Originally posted by: mads
... and for this, I disagree wit many here hwne they say that sam doesnt understand gunjan's POV..indeed, he does .. truly and completely .. but he diagrees wit it..
he understands it, but diagrees wit it .. she understand him, but diagrees wit it too .. thats what yest's scene was ALL abt .. and thats the most amazing thing abt them .. more than their love, they hav this HUGE amount of respect for each other ... due to which they can disagree soo many no of times, yet that doesnt spoil their equation at all .. because they kno that the other person may b right too!
nd thats where their thoughts clash - gunjan is the more reaistic one whereas sam is the eternal optimist .. and he wud do anything to remain that way, since forever .. mayb this was his way of getting over his painful childhood .. mayb after going thru so much at a young age he had decided to himself that he wud NEVER let anything go wrong in his life NOW .. he wud strive thru everything he can to make everything right for him always .. and thats why he is always so hyper when he is abt to lose gunjan from his life..coz when she is not around, nothing is right for him! as for gunjan, she has always been grounded ever since childhood and sees the world for what it is .. she, being the shy and under confident person cud never MAKE things right for her .. but then, she always accepted them as they wer without questioning their existence and moved on in her life .. becoming strong in the process!
that decision was not easy too..but hardly then had they started off their journey as lovers .. and hence they didnt kno how painful it might b staying apart! after goind thru so much as lovers .. and I m not jus talking abt emotional intimacy ..coz that they always had .. m talking abt physical intimacy too .. which is equally imp in every relationship .. they cannot jus stay away fpm each other now .. life absolutely feels empty, now that they hav discovered that they are truly soulmates! gunjan doesnt think/admire the concept of marriage .. more tha that, she feels that marriage is the only way for them to stay together now .. because of the way she has seen nups suffer .... befiore this, she hasnt even thought of marriage so early .. coz jus being wit sam made her happy .. she is NOT marriage obssesed like nups is! and she definitely isnt eacy for marriage .. she jus wants to marry him to b sure that nothing can separate him .. coz she thinks that marriage is the ultimate thing to stay together..again so naive!
and sam here knows the other side of mariage too, having seen his parents' marriage .. hence he is obvi not even gonna think abt it..or doesnt believ in it .. that doesnt mean he is committment phobic AT ALL! heck, even when he wasnt WITH gunjan he was soo utterly loyal to her .. then after this toh, nothing .. no force is strong enuf to drive them apart! I m utterly sure of that ...
Am replying to this in bits ... because I'm
snowed under with work 😭 !!!!
Agree completely to all the parts above!!! Just want to add ...
The whole shaadi thing ... why has it come up in Gunjan's mind at all ... obviously only because of Nupur's problems and the shaadi atmosphere in the house ... completely natural for any girl who's in love to start thinking about her own wedding in such an atmosphere, even one who's not prone to dreaming or thinking about such things at all. On top of which, Bui's repeated comments that she will now get the other two girls married off also ... and I'm not surprised that Gunjan is worried sick!!!!
Her thoughts aren't about marriage ... they're about being separated from Samrat and that's what's frightening her to death ...the only thing on her mind is - we're not married, the same thing can happen to us. Shows her naivety to some extent, shows the kind of upbringing and family that she comes from - that for her, being married is the ultimate solution to this threat that is suddenly hanging over her head.
samrat is coming from a completely different place ... probably because of his parents' divorce, he hasn't thought of marriage as a solution, all he knows is that he will not be separated from Gunjan, heck, he doesn't even want to talk about the possibility of that happening ....
BUT ... and this is where this couple's understanding of each other comes in so beautifully ...
Samrat says - that's the second time in one day you've mentioned marriage, Gunjan now all worried and conscious as to what she's saying - till now it was all about separating from Samrat, but Samrat's question makes her a little conscious, she tries to explain that it's because of the shaadi ka mahaul and all that's going on that she's getting these thoughts.
And Samrat understands immediately .... oh yes he does, but he has far less faith in marriage being the ultimate solution than she does and he says so.
And then HER understanding instantly ... even in the middle of her fears and worries, she knows where he's coming from - because really - is there
anything this couple doesn't know about each other? - and replies to his unspoken statement, by saying - all marriages don't break up.
And this for me was the
BEST part of the scene - he realises that at the moment, she's scared, she's looking for reassurance, not a debate on marriage, so he just gives her the reassurance she needs so desperately, by saying no, all marriages are not like that, because everyone doesn't have my chashmish. And she needs that closeness, that reassurance desperately - so he's succeeded, because she stops thinking about separation and suddenly she's just a young girl with dreams in her eyes about the boy she loves and being with him forever.
Again, this is why I loved the song on Sajan ... the build up was beautiful and totally apt 😍
Kaise batayen, kyun tujhko chahein, yaara bata na payen
How do I tell you why I love you, my love, I can't say it,
baatein dilon ki dekho jo baaki, aankhen tujhe samjhayen
what I can't say, what's in my heart, let my eyes tell you
tu jaane na, tu jaane na
Nigahon mein meri dekho jo hai bas gaya, voh hai milta tumse hubahu
See the one who's taken up residence in my eyes and my heart, see how much she resembles you
Jaane teri aankhen thi ya baatein thi vajah, huey jo tum dil ki aarzoo
Was it your eyes or your words, that you became the one desire of my heart
Yes, he's succeeded, she's forgotten her fears for the moment in her dreams - Gunjan has never been the kind to dream about marriage, that has never been her goal, but the problems with her sister have forced these thoughts into her head, and with Samrat's love and reassurance, those fears are replaced for the moment by dreams. The fears will come back tomorrow, but for today she's content to dream about her love like any young girl and dream about her own happy ending, especially when the guy she loves is only too happy and willing to share her dreams with her.
And his fears and insecurities about the institution of marriage will come back later too, but tonight the most important thing was to reassure his love, because for once, she's not the more mature one of the two, she's the one needing his maturity, his strength and his unconditional love. And he's right there to give that to her. They are like two pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, when she needs his strength, he's strong for her, and when he needs hers, she becomes strong for him.
Geet - Hui Sabse Parayee
