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It was extremely painful to watch...actually any time Mohan is in pain, its difficult for me to watch For some reason Mohan is so real to me (I know I am Wacky like that)...but Since I am a Masochist like Monu I did watch the whole thing š
I love Mohan (kudos to Kunal and the writers āļø) But here I want to say something from Nanhis Perspective... She was only Ten, She had heard the horror story of a step father from Renu Via Addu. She tried and tried to make Addu understand that Mohan cares, That Mohan Loves Addu as much as he loves Nanhi and Megha. But Children are so Impressionable, their perspective changes from one Incident to another. A Ten yr Old can hardly be expected to have the Maturity and Faith of an older person. The Doubt and fear within her obliterated all the trust she had for Mohan. Addu Kept Pleading with her that Mohan doesnt Love him. And Look at the Facts, did Mohan expressed to Addu ever that He (Mohan) loves Addu?? Did he Tried to become friends with Addu?? Did he tried to even take the Kid seriously?? Addu's fear of having a step father multiplied and kept building up just because no one reassured him. For Mohan its all about actions, but in Addus case he needed to be more Verbal, more malleable. I am not saying that Mohan never tried...I am only saying that Mohan didnt give his 100% and Nanhi witnessed that. So did Megha...There is Guilt in Nanhi that how did she not believe her Brother?? Is she responsible for him leaving? How can she still love Mohan, inspite of everything that happened?? (Nanhi Loves Mohan, Still does...she is just very hurt and has to keep reassuring herself that she hates him by reiterating it over and over again) Her personal Guilt made her Lash out at Mohan...It was her way of releasing that agony within her...afterall who else could she have unloaded on, but her best and most trusted friend...
About Megha, I dont think it was anything to do with Trust. I dont think it is an issue of her not trusting Mohan, She did. Otherwise she would have Intervened long before for Addu and Mohan to behave cordially with each other. Instead She put her trust in Mohan, She put her Trust in her son to find their way to each other. Just Like Nanhi and Mohan did. She saw how Mohan behaved with Addu and Vise Versa. She didnt like it, But she never said a word to either of them. Because, IMO, she didnt wanted Mohan to feel like he is Addus stepfather. Neither did she wanted Addu to bring up the Stepdad thing to her. Because it is quiet a painful issue for a Mother to deal with. The fear that what if my kids dont accept the man in my life? what if I am responsible for the unhappiness of my child? and Most importantly, did I chose my Happiness over my own child?? She was in pain, she was drowning in Guilt...She couldnt bring herself to be happy with a man who her child left her for...because with or without Addu she would have been happy with Mohan. She knew that, she drove him away coz she was punishing herself...Its a lot of self loathing involved with her.
Mohan: Oh Mohan *sigh* he is so much in pain and he blames himself for Addu leaving too. even though he knows the truth. The guilt of never finding him, and futility of his own failure drove him away from the people he loves...Just like Megha, he is punishing himself in this self inflicted exile. He remembers his own behavior with Addu. He remembers how he never took Addu seriously. How he kept getting hurt by Addus Sautela baap reminders...but the truth is Mohan was Addus stepfather! A relationship between a step-parent and a stepchild has to be treated with care and caution. you have to Woo the child to your side...give him even more attention and care then your own, because this relationship is extremely delicate...you have to build it brick by brick. The relationship between a parent and a child is about faith...its beyond trust...when a dad throws his kid in the air the kid shrieks with delight, rather then be afraid of falling, because he has complete faith that his father will catch him. Mohan did try to win Addu, but he never gained that faith...It was largely Manipulated by Renu, but Mohan didnt try all that much to dispel Addus fear either.. In his defense, it never even occured to Mohan, that it would be so difficult to win over Addu, Since it was so easy with Nanhi, he thought he will win over Addu as well...and maybe his personality is such that he never actively tries to win people over... dunno...but circumstances were such that a little bit of thoughtfulness was required on his part.
His mistake, like you said, was leaving Megha and Nanhi. He left Megha and Nanhi...they feel abandoned by him. He meant well, and he is still on his mission, but he left them No matter the guilt and the Pain that came with the Tag of being a Sautela Baap, it was his responsibilty to bear it. Because the Truth is that He Married Megha and Became a dad to these kids. His responsibility wasnt just Addu but Megha and Nanhi also, in his pain and promise he forgot one thing that he is a man with responsibilties. A man provides and cares for his family, even if they hate him for it. That was his job and he didnt do it. Of course, he was in pain and I cant even blame him for leaving, coz like you said, he couldnt see the hatred and mistrust in Nanhi and Meghas eyes. But 12 yrs is a long time...
"I don't know who to blame more but one thing is sure what can be blamed the MOST is "Tag of Being a stepfather" š"
I concur!!! Poor Mohan 
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