Hypocrite Hanuman??

Today, the confrontation between Hanuman, Babita and Minnie engendered mixed feelings.

He was right in stopping Minnie from going overboard while scolding Babita but I felt he should have been a little sensitive towards Minnie's feelings as well. He must have learnt by now that Minnie is not any usual rebellious teenager to disobey or disrespect her mother for no reason.

And if she has lost her cool this much and went overboard with her reaction, then should he not once think before and question himself about why would she have behaved so beastly with her mother? He could've just stopped at making her stop her scolding. Making her apologise when she's not in her right state of mind and that too in a rude tone didn't go well with me.

He could've shown the maturity which he had while advising Babita about giving Minnie her freedom to choose her friends now to Minnie as well.

Just few episodes back he said that this angry young girl image best suits her and that's what makes her a Veer Balika whom he admires very much. I wonder what happened to those feelings of admiration now?

Isn't Hanuman being hypocritical in this regard?

Well, that's my opinion. Criticism and diverse perspectives are always welcome.

I have not not seen today's episode yet but will comment afterwards. But I must say that Mini can be rude at times and sometimes it is not nice.

I disagree completely with you.

Agreed Mini had problems at Collage which she bought home in a bad way. But why did she not tell her Mother instead of hiding everything. I see this a lot and its s shame.

When her Mother is telling her she is preoccupied and than when she hears partnership she starts yelling and shouting at her Mother and it was shocking how she went on at her. Its was right when HS stepped in and told her enough and to apologise. Which she did and also told Babita not to go after her which again is right. Mini shouts and apologies and Mum goes to make her feel better is not the right way.

She has to tell Babita, Nayeem Bi or HS what happened instead of hiding. She is not wrong in what happened at School but at home shouting is wrong.

It was a beautiful scene. Again, HS being her father in the true sense. Often this happens in households where the point is that whether or not one parent is right or wrong, the other parent doesn't tolerate their child being disrespectful to the parent. It helps prevent parental authority from being undermined.

The subtle ways in which HS is taking the place of a father in Mini's life without any of them realizing it is wonderfully done. Ashok is nowhere to be scene. All he knows is to brag about his name and his title as her biological father, but in terms of emotions and guidance he's absent 100% of the time. Hanuman's way of dealing with Mini also shows why even though mother-daughter have a great bond, it's important for a girl to have a father (figure) growing up too. He is able to balance out Babita and see things that neither Mini or her mother can.

The way HS was counting to 5 and Mini's expression changed at each number showed what a hold he has on her emotions and how much she respects him and his authority to finally back down and apologize. I really loved this scene, and every other HS-Mini scene where these two take another small step closer to being father-daughter. The writers are doing a fabulous job. Wow!

Me too didn't find HS hypocrite here. Mini can be very rude to people when she's not in a right mind of state, as she is very hot headed. He could have thought for a moment, why she is behaving like this and reacted, but then he's also Mimi's very own hot headed Hanuman uncle after all. . 😀

I found all three behave like a typical family. Neither Mini nor Babes asked him to not interfere between the two , it was like they both accepted him like their own family and he has all the right to interfere between them..

What I have understood from the scene ,is that Mini with her state of mind ,lost control of her temper. I truly understand the humiliation she went through at school. She is disturbed more by the sms she is receiving. She is angry, stressed,helpless and in a state where her mind is not able to take anymore insults. In addition with babita joining partnerships with the Khatir and gang who insulted them from beginning added oil to Minnie’s anger and humiliation. Minnie being very open with her Mother and promising many times she will consult with her Mother with every problem she face failed to do just that in the scene. She could have told her Mother what happened the moment she entered the house but she wanted to hide it. No matter what you are going through personally ,that does not justify to be rude to your parents. Babita was so shocked with her daughter ‘s reaction that she was speechless and that moment what Hanuman did is absolutely right, Minnie was going overboard with her rudeness. As Mother of 2 teenage boys I have been there ,my husband had to step in to correct my boys.When one parent is not able to correct them the another step in. That was what it was shown. That’s my opinion.

