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In many families even if the parents are not divorced blame game happens in front of children. And children's mind is like clay and they absorb it just like that only to play out those things in an adverse way in their adulthood.
Kuber had insulted Madhavi many times and Madhavi tolerated it. Somewhere Abeer got it in his mind he has the right to abuse his wife the way he wants. Whenever something Meher does offends him, he goes abusive. Only difference Kuber doesn't apologize, Abeer apologizes, but continues the behavior. In a way no real change.
Meher has seen her dad living 2 lives. Not trustworthy. Takes advantage of her mom. And anything and everything Abeer does somewhere it gets connected to Shyam. Her distrust on men stems from her childhood and Abeer's impulsive behavior has poured oil in the already burning fire.
And now she has told Ishaan he cannot see his father because his father is bad. So Ishaan has grown up thinking his father is bad and he hates his natural father. You never create such an impression in your child by telling him or her one of the parent is bad. That is not the right approach to bring up a child. Yes the child's question needs answer , either he should be told who the father is or tell the child he will know things when he grow older. But never the other parent is bad.
And Abeer it was not at all right to teach the child to do goondaism. The child should be encouraged to complain to the principal, parents should speak to the principal and trust has to be bought in the system. A child of 7 years should never be told to throw stones, fight and all. You can send the child to self defense class and make him more confident by mentoring him or her to react to such bullies. But street fight for a 7 year old is not at all right. And today as far as Ishaan goondaism goes I would side with Akshat. He was right in reprimanding Ishaan. Any good father will reprimand if his ward comes from school fighting. If Meher has given Akshat right to be a father it is not just for mollycoddling, a father also punishes the child to teach him the right values.
If only Kuber has punished Abeer the right way in childhood than give him all luxuries he would have turned out to be better than this impulsive, egoistic young man.
And now making Ishaan ask for photo of his father, telling him how good his father is, creating a likeable impression on him, Abeer is going to repeat the same mistake Meher did. Instead of papa bad, mama will be bad for Ishaan.
And I want Abeer to do just that, make Ishaan hate Meher and come in front of him as the most ideal father and person. Ensure Ishaan is solely dependant on him.
And then without Meher, let Abeer handle Ishaan. Let his teachings ensure Ishaan become a school bully, let principal call him with Ishaan's complaints, let Ishaan trouble him for homework, let Ishaan cry for small small things between his auditions or performances forcing Abeer Malhotra to do the thing he has got PHd in. Some impulsive action that breaks Ishaan and let something major happen to him.
Because only that incident can show Mr Abeer Malhotra a mirror. Of what he truly is. By that time Meher will also learn her lesson, how it feels if your child hates you. Then both of them can come together and realize a child needs both parents.
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
