Hmmm... what does he/she wants?

Its a mean world out there!! How many of you agree?

Relate this to people you know around, who go out of the way to help yaa out... but later you realize that it was for motive or in expectation of return favor.

Do you consider any good deed by a person towards you is for a selfish motive? i.e. if there are favors done by people who are not related are for selfish motives.

Cann't a person do good deeds without thinking of returns favors in future?

Is the world mean?? (barring few noble souls)

Originally posted by: raj5000

Its a mean world out there!! How many of you agree?

Relate this to people you know around, who go out of the way to help yaa out... but later you realize that it was for motive or in expectation of return favor.

Do you consider any good deed by a person towards you is for a selfish motive? i.e. if there are favors done by people who are not related are for selfish motives.

Cann't a person do good deeds without thinking of returns favors in future?

Is the world mean?? (barring few noble souls)

Of course return favors are must how else can you be selfless otherwise...😉

I am in no state to comment on the issue. I am just confused about the world and social interactions in general. 😭

Persy

Persy, I love you! You are very matured and you are going to do great! 😃

raj, interesting, I always look at people as if they will be great individuals, helpful and kind. My experience teaches me sometimes otherwise, sometimes they end up being good for real. Instead of starting my slate clean, i start with flowers and butterflies.. but slowly lose some for not being so nice 😭
My husband is ooposite. So if someone does something for him, he wonders what the other person might expect in return. That thought never crosses my mind, unless I know from experinece that someone is a selfish person..

Sudesh ji, if you count that as person gets happiness by helping others being returned favor, I will agree with you otherwise yes people are out there who help people to really help them.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Of course return favors are must how else can you be selfless otherwise...😉

Anshu, in my opinion there are all kind of people in the world. Agree mostly people do anything for getting some favor in this materialistic world but that's not true for all of them.

Can you remember when we have 9/11 incident how many people donated the blood standing in line for hours? What was their self motive in that other than that they wanted to do it to help people? May God bless those people who are there to help others.

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Persy, I love you! You are very matured and you are going to do great! 😃

☺️ Thanks!

I am learning.... landed myself in a soup recently; lots of positives are coming out of the situation though, which is good... cause it implies personal and professional growth.

Back to topic... I agree with QT. I am like her, too... don't see motive behind another's action. But I get called gullible and naive by parents and friends for holding that opinion. I will and can help with no real intention.... just cause I like making people happy. Apparently, acting as such is also a mental disorder. Phsychology is 🤢 ; how about just being human and human with emotional necessities.

Often times, I do come across people who just ask 'what do you want?'. I always wonder why people think that others come to them only cause they want something.😆 ... how about recieving, and getting?😃

Persy

Originally posted by: reeps

I am in no state to comment on the issue. I am just confused about the world and social interactions in general. 😭

Persy

i am in the same boat as you are . and i agree with you on what do you want situation. i wonder why people ask what do you want when you do something great for them.

Raunaq ji, it happens as most of the time now-a-days people do not do anything without any benefit to them... so when someone helps anyone the most obvious things come to mind of people that what does he/she wants... which is not always true......

Originally posted by: raunaq

i am in the same boat as you are . and i agree with you on what do you want situation. i wonder why people ask what do you want when you do something great for them.

Originally posted by: raj5000

Its a mean world out there!! How many of you agree?

that's what media tells me but personally, I have yet to experience that....thank god for that.

Relate this to people you know around, who go out of the way to help yaa out... but later you realize that it was for motive or in expectation of return favor.

People who expect favors all the time do so w/o doing anything for you too. You just need to learn to handle these people. I don't mind helping them over and over again w/o getting anything from them in return but I get seriously pi**ed if I get a feeling that they were using me. I don't like getting used. That's my biggest pet peeve.

Do you consider any good deed by a person towards you is for a selfish motive? i.e. if there are favors done by people who are not related are for selfish motives.

Not always. I have some neighbors here who would help us in the middle of night as well if need arises but they really do not need our help in crisis as they have family here to fall back on. We do not have any family here in the US apart from just the four of us. Therefore, I do not agree that people always have selfish motives when they are trying to help you. Those who have these motives, for examples managers at work trying to get your support so that they can play politics at work, are so obvious from the beginning and I stay clear of them.

Cann't a person do good deeds without thinking of returns favors in future?

Of course they can! I do it all the time and I believe there are many others who do the same. My mom says that as long as there are more good people than bad on this earth, the life will keep going on. The day bad outnumbers good, we will have pralay. Well, life is still goin on...isn't it😊

Is the world mean?? (barring few noble souls)

No, I don't think so based on my personal experience but I always take in to consideration what I see and read in media and tell my daughters to watch out. This is a very hard question to answer. That too right after Virginia Tech shootings. But let's keep in mind, it was one crazy person only. Still, it hurts me every time I have to teach my daughters not to trust everyone they come across. I know I am juxtaposing my earlier views here but I frankly do not know how to answer this one.

As an adult, I can keep an open mind and give an equal chance to all during my first meeting and then form my views based on exp[eriences but as kids, my daughters are not in a position to do so. To protect them, I teach them not to trust strangers😕

hmmmmmmmmm....great thought provoking questions Raj😊