Originally posted by: Devilow0405

What I have understood from the scene ,is that Mini with her state of mind ,lost control of her temper. I truly understand the humiliation she went through at school. She is disturbed more by the sms she is receiving. She is angry, stressed,helpless and in a state where her mind is not able to take anymore insults. In addition with babita joining partnerships with the Khatir and gang who insulted them from beginning added oil to Minnie’s anger and humiliation. Minnie being very open with her Mother and promising many times she will consult with her Mother with every problem she face failed to do just that in the scene. She could have told her Mother what happened the moment she entered the house but she wanted to hide it. No matter what you are going through personally ,that does not justify to be rude to your parents. Babita was so shocked with her daughter ‘s reaction that she was speechless and that moment what Hanuman did is absolutely right, Minnie was going overboard with her rudeness. [B]As Mother of 2 teenage boys I have been there ,my husband had to step in to correct my boys.When one parent is not able to correct them the another step in[/B]

That was what it was shown. That’s my opinion.

Well said, exactly my thoughts. HS behaved like a typical father here for Mini... Correcting his teenage daughter from disrespecting her innocent mother.😀

You're all of the opinion that Hanuman only did what a father would've done with his errant child. I agree with that completely.

But in most cases, teenagers do not understand the real intention of the parents behind scolding or punishing them for their mistakes. Scolding or giving harsh punishments when they're at their peak of anger and irrationality would only create a negative image about the parents in the child's mind. And they in turn become more rebellious and less transparent with their parents.

I can understand why Minnie chose to hide her problems from Babita and Hanuman. It's because of her mother's impulsive nature. I think she would've shared with Hanuman before Babita but when he was busy pointing out her faults when she's emotionally drained, even that idea would've been dropped by her. Babita always jumps to the worst of conclusions without even letting Minnie/anyone explain things fully. That is what most parents do in their fears. They do not even hear the complete problem before they conclude the worst. They start scolding the children for bringing up more problems in their already busy, tensed life.

It is this reaction that makes teens hide their problems from their parents. They no more feel the freedom to share things with their parents when they get such reactions. The transparency between the parent and child slowly reduces.

Mickey dealt with her more maturely yesterday than Hanuman. He pointed out Minnie's mistake only after she calmed down. He just told her to apologise to her mother but Minnie realized and understood all her mistakes completely without anyone saying so. That was because she was calm then.

That is why I feel that Hanuman could've made her apologize later to Babita rather than the way he did.

Well people dont share if they are in trouble especially in some delicate situation where it involves their reputation.

I have been there... I was bullied in college... And that person said that i was spreading rumours and she cried in front of big gang of bully boys who disliked me. They decided this was the beat way to teach me a lesson and tried to intimidate me. Believe me it was terrible it changed me a lot for months i have woken up with nightmares and till date i am Claustrophobic in closed small spaces

Luckily i am very close to my brother and we have a relationship that i never need to hide anything and he gave me courage and guidance to handle the situation.

I would have never told my mother as she is similar to babita and my father is a very mild person. Bro is shrewd and street smart he not only gave me the courage but also stepped in and warned them of consequences of messing with his sister

I agree children tend to hide their problems due many things, yes parents can be impulsive or not understanding but most parent are there to protect their kids. If they had an open relationship with their parents this would not rise. I am very close to my boys , I have a very open relationship with my boys. The first thing as parents we can assure our kids is that we are there for them under any circumstances. Whether it is good or bad. Always assure that if they made a mistaken ,yes they will be reprimanded at first but as parents we are always there for them. As a parent gaining the trust and understanding of your child is very important, if the child feels they is always their parents there for them. The relationship between the child and parents is a breeze.But one thing bringing up your child with honesty ,mannerisms and upright is very important I detest parents who support their children even if they know their children are in wrong. That is not right.