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gaurimisha

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Posted: 15 years ago

#21

As usual great commentary Kool.

As much as I loved yday's episode,I hated today's.

But I agree with C,most of the time Indian women are ashamed to come out in the public about it ....I remember when Ekta first had shown marital rape in KSBKBT,there were many MS in Mumbai who were against it.....some even said,after marriage ,if a husband forces himself on his wife,it cant be called as rape as he is her husband....I was apalled to read it in newspapers.Women cant file a case of marital rape but yes it can be of domestic violence.

What Ekta is showing is apalling,but for the greater Indian women who chose to stay silent and take abuse,it'll raise some kind of emotions.....what she's trying to gather is public awareness against marital rape.

I disagree that if Archu sees Vandu's bruises she'll ask her to tolerate...she may ask her to hide it but she'll definitely do something to pull up Ajit....clearly she'll understand her shakkar philosophy has failed,so she'll resort to some other philosophy which only time will tell...but I dont think she'll stand back helplessly and advice Vandu to tolerate it bcoz Ajit is her husband...nope I dont believe Archu is going to say such.

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addenise

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Posted: 15 years ago

#22

I never thought the day would have come when PR cr's would have done this...i have lost all faith in this once lovable show....i mean, vandu is such a young gal and to have her represented in such a manner is utterly shocking and demeaning....

i so agree with sushant when he stated that telly actors are not given a chance to show case their talent cause tracks keep changing to suit trps....these actors are depicted as ppl with multiple personalities...typical example today..savita aai....shown being so nice to archana and next morning a total demon.....i am scared to comment on characters now....i like archana and tend to defend her..but now....i mean...just a waste....couldnt imagine this show would have gone so bad in such a short period of time...i am mortified.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#23

Addenise and Ali

I totally agree that Savita's Jekyll and Hyde colors..............a weeping human once and a demonic saas later is fast giving lesser and lesser credibility to PR .

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commentator

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Posted: 15 years ago

#24

I'm not sure that highlighting the issue is what the creatives are aiming for. It's difficult to hazard any guesses about any of their motives other than the profit one. However, this could be the only positive - even if entirely incidental outcome - of the rape episode.

While obviously marital rape is to be condemned in the strongest words, I imagine there must be women who slowly teach their husbands not to use force and to let them have a say in such matters, and then go on to lead relatively decent lives with the same men. It's a complicated thing, and sometimes a man's other virtues might make up for a couple of incidents of violence. Who knows, everybody makes compromises based on their circumstances. My mother always says I'm an unforgiving ek ghav don tukdey kind of person, so I wouldn't have been able to deal with it, but I wouldn't look down on a woman who saw some compensatory traits in the man and tried to turn the situation around in her favour. People can be different in other aspects of life than they are in the sexual. Sometimes it's a matter of educating the husband, sometimes that's not possible. Women weigh their options and do what they think is right for them. The thing is, Ajit is an amoral person on all levels, so many of us will be revolted at the idea that Vandu may allow herself to be reconciled to him. But real-life characters aren't quite so black, hmm? Perhaps it's those men this episode might speak to... men who are otherwise honest or caring or even responsible husbands most of the time, or good fathers, who have on occasion used force on their wives, but of whose sexual behaviour something can still be salvaged if they were made to understand the terrible wrongness of what they've done and are convinced not to do it again.

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Tanyaz

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Posted: 15 years ago

#25

I hope they stop this sickening track and don't show this whole rape thing .It just dos not make any sense , vandu marrying this man and the whole family accepting it so quietly , not possible . Archana's prediction that Ajit will become a good man made me laugh .She needs to wake up.

Manav is very foolish , the way he is tackling his garage problem . He is hardly ever shown as going to places with Tarun or calling Girish Ji to find out about illegal land . His commiment to Shravani has made him only run around her and get medicines etc etc ..

Shravani is a rich girl .I remember the house she hused to live . Arranging money should not be a problem for her . She loves manav so maybe she will try .I mean we have not been told that Girish is bankrupt or anything like that .

Archu irritated me today because of her thinking that Ajit might become good . Manav irritated me because he is just such a weak person , unable to do anything for anyone except Shravani .

Damodar is the only sensible person in the house ...rest are duffers .

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#26

You have tremendous confidence in Archna it seems but alas I have none .I also dont know on what basis your confidence lies ......even if Archu does see the bruises and goes to pyll Ajit up , what r her useless efforts gonna do .They r ineffective anyway .She stopped Manav from getting aroused in anger when it was most needed and in a sense welcomed those slaps , came home , told him to hide the real face of Ajit and Rasika from Deshmukhs , and was now shown saying NOW ONLY BAPPA WILL HELP VANDU . What a ridiculous statement ! First humans shud do mess inspite of having opprtunities to avoid it ............like dragging Vandu home away from that hell hole , and then they shud pray to Bappa for a miracle .What did Archna expect , Bappa to send a ray of light from heaven to blot out Vandus memory of that rape ? For now even Bappa can do only this miracle ...............as the rape has already happened thanks to her decision of leaving Vandu behind !

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: commentator

I'm not sure that highlighting the issue is what the creatives are aiming for. It's difficult to hazard any guesses about any of their motives other than the profit one. However, this could be the only positive - even if entirely incidental outcome - of the rape episode.

While obviously marital rape is to be condemned in the strongest words, I imagine there must be women who slowly teach their husbands not to use force and to let them have a say in such matters, and then go on to lead relatively decent lives with the same men. It's a complicated thing, and sometimes a man's other virtues might make up for a couple of incidents of violence. Who knows, everybody makes compromises based on their circumstances. My mother always says I'm an unforgiving ek ghav don tukdey kind of person, so I wouldn't have been able to deal with it, but I wouldn't look down on a women who saw some compensatory traits in the man and tried to turn the situation around in her favour. People can be different in other aspects of life than they are in the sexual. Sometimes it's a matter of educating the husband, sometimes that's not possible. Women weigh their options and do what they think is right for them. The thing is, Ajit is an amoral person on all levels, so many of us will be revolted at the idea that Vandu may allow herself to be reconciled to him. But real-life characters aren't quite so black, hmm? Perhaps it's those men this episode might speak to... men who are otherwise honest or caring or even responsible husbands most of the time, or good fathers, who have on occasion used force on their wives, but of whose sexual behaviour something can still be salvaged if they were made to understand the terrible wrongness of what they've done and are convinced not to do it again.

C

Totally agree with u .

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Tanyaz

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Posted: 15 years ago

#28

kool the person who can help vandita right now is Vandita herslef . Her family can only talk to her and tell her that what is happening is wrong but Vandu has to pick herslef up and decide if she is Ok with the idea of this happening to her all the time ...obviouly not , no one can be Ok with it .

So she has to gather herself up and leave .

Archana can only tell her , I think so will Varsha ....I a msure she will have well wishers telling her to leave but she has to do it on her own ...

Like her brother she is being adamant on going along with a samjhote ka stupid rishta ...

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 15 years ago

#29

Done . Next to THE GOAT GANG , I will now call the Deshmukhs as THE DUFFER KHANDAAN from now on , remembering your post which I agree with in toto , Tanya !