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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

I don't know what serials r coming to , they r encouraging children to get married without inviting the boy's family or mother , only by doing haa haa hoo hoo with the girl's family .

Saraswati chandra did it and now Meri Bhabi justifies keeping the boy's mother out of his roka .

Don't get me wrong , i am not against SHRANAL MILAN . Let them get married by all means and i have always been saying that they should get married and stay seperate [ from Kunal's family ] but that is not ok and keeping the boy's mother out this way is ? If u wanna defy , take decisions like adults , whats this nonsense ?

I want some questions frankly answered .

Why is the girl's father and his approval or disapproval more important than the boy's mother opinion . Why r they not EQUAL . Zor put a condition , without my approval if this marraige takes place , u will lose me . Same Kamini did . Yet Zor is hailed like Shiva and Kamini is regarded as a demoness . Why ? Where did Zor consider Shraddha's happiness as Purushottam told Kamini ?The marraige is going forward AFTER his thumbs up . My question is , why same rule does not apply to the boy's mom . If Elder's blessing is the criteria , is not she an elder ?

Why does Kunal's father , if he has a seperate opinion than his wife on the matter of his son's marraige did not tell his son and Zor , that let them get married in court and stay seperate and this time we elders won't take offence . What was this , going behind his wife's back and doing traditional roka in cahoots with boy'ssasural is this remotely okay ? If the elopement was not ok how is THIS ? At least in the elopement the couple was fair to ALL the elders , in this , one elder , a very important one is deliberately kept out and all r showing teeth is this theek from any angle ? If Zor and Amrit were kept out was it ok ?

Kamini may be narrow minded in her opinions and may not understand her son but she did not deserve this humiliation . The best way for Kunal Shraddha to get married after Purushottam gave the green signal was to have a quiet court marraige and stay seperately . What they did was even more awful than the elopement . Just like they led Anand on to believe Kittu was pregnant to get them together . They do awful things and then the aaa music is played to justify their idiocies .

And what is there to hide ? When 2 adults decide a marraige , they find the optimum way out , why hide from even Jaya ? 2 responsible adults tell their decision and go ahead , do not hide and do things , sign of maturity !

Purushottam has been butchered by CVs . I repeat , i am absolutely not against the marraige , i am against the way they all acted . May be i am alone in this but my heart cringes at the thought of a mother's supreme humiliation , defiance is not wrong it should be mature and well executed .

I have no doubt that even this wrong doing will be shown as right in this serial just as Anand was made to drown in the water and say sorry to Kittu when it was she who encouraged his sister to elope behind his back . I also don't know why girls r shown stronger mentally than boys who refuse to get married without parental permission but boys do as if that value does not exist with them . I mean if a girl can do it why not the boy and if not why not marry the girl in such a way that the mom is not humiliated . After all she gave birth to u , u did not fall from the sky neither did the girl's family raise u .

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arshidreamz

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Posted: 12 years ago

First things first:
Why should they get married and stay separate? If they have to stay separate only, that can be done without getting married, right? Marriage is done so that they can be together. If for the happiness of the parents (either side) they had already decided to stay separate. So, nooo, if they are getting married -even the court marriage, they should be able to have companionship of each other.

I don't think there is anything wrong here if Kunal decided to go against his mother's wishes and get married where as Shradha has her family support. He knows his mother and how she will react even if he tells her. He just wanted to avoid unnecessary drama!!!

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

By saying they should stay seperate i meant from Kunal's family , why watz wrong , so many couples do that ! I did not mean Kunal and Shraddha should stay seperate , do u mean Dhruv should stay with the family and face this every day ?😲

and where am i saying he should not go against his mother's wishes ? I am only saying he should not hold functions that include all but exclude his mother its in very bad taste ! So what if his dad suggested , he should refuse it and do court marraige with dignity and if Shraddha's family supports , take their blessings quietly .

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Tunasnah

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Posted: 12 years ago

lok kool such things are happening in every soap these days ie they show hero mother a negative character who is ruining her son life i dont know why mother is shown like this .i have problem with shraddha character why is she so hell bent in getting married to kunal cant she see that if she finally get married to kunal this will create problem for her son kamini will not spare him .i expect some more miturity from shraddha but what can we say if trp of such track are high.

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

taya all that logic from Shraddha i have given up , i have come to this

ok fine , u wanna get married , get . U both r adults so why r u both behaving like teenagers parents r controlling . His mom will never give permission , father has come around , now even girl's family is ready . Fine then , good , do court marraige na . Whats this . Doing function by keeping the boy's mom out . Does it look good ? What sanskaars is the girl's family and even Purushottam boasting of . So many couples , when parents object , do this . Everytime parents do not take decisions that r to ur liking , sometimes u cannot help defying them . But here it is very funny , Shraddha is NOT ready to marry without permission of her parents , Kunal was before also , now also .So what love story is this after love comes to the fore only when HER parents give permission ? She stood bravely in front of Kamini and told , yes i love Kunal and i am sure all clapped but why did she not tell Zor the first time he halted the marraige ?

