Originally posted by: Ashane25
I won't say about being young or values.....
It's just that Andy divorce shouldn't be normalised.....you know the no. of men who die because of mental health issues and ethnicity are much more than not getting divorce.....and around every 3 in 4 divorces are initiated by women only....
Women are rewarded custody even being a cheater......you can fight your whole life losing everything- time, money, reputation, seeing your child being provided a second father figure too.....but system doesn't care.....and don't cry because you are a bloody man....
Just because things weren't working well your partner kept child away from you and you never got to know about them.....and tbh this is very very normal in west.....freedom in marital aspects
.....why I said fatherless- half of the children don't have dad, you understand world's third largest country and superpower but unknown of origin....what if I make it motherless....
I am not against it if it's needed but not in full support that's it.....Andy world learns about relationships from India, you don't know it's a boon to be born here....I understand your fear and fighter attitude towards patriarchy and I respect it, but don't forget in the process everything is grey and other side exists too......
Reality is not a show or a movie with one sided narration....it's about life and values....
You're a male that's why it's a "boon" to be born in a country where girls are k!lled at womb, when they're born, they're stopped from studying, they're taught to be live a modest life, anything they indulge is against the tradition, can't express their opinions freely without fearing of being r@ped, killed or nasty burnt to death. I won't disagree that India is the best country, I always love my country and its rich values and traditions as well as culture. But I won't be blind towards the fault of the society where the "izzat" lies on the head of a woman. Ghar ki izzat, mohalle ki izzat blah blah blah all lies on the head of a woman.
As I already expressed my opinions about custody and all, and its root cause is also patriarchy. "Men don't cry" also have its roots from patriarchy and masculine aspects of society, any feminine based society don't have any objection to men crying. "Ladkiyon ke tarah ro raha hai..." isn't said by a woman, it's said by a man only. You are again shaming a society where women are given a choice to remain in a relationship and have the free will to break it and bond it. Not all children in west are fatherless, but their mothers have the rights and abilities to break a marriage if they're not getting adequate respect and mutual love in a relationship.
In India we glorify about relationships, but no one sees the sacrifices of both the gender especially the women folks to uphold that so-called relationships. Values aren't stoic and shouldn't be stoic, they're dynamic and should be changed with time. No value should harm the interest of a human being let alone escalating to abuse. And sorry not sorry, all the "values" and "traditions" should be maintained by women. Women shouldn't make male friends, they should always abide by their in-laws..like it was said earlier, a woman should be dependant on their father, later husband and then son. Why don't males have such conditions?
Again you're generalising a certain sections of the society to make judgment of the judiciary where as there are several cases of dowry deaths, female infanticides, acid attacks still prevalent in the country. Every other day a girl ranged from 5 yrs to a 80 year old women r@ped being reported in the newspaper and you guys get offended and shout "not all men". But you use a small percentage of cases to victimise a whole gender.
It's not a place of discussion but I don't consider it as a "boon" to be born in a society where I'm being or at the fear of being harassed even by close members of the family and less I talk about the expectations I have on me..
Let's take an example of Karwachauth. All married women are expected to fast for their husbands, how husbands do? Okay when some of them do, everyone hails them as equal to demi gods as if they're doing great by sacrificing their food and water where it is expected by women to sacrifice their food and water for their husband.
Edited by AninditaB - 11 months ago
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