Stubborn Savita - Page 9

First of all Manav saying "MY mom does not love me" is the same thing he is repeating coming to conclusions without thinking for once just like "I am not eliglbe part" which started this mess.
Archu seems to understand Savita more than Manav.She without seeeing Savita realizes that what Savita told was not from her heart.First when Damo told Manav about Savita well Manav gave priority to what Madhuri ???? than his mom..Savita was right he just came to see her coz he heard she was sick and when Damo said in fact kind of said Manav please tum ,Manav said I will come and fall in my mom;s feet.I will ask Manav where is ur thinking ? Have u dont have a common sense to priortrize between which is imp ,is Madhuri for u more imp than ur mom;s health which u can easily sideline for later.This postponement and negligence of Manav towards his mom has made this mess he is in.When Savita was saying those words cant even see on her face she is not alright she is sick and what she is talking is not coming from her heart.Anyone seeing her would clearly think first that something is wrong with this old women insetead of going and crying to ur wife and make her feel more gulity saying "My mom does not love me any more."
This stupidity of Manav seems to be going on in an effort to now bring Archu to limelight.If thats the case then plzzz at least do that she can handle Savita better than these 2 male idiots .The father son combo sucks big time and are totally hopeless.IT seems in Father son case only Mother and daughter in law can do something both males in family of D's are hopeless.
I am never saying is Manav is wrong he is good son,good husband but his way of dealing things have lead him to the current situation.
Well by using the ignorant approach Manav just dug grave for himself.Had he thought before he would not be facing this situation.Savita already had hatred to Archu and this approach just pushed savita to a limit where I think she is in a state where she does not know what she wants.I am not sure even if Manav comes back she is going to be happy.
What Savita needs right now is proper medical care at all cost with proper attention and most imp love.There is no point with Manav coming back as a lifeless soul without Archu ,its not going to cure Savita.
I think as people say the older one get the more childish the mind becomes .Savita with her age has this mental block so nothing normal is going to help.
Alas Manav had thought about consequences before rather than showing stubbornness at that point of time.
Now Manav needs to take the initiative and just go to D's along with Archu just cut all the samaj Seva for K's and tell ARchu as well to just focus on sasural and then be with Savita. Savita is a mentally sick child at the moment.You dont leave a mentally sick child and go away instead you stand by th child and keep trying and pray and hope things get well soon.Similarly I think Arman needs to stay with Savita ,Savita would not accept it initially but they need to show persistence and give in return love and care for Savita hatred,this will cure Savita slowly. We dont abandon a mentally retarded child and I think Arman should be with Savita for her sake and for Sachu sake.

Haha, exactly! Her attitude's just getting too old!

Originally posted by: Jaishankar

First of all Manav saying "MY mom does not love me" is the same thing he is repeating coming to conclusions without thinking for once just like "I am not eliglbe part" which started this mess.
Archu seems to understand Savita more than Manav.She without seeeing Savita realizes that what Savita told was not from her heart.First when Damo told Manav about Savita well Manav gave priority to what Madhuri ???? than his mom..Savita was right he just came to see her coz he heard she was sick and when Damo said in fact kind of said Manav please tum ,Manav said I will come and fall in my mom;s feet.I will ask Manav where is ur thinking ? Have u dont have a common sense to priortrize between which is imp ,is Madhuri for u more imp than ur mom;s health which u can easily sideline for later.This postponement and negligence of Manav towards his mom has made this mess he is in.When Savita was saying those words cant even see on her face she is not alright she is sick and what she is talking is not coming from her heart.Anyone seeing her would clearly think first that something is wrong with this old women insetead of going and crying to ur wife and make her feel more gulity saying "My mom does not love me any more."
This stupidity of Manav seems to be going on in an effort to now bring Archu to limelight.If thats the case then plzzz at least do that she can handle Savita better than these 2 male idiots .The father son combo sucks big time and are totally hopeless.IT seems in Father son case only Mother and daughter in law can do something both males in family of D's are hopeless.
I am never saying is Manav is wrong he is good son,good husband but his way of dealing things have lead him to the current situation.
Well by using the ignorant approach Manav just dug grave for himself.Had he thought before he would not be facing this situation.Savita already had hatred to Archu and this approach just pushed savita to a limit where I think she is in a state where she does not know what she wants.I am not sure even if Manav comes back she is going to be happy.
What Savita needs right now is proper medical care at all cost with proper attention and most imp love.There is no point with Manav coming back as a lifeless soul without Archu ,its not going to cure Savita.
I think as people say the older one get the more childish the mind becomes .Savita with her age has this mental block so nothing normal is going to help.
Alas Manav had thought about consequences before rather than showing stubbornness at that point of time.
Now Manav needs to take the initiative and just go to D's along with Archu just cut all the samaj Seva for K's and tell ARchu as well to just focus on sasural and then be with Savita. Savita is a mentally sick child at the moment.You dont leave a mentally sick child and go away instead you stand by th child and keep trying and pray and hope things get well soon.Similarly I think Arman needs to stay with Savita ,Savita would not accept it initially but they need to show persistence and give in return love and care for Savita hatred,this will cure Savita slowly. We dont abandon a mentally retarded child and I think Arman should be with Savita for her sake and for Sachu sake.