And why get scared of Jaya and hide it ? Who is Jaya ? Mother , saas , what ? So she will tell Kamini or the whole world , let her ! You both r adults , when there is nothing to hide , why fear ? Tell all , we r getting married , thats that and go ahead and do it ! Those who wanna give ashirwaad come ! Welcome !

But marrying this way is not to my taste . It was worst than that elopement . There they were fair , ALL were kept out of THEIR decision . Then criteria changed and Shraddha and her parents permission became the yardstick . Once that was got , they went ahead . And even in that i don't have objection but do court marraige , don't do this stupid hiding business .

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arshidreamz

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
By saying they should stay seperate i meant from Kunal's family , why watz wrong , so many couples do that ! I did not mean Kunal and Shraddha should stay seperate , do u mean Dhruv should stay with the family and face this every day ?😲

I misunderstood you when you said they should stay separate.. My BAD!!
No, Dhruv should not b tortured everyday by living with Kamini...They (shranal n dhruv) can live separate from Kunal's parents

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

That is what i am saying , Dhruv should not be subjected to this , they should stay seperate

Dhruv should not have been subjected to this kind of hiding drama either , he should have been taken quietly and happily to a court

and this scared of Jaya nonsense must be stopped ASAP , its hi time Jaya gets a blasting from Ashish , i am sorry to say but Zor and Amrit have simply encouraged her nonsense instead of pulling her up for bossing their son around , tell taling , inefficiency in household work , they have given Jaya so much importance that they r hiding things from her , who is she , Queen Victoria , if adults take a decision thats it bas

lastly dear i do not believe in doing functions excluding an elder when all others r present by hiding it . Imagine what Zor would have felt if he walked in and found all there but he was not told . A court marraige is better .

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Binita

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Posted: 12 years ago

Well said Kools.. and I agree...!!

I was just telling my mom the other day it would be acceptable and there would be nothing any one of the family members could say if Kunal up and left the roka after all Shraddha left the partial wedding choosing her family over her love.. don't get me started on her truly.. I have and will continue to feel she never speaks up when crucial Kunal the poor soul tends to take the brunt of their idiotic mistakes he stands up for her more often taking responsibility for both of their actions while she silently cries in the background and FINALLY decides to open her mouth when the issue is close to being resolved..

Anyways back to the topic as much as I dislike Kamini I understand and even felt for the mother who was intentionally being cast out of an important phase of her child's life.. they should have chosen to behave like adults and take the blessing of those in favor and move on with it.. they can live separately as already discussed.. I just want to know what made them think she would magically accept everything especially after being lied to what mother would accept being left out of such an occasion and then being forced to accept something you were always against.. and how long did they think this could go on it was just a matter of time.. I am all for Kunal and Shraddha's marriage simply against the way they went about it completely unnecessary and childish as well.. what kind of advice are the adults giving in this show..!!

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

It is so stupid Binny , Purushottam said 'main sambhaal loonga' 'i will manage' , is this the way he was going to manage ?

This type of hidden ceremony was gonna seal the hatred and hurt in a mother's heart ...it was better to tell the son secretly to elope with his full permission , at least she would have not felt humiliated like this , but have the respect of having her spouse with her .

Kunal should do promises of 7 birth companionship with Shraddha whom he met yesterday and Zor and Amrit must have love talks like pigeons but Kamini should not expect basic respect from husband , says who ? Purushottam was so so wrong in what he did .

What will Shraddha feel if Dhruv keeps her out this way and only looks at the girl's face and dances on his sasural's tunes ?

No , i dislike her narrow minded hai hais and never minds but this was no way to treat a mother . Better was to tell her upfront that i am finally marrying her , whoever wants to bless can come if u don't want don't bless .

She deserved this honesty coz it had the basic respect .

The worst insult was Shraddha finding a voice and telling her i love ur son and all behind her ...and even Ashish talking back to Kamini ...Shraddha who did not have guts to tell same to Zor and behaved like a yo yo and ditched Kunal for her family , found 'love' when she got HER family's permission and Ashish who does not ever pull up his wife talked this way to her , kya keemat reh gayi uski ?

Anyone would squirm at her scream 'Meri hai lagegi ' coz truly they gave that hurt to her in a unified effort .

Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 12 years ago