Logon ka kaam hai kehna: ajao saray - Page 17

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

She used Babita to avoid facing her own feelings. She was going up to meet her regardless but then Naeem Bi called saying the same thing and the "dekha" to Mickey was a slight reassurance that no matter how shitty her own life gets, Babes needing her is the one thing she can always count on. But post marriage, that won't be true.

Minnie knows what her place is in Babe's life and HS' life on individual territories. But where does she stand in Hanita's life? Where does she fit in?

Kammo's comments about Minnie being a constant, ugly reminder about Ashok, and then HS' love for her being a tool just to get to Babita - they're all very nasty. To some level Minnie may dismiss them as being "kuch bhi" but on a much deeper level, they must have settled somewhere in her mind. She can't eradicate Ashok's DNA from her body and she hasn't fully accepted HS as her father since she's constantly referring to him as her uncle. She may have gotten used to referring to her as uncle from all these months but they have advanced their relationship beyond that. In administrative purposes, in divine settings and now legally too, HS will become her father. And yet, she hasn't even considered changing her term of endearment for him.

Amidst all these wedding preparations, she may have forgot, but it is something she needs to seriously think about.

@bold it's partly because she assumes that her relationship with HS does not need any more work or hoops to be jumped through but it's not true. It's still not where it could / should be. Then again, it is not compulsory that she wholly accepts him as her father as opposed to just her mother's husband, even if it's something a lot of us would like to see. There is actually nothing wrong with the status quo.

It's ironic that the girl who always urged her mother to stop caring about log kya kahenge is herself affected by them. This highlights something important. It requires a certain level of self-confidence and security to actually not be affected or influenced by what people say. They can only get to you if you let them or if they unwittingly touch a raw nerve.

In Minnie's case, if she hadn't had those insecurities already, Kammo and Khatri's words would have just been like water off a duck's back.

What I don't get is what no one is willing to admit that it is Mickey who has been putting in seeds of doubts in Mini head regarding her Babes and her relationship and her happiness etc is the under doing here and it has been done for a purpose by Mickey to show that he is the only one who is thinking of her and her happiness etc.

And Mini is shown as being silly to believe him than the bond that she shares with her Babes etc is unreal and stupid that She cannot see the Woods from the Tree here.

He did it for a reason and that is obvious to get Mini at any cost by pretending to be her well wisher and friend who loves her is sick and stupid.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Kammo is back at the haldi ceremony. Everything got resolved so quickly? 😕

Ab pata ni. I don't want her to be forgiven so quickly. What she said was really mean and wrong. Besides, her apology isn't going to undo the damage that's already been done.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Aap bolte raho, hum sunte rahenge. 🤗

Thank you ji. 😳🤗

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Yes I want happy family moments, cute mini-babes moments, HS-Mini moments, and Hanita’s romantic moments. Ye sab toh hone se raha ab 😭

Nahi! Shubh shubh bolo. Agar yeh khush ni rahenge, phir hum kaise hoyenge.😒

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I also really want HS to call her Babita. I noticed he said that once to her in earlier episodes. Hayeee kitna cute sound karega 😳.

Babita on the other hand might just stick to Ji 😆. You’re right about Bajrang Bali lol. When I first heard his name in the show, I thought it was hilarious that this is his name 😆

Right! I knew he called her by her name once. I can't wait till they start speaking to each other informally.

Haha, my dad had the same reaction when he found out his name is Hanuman. 😆

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Yeah yeah wahi. Decorations plus outfits.

OMG I miss seeing the Haveli. Every part of the Haveli looks the same, I can't even identify where is anybody standing at that moment!

Yes!!! There were some shots where the Haveli looked massive as if it was a wealthy mansion. And it looked so off cuz that's not the Haveli that I remember.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I would actually love it if Mickey talks to HS about his observations regarding Minnie, since he knows HS is the only one who can get through to her.

And yes, Minnie's going to really really need her father this time. From what we saw in the hospital scenes, this time round too HS will be awesome even if he will struggle with his emotions too and will have to overcome this obstacle as her father. Putting Minnie first is going to be challenged and looked at from multiple angles going forward.

Yup!

This can work in three-folds:

1. HS & Mickey's relationship will grow stronger. HS will see how much Mickey really cares for Minnie and his overall opinion of the young boy will change. The boy is capable of possessing deeper thoughts and is willing to put in the work to make sure that his friends stay happy. And the fact that it's Minnie, will make HS even more content.

2. Mickey & Minnie. Minnie is in absolute denial right now but because Mickey is operating from a third party position, he is able to see the potential dangers that lie ahead if Minnie doesn't address the issues soon. She may be get irritated whenever he tries to show her the mirror, but it is absolutely essential for her longterm health. When enough time has passed, she will come to realize that once again, it was Mickey who stood by her and helped her out even when she refused to help herself. That's what best friends are for.

