DONT HATE AMAR SIR...he is NOT anti-Anya - Page 4

Originally posted by: ABBY_JERAN

those who r saying its highly unlikely that anant's family will allow her to work after marriage ...

well thats the nayi soch that cvs gonna portray

that how a conservative family like anants is finally bending to todays world

and cuming to why amar sir is giving navya re thinking marriage

let me say it again

we all know both anya r very young for marriage now

this is the time they shud hv built there career

marriage cud hv waited for 2-3 more yrs

any1 in amar sir's place wud hv said a full of potential gal like navya who has her whole life ahead of her to rethink abt marriage so soon

HE WASNT TELLING HER TO LEAVE ANANT BUT GIVE HER

CAREER A PRIORITY...

ANS THATS HOW IT SHUD BE AT THIS POINT OF NAVYAS LIFE

silla just said zindagi mein sirf business nahin hai

at the same time i want to add that life is not jus abt mushy mushy luv

and this job wont create any MU between ANYA

on the contrary it will create more respect between them for each other

Originally posted by: anamika_0

job after marraige???????hm...bajpais will kill their new bahu..bechara anant widow ho jayegaa

Originally posted by: 4shilpad

good post! I am so glad that this topic is being discussed. As you said life does not end after marriage and marriage is not all that life is about. Marriage and love are very important for a person to feel confident, secure, loved and supported- this love and support should help the person realise all their abilities, explore their skills, develop and grow as an individual, contributing to society and making a place for one self in the world. Anant will have this opportunity along with love. Why is Navya being made to choose between the two. She should also have the opportunity to work and explore and develop her skills and abilities along with love. Why should a girl be confined to home and hearth because that was her traditional role? She should have equal oppportunities. Home and hearth responsibilities can be shared between the girl and guy.

Amar Sir's question is what any normal person would ask of these two. They are only 21. They should focus on building their careers right now and then get married in a few years. My mother got married at 21, forty years ago!! Some things should change in 40 years.

We all know what Navya's response will be - she will say that being with Anant is her dream and she is trying to achieve her dream. Which is good in this case because without marriage they will not be allowed to even talk to each other. So they should get married now because then they can be together. But this choice should not mean that Navya has to give up everything else in her life. That is too big a sacrifice, it is too big a loss and it is really not even necessary. Toh loonies ko manana padega...hopefully that will be the story line. That will be the nayi soch...

It will be very good if Anant through this conversation realises what all Navya is having to give up for him...maybe that will encourage him to do something about it...

Also in case there are any problems because of Renu's divorce maybe Amar Sir can advice and help Anant and Navya to be financially independent - because that is when they will really be able to follow their dreams...living under the Bajpai's thumb as the youngest in that extremely hierarchical family is not likely to make anyone happy. let us see what happens... but I am glad that Amar Sir has raised this question. I am hoping it will lead to some good discussion...otherwise it is worrying to see both on the forum and in the serial that Navya giving up all other aspects of life for marriage is almost taken for granted...

Originally posted by: areeba_blossom

OMG!!! so Navya will still have to go to the laal office?!