one cannot expect him to sit down with her and ask her 'who is he and what he is doing in your room'. His rage, his anger everything was very much natural and expected and when he couldn't tolerate her refusal to his repeated requests, he lost his self control for just 5-10 seconds and pulled her hair ! If he had no self control and patience then Its hard to say if Jodha-Sujamal would have been alive after her secret meetings. But if the whole confrontation is considered he has hurt himself more, mentally as well as physically. And he stopped himself from slapping her which is something any other man wouldn't have hesitated to do, if put in the same situation. I personally did not find the hair pulling wrong or something that puts a bad taste when I take his frustration, his rage, his broken heart and trust into consideration. It was a moment of weakness for him but he gained control over it soon and did not slap or punish her later but just asked her to leave which I consider an act of saving her from further humiliation and being tagged as an adulteress when the entire palace comes to know that the Rajvanshi in disguise was captured from her room and she knows him.