Originally posted by: Tanyaz
Kool , I am angry with Archana the way she has treated Soham but not the way she has been with sachu ...
I know she had neglected him in the last few weeks but there was a genuine problem at home and it can happen ...
It has been shown that in the last 4 years she had totally dedicated herself to the boy and used to feed him everyday with her own hands ...
If someone has neglected Sachu then that person is Shravani ...She neglected her duties of a good mother ...just like Archana is neglecting her duties ofbeing a good mother to Soham ...
I think that is why the script was changed and Archana was stopped from saying that give Soham to Varsha ...
Sachu was a loved ,happy , sensible littlen boy till savita started messing up with his brains ...
Archana was even taking care of his habits and how he spends money , she would make his fav things and all that ..Even Sulochna was a great grand mother to Sachu ...
yesterday what Manav said should have got things back to normal and the way things were before but now Savita won't let them get normal
We will have to differ with the underlined statement Tanya . Shravani has NOT neglected her son . She took a decision for his good and stuck by it ...that takes immense strength . Love is not just being with your child , love also is in being away from your child for the greater good when special circumstances demand it . And the Sachu Shravani story was one such special circumstance one . He was an illegitimate child Tanya and Indian society is cruel to such children . He has been born in an Indian community , so what if his mother has a US visa . That tag won't leave him . She decided NOT to kill a life that was in her womb ...but after he was born , after some upheavals she decided that he should have a proper family and grow up as a normal kid . So she gave him up to his grieving Grandma, knowing that Archana Manav will bring him up as parents . And that happened , for 5 years he had a wonderful life . He had parents , and he had Grandmas and he even would have experienced a sibling had Archana not given him up to Varsha instead of keeping him in her own house and ensuring that a bond develops between him and Sachin .
Personally I wud have clapped if Shravani had taken Sachu away caring a hang for the illegtimate status . But her humanity to the grieving mother of her dead fiancee and her decision regarding her child keeping the larger picture in mind should oh so not be trivialized .
I applaud her for not interfering even ONCE in Archana's upbringing of the child . For not phoning and being in touch and confusing the child . What superb love that is ...to do this kind of sacrifice . To be this unselfish in love . She wanted HIS happiness so she crushed HER personal feelings . Unlike Archana who gave up Soham to Varsha but hung around saying I am Maa by paying weekly visits . Did she have any idea how CONFUSED Soham wud be , how detrimental it is for a child not to understand his roots and to disturb his sense of belonging ?
Even now , she keeps her emotions in check and does her best NOT to confuse the boy even when he runs by chance into her , like on the phone . Thats the way it should be .Its Savita who is messing him . And Archana's maayka problems that r now causing her to do abominable neglect to her sons .
To be fair to Archana , its not just Sachu that she has neglected lately , she does equal neglect of Soham . She did take good care of Sachu for 5 years , yes . Sulochana loved him too like her own grandchild . But then the K family problems resurfaced with full force . Varsha 's Soham obsession , Sulochana running away and hiding what not . The parents ARMAN started running around solving people's problems and neglecting their own kids by leaving them to Grandmothers or servants or Archus sisters . Archana got too involved with her baby Varsha and forgot that there r two REAL babies who have not grown up and need her attention . She simply lost touch with them .
Sadly , the five years when she gave Sachu her attention will not be remembered as that time he was a kid and only had physical needs ...to be fed , clothed and looked after . The emotional maturity starts after one crosses 5 ...that is the time a mother shud be more vigilant .Just food , clothing and meds is not enough then , the child wonders if he is being given priority , is being loved , if there r problems around him . And exactly at this moment of Sachus life Archana has decided to prioritise Varsha .
When it sinks in her brain one day that she need not prioriise her sisters over her children it will be too late . She cannot have it both ways , she HAS to learn that SHE HAS A LIFE . That she HAS to leave others to their fate and focus on HER sons and HER husband . She should not run on roads looking for mother or decide to leave Sachu to his Grandma and go with Soham to live with Varsha . The kids get abominably neglected then . When she ran on roads looking for Sulo , Varsha took advantage and dug her talons in Soham , when she got involved in Varsha Savita took advantage and poisoned Sachu .
This happened as SHE was not there in her own sansar . She prioritised something else .
And if someone asks me here ...does that mean we have to forget our maayka once we r married I wud bluntly say YES . YES if kids r born and r being neglected . Our first duty and priority goes to THEM as we made a commitment to God about them ...we simply got to put a lid on our emotions regarding others like our vast expanse of relatives with never ending problems .Sure , help em , but by staying within your own sphere and never abandoning your kids . Then no one can win by taking advantage and taking them away from you .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 13 years ago
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