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Sattvik

@sattvik

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Posted: 16 years ago

#11

I'm an Indian Man (ok so I'm 18 but still) and would love my wife when I get married!

Maybe Vansh just needs to be sat down with and had a big fat discussion about what Vaishnavi really is doing and why......

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Samirah Hossenbux

@samirah23

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Posted: 16 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: sattvik
I'm an Indian Man (ok so I'm 18 but still) and would love my wife when I get married!

Maybe Vansh just needs to be sat down with and had a big fat discussion about what Vaishnavi really is doing and why......

Satvik - there are so many challenges to balance wife and parents when you get married - it is tough for any guy especially if he decides to live in the same house with his parents after marriage.

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Chinu2004

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Posted: 16 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: samirah23

Satvik - there are so many challenges to balance wife and parents when you get married - it is tough for any guy especially if he decides to live in the same house with his parents after marriage.

Indian joint families have a strange custom. The boy and girl get married and then the girl needs to completely change for the boy. She needs to forget that she has parents, tolerate a step treatment from in laws and yet keep smiling. The boys mother considers her a rival and most mothers are riddled with an enormous odepius complex. The boy's mother tries to woo him in every way showering him with love and affection and even a guilt complex. What chance does a newly wedded wife against an experience 30 years?

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Sattvik

@sattvik

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Posted: 16 years ago

#14

Oedipus Complex? Where does that come into India?

That was by Freud, a westernised guy who just cared about one thing, that is a three letter word beginning with S and ending with x with an E in it. He was hardly a good psychologist and yet we have the pleasure of studying the work he "created"

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Chinu2004

@Chinu2004

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Posted: 16 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: sattvik
Oedipus Complex? Where does that come into India?

That was by Freud, a westernised guy who just cared about one thing, that is a three letter word beginning with S and ending with x with an E in it. He was hardly a good psychologist and yet we have the pleasure of studying the work he "created"

Oh yes! I know what you mean but there were somethings that he was right it..Oedipius complex does not have anything to do with the three letter word. Its got everything to do with the kind of possesive nature a mother displays towards her son and specially after he is married. If you dont believe me see the normal indian families. The majority of reel and real saas bahu dramas are a result of this complex...

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Sattvik

@sattvik

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Posted: 16 years ago

#16

The Oedipus complex is only about how a boy feels about his mother and then how he translates these feelings to other women and thus he distinguishes between the three letter word and his mother and other women.

Oedipus Complex is based upon Oedipus himself, the Greek who was fortold to kill his father and marry his mother, he was abandoned at birth and ended up killing his father and marrying his mother.....

I still don't understand about how the mother could be possessive about her child with the Oedipus Complex explaining in this situation. (I study Psychology and one of my exams that are in the coming weeks ask me to analyse behaviour using various models (e.g. Psychodynamic model with Freud and the O.C. and E.C. and development stages), so this is good practice for me!)

However I know that mothers are extremely attached to their mothers, like me, so when another woman comes into his life and he gives her more attention and listens to what she wants done, the mother would feel possessive and would be mean to her Bahu as she just wants her son back. So I do understand about that

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Samirah Hossenbux

@samirah23

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Posted: 16 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: chinuji2004

Indian joint families have a strange custom. The boy and girl get married and then the girl needs to completely change for the boy. She needs to forget that she has parents, tolerate a step treatment from in laws and yet keep smiling. The boys mother considers her a rival and most mothers are riddled with an enormous odepius complex. The boy's mother tries to woo him in every way showering him with love and affection and even a guilt complex. What chance does a newly wedded wife against an experience 30 years?

This is a good description of what really happens - and the boy always feels the guilt and then takes it out on his poor wife.

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