Where was romantic Arjun whn married to Ovi?WPg.11 - Page 7

Originally posted by: PandorasBox

That is clearly not the same thing.

Ovi loved Arjun, she slept with him. That's simple enough. If you love someone, it is natural you would want to sleep with them. Plus he was her lawful husband.

But what was Arjun's excuse?

It is more acceptable to sleep with someone you love but doesn't love you then it is to sleep with someone you do not love.

Arjun cannot be justified in any shape or form. Any relationship he will enter jenceforth will forever be jaded.

What is acceptable to one person may not to be another. It's all about perspective. No one is wrong because everyone has their own perspective.

I agree with Pallavi Di tht Ovi slept with Arjun knowing he loved Purvi. She even slept with him after she figured out the pari situation. Emotions are just emotions. People lose sight in moments when emotions are running high.

I don't blame ovi for sleeping with him nor do I blame Arjun for sleeping with her. It is what it is. And personally they're bigger issues here between the couple than sex.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Yes, all 3 characters are needy and insecure in their own way. Arjun, the tough, heartless businessman fell in love with Purvi and became a softie! He became clingy and needy, all his emotional needs, supressed since Aashna's death, came to the forefront and he became putty in Purvi's hands, hence agreeing to her insane demand to marry Ovi!

Purvi's overcompensating nature, her OTT gratitude and sacrifices for Archana and by default the extended family of Deshmukhs, is a result of being brought up by a single mother who was constantly yearning for her actual family, for her husband and bio children all those years! Purvi felt inadequate all her life, so shes always trying to make up for not being Archu's bio kid.

Ovi, deprived of her biological mother, brought up by the selfish and greedy Savita, inherited her grandma's traits, primarily a blindness to other's happiness. She inherited Savita's avarice, selfishness, greedy grasping nature! Perhaps she did love Arjun in a way but as a toy, a possession, an object that she imagined belonged to her! Thus she treated Arjun like trash after marriage, constantly abusing him verbally, raging at him, accusing him of emotional infidelity. Well, what did she expect? She married him knowing he loved Purvi, didnt she?

So you see, Arjun and Purvi also had flaws but they did not knowingly harm others, instead they sacrificed their own happiness, Purvi sacrificed for Archu's sake, Arjun did it for purvi's sake.

But Ovi knowingly hurt others, especially the man she claimed to love! She was rude to elders, used emotional blackmail and resorted to suicide attempts to get what she wanted! Her list of crimes is so long that it overtakes any pity I would have felt for her for being a motherless child brought up by that termagent Savita!

As for Onir and Purvi, she never treated him like Ovi treated Arjun. No way! 😆 She was affectionate towards him but she didnt love him! Same as Arjun with Ovi. It was only after Onir started behaving strangely on purpose that she started suspecting him. So that comparison is not really valid.

There are many scenes in Kolkata and Mumbai where Purvi and Onir seemed like a perfectly happy couple. Not like Ovi and Arjun where Ovi was drinking and cursing Arjun for "thinking" abt Purvi.

YES they did!!!

1) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt her mother, Archana, when she had pre-marital sex. That was a slap in the face of Archana's upbringing that the mother and daughter gloated about.

2) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt Arjun when she insisted that he marry Ovi. She was aware of his love for her yet pressured him to marry her.

3) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt Arjun and both Ovi again when after one month of Arjun/Ovi wedding Ovi wanted to leave Arjun, she pressured him again to stay in this marriage. She KNEW their marriage wasn't going well but she still emotionally manipulated Arjun. And Arjun was dumb enough to go along with it AGAIN.

4) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt Ovi when she took away her right to mourn her dead baby.

5) Arjun KNOWINGLY hurt Ovi when he went back and begged Ovi to stay with him one month after Ovi wanted their marriage to end.

6) Arjun KNOWINGLY hurt Ovi when he lied to Ovi about her baby being dead OR as you like to say "he hid the truth".

Just because Arjun and Purvi are painted as saints doesn't mean their actions were ever good. Arjun and Purvi's ACTIONS have always spoken against their WORDS. Again, this is all my opinion.

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Yes, all 3 characters are needy and insecure in their own way. Arjun, the tough, heartless businessman fell in love with Purvi and became a softie! He became clingy and needy, all his emotional needs, supressed since Aashna's death, came to the forefront and he became putty in Purvi's hands, hence agreeing to her insane demand to marry Ovi!

Purvi's overcompensating nature, her OTT gratitude and sacrifices for Archana and by default the extended family of Deshmukhs, is a result of being brought up by a single mother who was constantly yearning for her actual family, for her husband and bio children all those years! Purvi felt inadequate all her life, so shes always trying to make up for not being Archu's bio kid.

Ovi, deprived of her biological mother, brought up by the selfish and greedy Savita, inherited her grandma's traits, primarily a blindness to other's happiness. She inherited Savita's avarice, selfishness, greedy grasping nature! Perhaps she did love Arjun in a way but as a toy, a possession, an object that she imagined belonged to her! Thus she treated Arjun like trash after marriage, constantly abusing him verbally, raging at him, accusing him of emotional infidelity. Well, what did she expect? She married him knowing he loved Purvi, didnt she?

So you see, Arjun and Purvi also had flaws but they did not knowingly harm others, instead they sacrificed their own happiness, Purvi sacrificed for Archu's sake, Arjun did it for purvi's sake.