I fail to see what more manav can do to keep Savita happy. I think it is very very unfair to him and he does not deserve all this bashing.

Well when Savita is wrong then Manav is also wrong for his approach.Well what did he do in the first place.During all those times before it was Archu who forced him to go and see his mom.How can one say he has done all he could do. In fact by his poor approach he has not done anything. Just for the sake of asking forgiveness does not solve the problem. You dont just insert a knife in ones heart and then go and say sorry.Thats not how it is. Mother - son relationship is the most imp relationship.

Also According to the articles as said I hope the track is going in a direction I think which will pave way for Archu to take matter into hands and even make a bold decision of she saying to Manav lets go to D's instead of otherway round. I think its been done to bring Archu into limelight so I think we might see Archu unable to see Manav sorrow makes a bold decision of taking Manav to D's and taking control of situation.Who knows when Savita sent Damo to jail Archu came and gave a session to Savita.I would like to see this in a way that Archu says enough u two now get ur mental block out of ur mind and sort it out kind of thing.Would love to see her take control ,I think Savita would then just keep quiet ,I think Savita needs some one to take control of her take right on her and take care of her which ARchu will do.I hope something like this comes up instead of a pathetic split of Arman...

Originally posted by: vishwap

And I am sick and tired of all the blame which Arman get , especially Archana for being the cause of Savita's problems. As though Savita has been very fair in her dealings always. Her actions are "practical" but Arman's actions are "mahaan"? When they get "practical", then they become selfish!😕

Just read this interesting conversation...main points are well argued from both the sides👏...some contribution to a side note.

Karanjikars' two indulgences are wretched; Manjusha's eternal impunity and their partial respect (read indifference/apathy) to Manav's place.😡 They were more deferential to even a betrothed Jaywant, let alone married and rich Satish or Dharmesh. This smacks of hypocrisy and ingratitude

That said, Savita's grudge on Manav on the matter is commonplace but not condonable. She may be dismayed. But does it justify, even part thereof, her total renunciation of Manav? It appears, hey off with you unless you fight it out with them, you MY rooster. It's Manav's wish to punish or forgive them. Why should she hold-up this as collateral blockade to her relationship with her son? If Manav chooses to move forward on those relationships it's not her place to begrudge the forgiven. She may yet caution or remind him the drawback or if she chooses, she herself may be unforgiving but that can not translate into march out orders to a 'victim' for not 'fighting' his cause. As for her implied expectation from Archana the 'baggage' to tear off her relationship to her living parents, less said the better. If we remember, Manav's benevolent interaction with his own Sister's household is equally balanced. Besides, he does not propose to compromise or barter his duties or affections to his parent with new relations. No way, for all inferences from circumstantial conflicts, they do not point to base fabric of his disposition.

That said. Probably they are set for a generous and pious welcome by Aai. In the end, she herself goes collecting her children back to her nest. With a command, 'Ghar chalo'.🤗 Karanjikars go to your home.😆

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

I don't think there is anyone in this forum who would say " yes I would leave my mother even if she is sick , old and lonely ' ...it is obvious that no one wouldsay this ..We all are good daughters and good mothers , and there are loads of very good sons in this forum so why would they say this ...

But is this situation as simple as this.. I don't think so ...

When has Manav ever said ' I don't want to go back to my mother ' .He is dying inside .He desperately wants to go back to her ...he would go back the day she lets him .He tried to go back the day he got married , then several tiems again ....but this lady wants only her son back not the daughter in law ..She clearly told Vandita ' Why can't he leave his wife for me " ...??

Now you tell me , is this a fair demand ???

At this moment , I don't even know what her stand is ....??

What is it she wants , I have no idea any more ..I just see a very sick but a very stubborn woman who is getting even more sick because of all the clutter that is in her mind ....

When someone wants to control other this much then ususally they are left disappointed and lonely .....

However I do not blame her alone for this scenario ..Her son is also very responsible because he was the one who gave her these habits ....He let her rule him all her life and now suddenly he has realized that he wants to be happy on his terms ...Savita just cannot reconsile with this change ..She is finding it very hard to come to terms with this ...

What Manav did earlier was very very very wrong ...No wonder everything is so messed up now ..I blame him a lot for all this ....

I hope this track of Savita being difficult ends soon ....it is dragging and getting boring ...

If a mother loves her child so much then she will not be so angry that he is happy in his life.... It is just not possible for a loving mother to do so ...All this while she has witnessed the tears he shed for his love and how depressed he was ...

Both Manav and savita were wrong before ...They are both wrong now ..If Manav truly apologises now and wants to come back then I will be Ok with him ......

OMG Claire ...and then we say that all this is fiction only ..