Week of exposve epis (17-21 Sep) what do you think

WoW!!! What a week.

My point of view:

Let me say at the outset I am not interested in jodis but strong storyline. My comments below are my assessment of each character and their actions as shown.

Please feel free to comment but I would like to request all posts to be polite and courteous as we are all entitled to our opinion.

TVS

I have said of Reva and I will say of TVS you cannot ask someone else to make a sacrifice for your marriage or force someone into a relationship they do not want to be in no matter how much you love them. If you want them in your life, you have convince them that, that is where they want to be no matter how long it takes/how tough it is and if they don't want to be there, then however hard you have to let them go.

In TVSs case he has not be able to vent his emotions since Reva's return and the wedding debacle. He has bottled everything up. I guess he reached his breaking point especially when Sugni said she loves him but will never be with him because of Reva and lashed out.

He was ABSOLUTELY WRONG to try and force Sugni at gunpoint into a relationship she did not want but he has paid the ultimate price for that - lost her forever and is left with lifetime of heartache. SugVi is over forever.

Since last Thursday when he had a conversation with Adi about you don't love with conditions he has been angry but rational and determined to put his case forward, pointing out some home truths and asking some difficult questions but it all fell on deaf ears. Nobody wants to listen, everyone is chanting one mantra - go back to your wife!!!!! No doubt the mother when she returns will join this band wagon.

Interestingly I had expected the CVs to turn him into Psycho but he has been shown as he has always been, even down to the remorse he feels for the injury he caused Gulabia. I am glad as I think that will make him turning into evil more interesting.

Sugni

She is a young girl (19 years) whose life has been thrown into turmoil by the 2 people she trusted (TVS and Gulabia). Like TVS she has not had time to think rationally/calmly about what she wants to do so she lashes out and each time she does that the consequences are catastrophic.

No doubt she will realise her mistake and realise that she has destroyed Amrita's happiness, destroyed a mother/son relationship, a mama/bhanja (father/son) relationship, torn apart a family, and love him or hate him her actions have put her in close proximity of TVS forever.

She was the first to point out that being constantly close to TVS is not good for either of them. Yet when opportunities have come her way to go away from him (When Gulabia went to Mumbai, when Adi told her to go) she has refused to go. Its admirable that she wants to repay Adi (although it is not his money) but she could have done that from a distance however long it took. She did not have to marry Adi there was no magburi or anything of sort.

Adi

The man who stood up and said he will always does the right thing, has sacrificed his love/happiness to protect Sugni got caught out telling a lie. So to prove that he is not a liar he offers marriage. There was no majburi he did not have to do this. There are many ways to protect Sugni (like forcefully sending her and Gulabia away to start afresh) which did not involve him marrying her and her hurting his mama and his family in the cruelest way possible.

If you step back and look at the bigger picture he has done exactly what his father did (for a different reason for sure but the outcome is the same) ' he has sacrificed his family for a Bedni.

He says he has done this for his family -' what family? They may be a family in terms of physically being linked to each other by blood/marriage but he has destroyed the emotional ties he had with 2 most important people in the family (He has destroyed his mother by first doing Sardhakai and then marrying a Bedni. He has sacrificed the very close bond he had with his Mamaji thereby destroying a father/son relationship) so he has destroyed the very family he did all this for.

Gulabia

The "Mother" who is knows all and was right about her assessment of TVS and Adi. TVS made a good point ' "you are fine with any Thakur using your daughter for a while and throwing her away but you are not fine with me divorcing Reva and marrying your daughter". She had no response to that because her stand about TVS is irrational. Adi has lied to her (by not telling her about the Vachan he gave TVS of keeping Sugni as TVS's amanat when she asked him if he was doing this his Mamaji) but she is fine for him to marry her daughter. I understand that as a mother she wants to protect her daughter and wants what's best for her but she is a grown woman and as such she should know that her daughter will never be happy or truly accepted in a family which has been torn apart by her and her daughter's actions.

Summary

None of the lead characters are whiter than white.

TVS has made big two mistakes - trying to marry Sugni without telling her about Reva's return and trying to force her into a relationship at gun point.

Adi's huge mistake - marry a girl who his Mama (father figure) deeply loves and will always love and who would have happily married his Mama if fate had not stepped in. All to prove that he can trusted by Sugni and Gulabia (even though he cannot be trusted by his own family and fiancee - he has broken his promise to his mother never to let a Bedni in his life, his mama that he will keep Sugni as his amanat and his fiance to marry her). The reason is not strong enough to justify his action.

Sugni's huge mistake - marry a bhanja (like a son) of the man she loves and accepted as her husband/jeevan saathi in heart before their marriage and tear apart the very family she will part of.

Both acts by TVS were ABSOLUTELY COMPLETELY WRONG but then Adi-Sugni marriage is IMMORAL and no amount of pretending that it was God approved changes the facts.

I expected TVS to lose Sugni and while I sympathised with his pain I would have also supported Sugni as she tried to rebuild her life and if along the way she had met someone and they became a couple I would not have had a problem. So if Adi was not related to TVS and did not have such a close relationship with him then I would have no problem with Adi-Sugni relationship because in life you do not always end up with the person who you fall in love with.

However some relationships are OFF LIMITS and this is one of those relationships (a woman having an emotional relationship with 2 men of the same family is GROSS. Will they ever truly be able to have a relationship without TVS's shadow coming between them even if he did not turn negative).

What is worse is that they will have this relationship, including being grudgingly being accepted by the family, in front of TVS in his house and living off his wealth. That is sick. Nobody deserves to be treated like that.

I think TVS has started to accept that he has lost Sugni and I think he may have coped with that but seeing Adi- Sugni building their future, being happy may remind him that this was his dream/desire that Adi stole from him while he is being forced to stay with Reva which may set him off down the path of evil. Being forced to watch Adi-Sugni daily, he may let evil into his heart which will make a home there. If he does can anyone blame him?

Wherever the story goes from here I hope TVS does not back down from divorcing Reva (despite her suicide attempt). He should get whatever help she needs but definitely divorce her regardless of the pressure he comes under because it will be a lesson for Adi-Sugni that they cannot tell someone to stay in their marriage if that person does not wish to and all the lives they have destroyed was for nothing.