Originally posted by: mimixoxo
jnam.. look at this way we as audience are promoting this culture. In a way as we are okay with concept, we are condming about such pairings..
Ie. look at what abby wrote.. Humayun looks younger and fresher, so its okay for him to come in such roles now... This mental makeup of most our our brown population until we change this thinking nothing will be changed.. until society changes their mental make up , producers will be throwing such shows and this cycle will be repeated.
I agree with what you said about FQ, alot of his older shows are not tolerable..
I agree, and getting out of that social conditioning is very imperative in my opinion because every time we accuse Sania Saeed of being too old, we are also suggesting to ourselves that once we become Sania's age, we too will be too old for love, romance, and simply the idea of feeling attractive. I can understand men not wanting to change in this mindset because, to put it bluntly, it helps them. For example, it widens the pool of potential mates for them regardless of whether they choose to date or not. It also is invigorating for a man to live in a world that conditions him to believe that he is ageless. It is a different matter that medical research has undermined this idea thoroughly. For example, it has been shown that men who have biological children at an older age are just as likely as the women to have children with genetic challenges.
But for women to embrace this idea is akin to self-flagellation. I can imagine being accepting of this idea when you are very young yourself because, again, it boosts your self esteem. But with time, surely women that are inching out of their twenties and older must realize how laughable this idea is that only the very young women can be viewed as youthful enough to be leading ladies? I mean, if you accept that, then you are also accepting the view that you will stop being attractive and worthy once you leave your mid-to-late thirties. Thereafter, you might as well be a piece of furniture lying around the house. In reality, of course, we know that there are innumerable women, actresses and otherwise, who have done some of their best, most-creatively satisfying work in their forties and older. Moreover, more than a handful of women discover love, romance in their forties or even later. Why are we then imposing these boundaries on what makes for a good story and good leading lady in fiction (and real life as well)? We are really depriving ourselves of good performances, luminous leading ladies, and massively engrossing yarns. Moreover, we are setting limitations on our own selves and what we can and cannot be in our lifetimes based on a number that has no real consequence, and we are transmitting these ideas to our next generation of women, thereby weakening them. After all there is no evidence that the body actually ages, one year at a time, steadily. Some people's organs and joints are supple and limber well into their fifth decade while for some others , a change (often a decline) is evident by their third decade or earlier.
I agree with you that it is brown women who have to take the first step towards rejecting this ageist mindset that is hurled at them. We cannot expect the men or even the younger women to take on this battle. And one step towards achieving that is putting all our might into preventing spectacular performers like Sammia Mumtaaz and Sania Saeed from falling into oblivion. If possible, we should discuss their recent work that we have enjoyed, and hope the series creators realize the importance of these performers. I mean, Hollywood nearly worships Meryl Streep. Why can't we value our not-so-young female performers and want to see them in leading parts as we do the male ones? I have been wanting to see the delightful Marina Khan in a romantic show for ages now. To me, she is still as delightful and yes, beautiful, today as she was in her Dr. Zoya days.
Edited by JNam - 8 years ago
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