But Ovi knowingly hurt others, especially the man she claimed to love! She was rude to elders, used emotional blackmail and resorted to suicide attempts to get what she wanted! Her list of crimes is so long that it overtakes any pity I would have felt for her for being a motherless child brought up by that termagent Savita!

As for Onir and Purvi, she never treated him like Ovi treated Arjun. No way!😆She was affectionate towards him but she didnt love him! Same as Arjun with Ovi. It was only after Onir started behaving strangely on purpose that she started suspecting him. So that comparison is not really valid.

There are many scenes in Kolkata and Mumbai where Purvi and Onir seemed like a perfectly happy couple. Not like Ovi and Arjun where Ovi was drinking and cursing Arjun for "thinking" abt Purvi.

I agree completely here with Pallavi di. I was going to finish writing my post but she wrote what I wanted to already.

But my main issue is that I feel Ovi's mistakes and issues are just left as mistakes. She's painted white while arvi are always trashed and mocked for their mistakes. I believe all 3 are responsible for this mess. They should all be trashed or all be given some benefit of the doubt. Or maybe just take the lesson to be learned here: be careful what you wish for in Ovi's case and the issues children face when they grow up without a solid pair of parents. There's a lot of lessons here to be learned if one wants.

I had hoped this track would have been given a better ending but it just seems even worse now...

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

YES they did!!!

1) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt her mother, Archana, when she had pre-marital sex. That was a slap in the face of Archana's upbringing that the mother and daughter gloated about.

2) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt Arjun when she insisted that he marry Ovi. She was aware of his love for her yet pressured him to marry her.

3) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt Arjun and both Ovi again when after one month when Ovi wanted to leave Arjun she pressured him again to keep his marriage.

4) Purvi KNOWINGLY hurt Ovi when she took away her right to mourn her dead baby. She KNEW their marriage wasn't going well but she still emotionally manipulated Arjun. And Arjun was dumb enough to go along with it AGAIN.

5) Arjun KNOWINGLY hurt Ovi when he went back and begged Ovi to stay with him one month after Ovi wanted their marriage to end.

6) Arjun KNOWINGLY hurt Ovi when he lied to Ovi about her baby being dead OR as you like to say "he hid the truth".

Just because Arjun and Purvi are painted as saints doesn't mean their actions were ever good. Arjun and Purvi's ACTIONS have always spoken against their WORDS.

I agree with your analysis sk11. I think they are all 3 to blame.

However, from my own personal experience on this forum (again, emphasis on MY experience) I have seen Ovi trashed left and right. While I completely agree Ovi DEFINITELY had her faults and mistakes, Arjun and Purvi are right there with her, if not ahead, with their own share of mistakes and horrible decisions.

I also agree that the parental guidance has severely lacked in this entire mess of a storyline.

Originally posted by: PandorasBox

That is clearly not the same thing.

Ovi loved Arjun, she slept with him. That's simple enough. If you love someone, it is natural you would want to sleep with them. Plus he was her lawful husband.

But what was Arjun's excuse?

It is more acceptable to sleep with someone you love but doesn't love you then it is to sleep with someone you do not love.

Arjun cannot be justified in any shape or form. Any relationship he will enter jenceforth will forever be jaded.

Pallavi 25 - I have a few points to make.

I have never denied that I am an Ovi fan. However, I have NEVER said that Ovi is a saint either. I completely agree with you that Ovi has been quite stupid in the past too.

OH and trust me, I DO want Arjun and Purvi to get married. They deserve each other (you can take this in a good way or bad, doesn't matter).

And I have also said that Arjun and Purvi would gain a lot of respect from me if they ADMIT they love each other, be straightforward about it, and SHOW their desire to get married. Rather than showing it like they are getting married because of family pressure or because of their daughter, if they get married because the love each other, I will respect them a lot more. However, I have yet to see this happen.

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

I agree with your analysis sk11. I think they are all 3 to blame.

However, from my own personal experience on this forum (again, emphasis on MY experience) I have seen Ovi trashed left and right. While I completely agree Ovi DEFINITELY had her faults and mistakes, Arjun and Purvi are right there with her, if not ahead, with their own share of mistakes and horrible decisions.

I also agree that the parental guidance has severely lacked in this entire mess of a storyline.

Yes, it all comes down to perspective. No one is wrong... Everyone just has their own perspective. And that's okay and perfectly fine.

Personally I've seen many threads lately magnifying every arvi move as immoral or outrageous etc and it probably is but I didn't see such outrage of Ovi's moves by the TM of these topics or others but I guess that's my personal perspective. I'm not trying to offend anyone here and nor am I claiming any facts. I'm just stating my opinion from what I've seen. I don't hate ovi. I don't hate anyone really. I just hope we get a fresh storyline soon but I wouldn't hold my breath!

I am looking forward to that new show with pratigias husband kisna I believe? Maybe it'll take me away from PR.

Originally posted by: ChemistryMajor

Pallavi 25 - I have a few points to make.

I have never denied that I am an Ovi fan. However, I have NEVER said that Ovi is a saint either. I completely agree with you that Ovi has been quite stupid in the past too.

OH and trust me, I DO want Arjun and Purvi to get married. They deserve each other (you can take this in a good way or bad, doesn't matter).

And I have also said that Arjun and Purvi would gain a lot of respect from me if they ADMIT they love each other, be straightforward about it, and SHOW their desire to get married. Rather than showing it like they are getting married because of family pressure or because of their daughter, if they get married because the love each other, I will respect them a lot more. However, I have yet to see this happen.