-What if Series-Respect is Earned, Not Forced - Page 2

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

@bold: thank you for mentioning me and thinking that I can give the TL;DR version of what you said 😆

I actually think what you wrote is pretty eloquent and I do agree. Dhara/their family/their society has a mentality where if the elders are not addressed by their relationship title it will come across as disrespect or insult. In fact, maami would probably be the first one to taunt that ShiSh are not respecting rishita if they call her by name. Such people don't/can't understand that respect is actually in one's mind and the manner of addressing shouldn't matter, and sadly need such titles to register the fact that there is respect. It is equally sad that even though the manner of calling is completely hollow without any real respect behind it (bhabhi from Shiva to rishita) it has to be done to keep up appearances and for society's sake.

So I understand where dhara is coming from and why she wants Shiva/Krish to call Rishita/Raavi as bhabhi, but god, I hate her biases and her methods of getting what she wants so much 🤢😆

Thank you! 🤗

It always seems like I am supporting Dhara 🤣 I agree with her on the Bhabhi thing but nothing else.

I am actually frustrated as hell with her. She should actually learn from Rishitha- just be frank. Since Dhara is generally tactful, if she starts being frank, people will digest it easily. Tackle the actual issue, not this roundabout way. People, especially adults, get irritated if you treat them like kids. If she stopped being Maa, I think everything would have fallen in place easily.

And why on earth is she fed up in the first 15 days of the marriage. I would have understood if they had been doing this for a year or so

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Thank you! 🤗

It always seems like I am supporting Dhara 🤣 I agree with her on the Bhabhi thing but nothing else.

I am actually frustrated as hell with her. She should actually learn from Rishitha- just be frank. Since Dhara is generally tactful, if she starts being frank, people will digest it easily. Tackle the actual issue, not this roundabout way. People, especially adults, get irritated if you treat them like kids. If she stopped being Maa, I think everything would have fallen in place easily.

And why on earth is she fed up in the first 15 days of the marriage. I would have understood if they had been doing this for a year or so

I have come to hate dhara and support her on nothing 😆

However I can understand where she is coming from in certain situations. In some others like her whining, stammering and physical abuse, i despise her and am disgusted with her 😡

She can be fed up if she wants in two days, but this is no way to react to a mess in which she had a major fault, and give such an abusive "punishment" to two people who were wrong, but did not deserve what they got

Thank you, everyone, for the beautiful series of conversations.

but when Dhara got married the boys were very young and here they are all grown up and have their own minds you cant push them to obey your rules you have to win their hearts and respect is give and take cant be forced .