Originally posted by: vishwap
I am getting reallt angry with women these days who keep harping on atma-samaan in a defiant vein. respect comes with humility, loss of vanity and a consideration of others, especially when you are married. If she has this attitude she should move out and live alone with her hubby. No matter how mean Bhavna is, I think SATISH deserves a peaceful life.
Truly well said !!!!
Its not only women .Tthese days many often tend to equate self-respect with showing disrespect to others, which is not the same thing. True respect comes from the heart and is earned , just like love. Humility does not mean lack of self-respect.The line separating vanity and arrogance is rather thin, causing great harm to budding relationships.
Varsha should not let her relationship with Satish get ruined by showing disrepect to his mother when everyone has acknowledged the mistakes made and apologized.
Hi Vishwap:
yes I agree with you.
I was brought up in a houselhold pretty similar in values to karanjkars.
I was the youngest daughter and so very very indulged. If anyone had a fake sense of entitlement and this notion of vanity-masquerading as self-respect that was me hands-down.
My hubby choose to marry me though I was from a different community and this did not go well with his mother whom he loves. But he made this decision because he said he was sure I was the one for him. I was very uppity before marriage but when I moved for a month with my in-laws I realized if I want my man happy I needed to wisen up and be tactful about which battles to fight and which ones to drop. It makes my husband's life easier and our relationship stronger.
I too have slipped up on ocassion and seen my hubby's disagreement and stress but then I immediately try to self-correct. this does not make me doormat. women today should understand this. Parents and in-laws if not abusive should not be disrespeected in the name of self-respect and entitlement. the scars of their age and experience make them worthy of the respect badge.
I would however not hesitate from experiencing and vocalizing some displeasure if my hubby or somebody else of my own generation did something disrespectful towards me.
But in my personal opinion taking the higher moral ground always gains you respect of others as opposed to chanting the "Respect Me" nara from rooftops and making it a do or die issue which Varsha is doing right now. it shows a great degree of immaturity in my opinion.