3. Minnie and HS. Undoubtedly this will make their relationship even stronger as this time around HS will be working from the capacity as a father while Minnie as a daughter. The fears, worries and anguish that will plague HS will be similar but also different in the sense that now he will have certain rights that he can execute. But how far he can extend those rights and how comfortable Minnie will feel be the receiver of those rights is something yet to be seen. He's no longer her Uncle, he's her dad. How will Minnie feel knowing that she now has a dad who is investing so much time and effort in her mental health? Previously, she was yearning for a dad who could take the time out to ask her a simple, "How are you?" Now, she has someone who constantly looks out for her wellbeing even when she herself fails to do so.

Originally posted by: inlieu

it's partly because she assumes that her relationship with HS does not need any more work or hoops to be jumped through but it's not true. It's still not where it could / should be. Then again, it is not compulsory that she wholly accepts him as her father as opposed to just her mother's husband, even if it's something a lot of us would like to see. There is actually nothing wrong with the status quo.

It's ironic that the girl who always urged her mother to stop caring about log kya kahenge is herself affected by them. This highlights something important. It requires a certain level of self-confidence and security to actually not be affected or influenced by what people say. They can only get to you if you let them or if they unwittingly touch a raw nerve.

In Minnie's case, if she hadn't had those insecurities already, Kammo and Khatri's words would have just been like water off a duck's back.

Yup. She fell into a safe space with HS and it's largely because the recent events that took place were a family matter. The public had no business of getting themselves involved. But because of the wedding, they've been put under the scrutinizing eyes of the entire society. Ab agar log hoyenge, phir baatein bhi toh hoyengi.

I think Kammo's taunts and Mickey's advises triggered something in her. Mickey has been prepping her to find a life outside of Babes because it'll do her good in the long run. But Kammo took things lower by presenting Minnie as a problem in Babes' life. This girl has been trying to eliminate all obstacles in Babes' life so that she can attain the ultimate happiness. But what'll she do when she herself is the problem?

(Not saying that she is but I feel like she's starting to see herself that way.)

Like the pizza scene, she'll try to retract so that Hanita can spend some time together. In return, Hanita may take this the wrong way and try to involve her more which Minnie again, may read it the wrong and assume they're doing this out of guilt. Hence, out of her own guilt, she'll try to retract again. This cycle will end up consuming them unless they don't break it soon.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Yup!

This can work in three-folds:

1. HS & Mickey's relationship will grow stronger. HS will see how much Mickey really cares for Minnie and his overall opinion of the young boy will change. The boy is capable of possessing deeper thoughts and is willing to put in the work to make sure that his friends stay happy. And the fact that it's Minnie, will make HS even more content.

2. Mickey & Minnie. Minnie is in absolute denial right now but because Mickey is operating from a third party position, he is able to see the potential dangers that lie ahead if Minnie doesn't address the issues soon. She may be get irritated whenever he tries to show her the mirror, but it is absolutely essential for her longterm health. When enough time has passed, she will come to realize that once again, it was Mickey who stood by her and helped her out even when she refused to help herself. That's what best friends are for.

3. Minnie and HS. Undoubtedly this will make their relationship even stronger as this time around HS will be working from the capacity as a father while Minnie as a daughter. The fears, worries and anguish that will plague HS will be similar but also different in the sense that now he will have certain rights that he can execute. But how far he can extend those rights and how comfortable Minnie will feel be the receiver of those rights is something yet to be seen. He's no longer her Uncle, he's her dad. How will Minnie feel knowing that she now has a dad who is investing so much time and effort in her mental health? Previously, she was yearning for a dad who could take the time out to ask her a simple, "How are you?" Now, she has someone who constantly looks out for her wellbeing even when she herself fails to do so.

Completely agree, especially with the third point. Just saying that he's her father isn't enough. This is going to actually be a real test of his love as well as his ability to do right by her.

I don't think Minnie knows yet what a father is supposed to be like. To now have one who is even more caring than before would be overwhelming for her. She's not used to someone paying that much attention to her. Sure, HS has been with her through thick and thin since day 1, but he has largely remained at the macro level. How would she deal with him becoming involved at the macro level too? I think she had neglected her own happiness and wellbeing for so long that she is uncomfortable if anyone shows such a depth of caring understanding.

Also, she will have to get used to being loved to pieces by her father. She has no idea what extent he can go to for her, and after the wedding he will be armed with the security to go to the ends of the earth for her in an official capacity. She needs to see that for herself and understand he is doing it because he wants to and not because he has to. The only thing compelling him would be his paternal love.

One thing I don't ever want to see is Minnie being affected by Kammo's words about HS using her as a means to get to Babita, and doubting HS' loyalty and unconditional love for her. It will destroy her because she would feel as if she's lost a father again.

Again, I will say this... I know Babita has been working towards this second chance at life but Minnie deserves a second chance to have both parents who complete her in the way only parents can. She deserves to have the love and support of a father. She deserves that he does indeed stop at nothing for the sake of her happiness, no matter how difficult the situation. Will HS be able to step up? After all, he is dealing with his own issues, trying to look after Babita, and has never had experience parenting anyone. He's bound to make mistakes and be mentally overworked himself. How will Minnie react then?