Gaurav & Vidya?

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megha

@cloudz

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Posted: 14 years ago

No I am not yet another supporter wishing for these two to get together. Rather, I wanted to say I would be extremely disappointed if the writers of the show decided to take it that way. One of the primary reasons I have started to follow this show rather than the 100 others out there is because I truly commend the makers in bringing out homosexuality in India out of the closet (pun very much intended). This is a country where until the very recent past being gay was a punishable crime (and it was something that made me ashamed to be from a country that i am otherwise very proud of)...thank God that this is no longer the case. However, society continues to see homosexuality as a disease which can be cured(?) - and unfortunately this isn't just the case in India but the US too where there are courses that claim to cure homosexuality

As much as I understand that people enjoy the chemistry (which I personally see none of) of the two actors playing Gaurav and Vidya I really wish people would stop wishing that Gaurav suddenly falls in love with Vidya. What message is that sending to people out there who already don't understand that a man can wholeheartedly love another man? Gay men marrying out of family pressure is a sad truth of indian society - wouldn't this cement the thought in people's head that we should get our gay child married and they will eventually 'fall in love'? No they won't fall in love because they aren't built to fall in love with another of the opposite gender. And how is it fair to Vidya anyway for her to end up with a man who in his heart will always be more attracted to someone else? Isn't it better for her to find someone who can be hers in every way - mind, body and soul?

Yes I know people have justified the cause that Gaurav could be bi...but by showing that would further confuse the minds of people who barely understand homosexuality. Also, what irks me even more is when people insinuate that Gaurav's love for a man has something to do with how his father treated his mother or a way of rebellion. Being gay is who he is - not a psychological condition that once it goes away he is open to being with Vidya

Just because Gaurav shows an emotional connection to Vidya does not mean he is falling in love with her and it depresses me to see that speculation. Is it just a love for the actors or some form of closeted homophobia? Gaurav and Karan clearly love each other and I would love for them to end up with each other supported by their family. Gaurav to me is the true hero of the show (Adi comes across as a blind buffoon unfortunately who is so hung up on his idea of being a man and his illusion of a perfect family that he refuses to see his father's cruelty, his brother's dilemma and most of all his mother's pain). And the hero of the show deserves happiness at the end.

And for anyone wondering I am very much a straight female and very in love with my husband...but just like I found and ended up with the love of my life...I'd like that they do too...why should it be any different just because they are both men?

Edited by cloudz - 14 years ago

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KhatamKahani

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Posted: 14 years ago

This main post needed to be made. Thank you, you've said much of what I'm feeling so well.

CVs are going to get a huge backlash if they make Gaurav falling for Vidya. And they should. I've already written a whole long post on my belief that sexuality is fluid, so it's not the issue of whether or not Gaurav can be attracted to a woman as well.

It's the fact that he's already in love with Karan. And to show Gaurav finally giving up Karan and falling in love with Vidya... yeah, then that means Devyani was right in her "love can change him."

You are attracted to whomever you attracted to. The first Indian serial dealing with a gay couple doesn't need to send the message to society that basically says: Don't worry, just marry them off to women and in time everything will be fine and dandy.

Once Indian television starts having more and more gay characters, then they can go for love triangles irrespective of sex or gender.

Edited by likarsh - 14 years ago

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saniaaaaaaaaaa

@saniaaaaaaaaaa

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Posted: 14 years ago

hey frndx can s0meone give me da link ov da song which is played on VIDYA...?????

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Miriam

@persii

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Posted: 14 years ago

i totally understand you about the gay thing

i know if someone is gay they should b wit them

but personaly i do not like karn he is extermly mean and i siliske him

i rather have garvau and vidya

because i dont like cheenu eighter

it my opionin sorry

CV fan and Karan fans

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Pirated_Fun

@Pirated_Fun

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+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

Excellent post dear ..It was very much needed ...I would request Moderator to make it sticky ...You have written my mind and thoughts i wanted to share

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Mila

@Millerrr88

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Posted: 14 years ago

Good post 👏 iwant gauravn vidya be happy but w/a some one else...gaurav is gay iknw that n want him to be happy w/a karan I don't want him to be vidya cause that wud destroy this show...I want vidya to reallize that gaurav isn't the one for her n prolly divorce him n move on n be independent n maybe marry someone who'll love her 😊

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KhatamKahani

@KhatamKahani

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Posted: 14 years ago

This post needs a bump.

Seriously, the storyline and actors were featured on Bombay Dost/Gay Bombay. The CVs would be asking for activist backlash if they ever decided to have Gaurav Vidya end up romancing each other.

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BheegiBasanti

@BheegiBasanti

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 14 years ago

Well said. 👍🏼

The makers will not go down the bisexual or gay-to-straight path. They chose to make Gaurav gay after a lot of thought. It was not a decision made lightly or for some temporary eyeballs! The fact that the show's TRPs have only improved after Gaurav's truth came out proves that the audience is ready for television shows to go where others before them did not dare to. Can the potrayal be improved...certainly. But for a country where such storylines are rarer than the proverbial blue moon, it is a huge step and the production house and writers are surely more than aware of the responibility that have undertaken to bear. I get that each viewer is entitled to their opinion but I wish people would try to broaden their thinking. The show is trying to make the reality we all live in come alive on screens and if we as viewers do not evolove our thinking, we are no better than the regressive show makers out there who give us whatever crap they think we want to watch.

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velvetscarf

@velvetscarf

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Posted: 14 years ago

I would also be disappointed to see Gaurav "settle" with Vidya just because he thought she would die. I dont think anyone cant just change theiir orientation as such and toatally agree it would send out the wrong message socially. Let gaurav & karan be together & vidya marry chinu who truly loves her as a woman needs to be loved, not just as a friend or family member or ou of obligation or gratitude. I've recently started watching this serial & have been fascinated by the confident story development & relative freedom from cliches. In fact it would be the same old boring story: boy loves someone but he gets forced into marriage with someone else and then he gets won over by the devoted wife and alls well that ends well. Sooo many serials have given us this schtick that I'm really fed up with it. More generally - Its such a retrogressive message to give really, that young people have no brains or judgement & should be forced to marry where their parents want and eventually they'll settle down & be happy with it. In reality some might, but many wont, so WHY does the media keep perpetuating the same old myths and idealising parental dominance, spineless behaviour and disloyalty. Does marriage really sancttify a relationship between two strangers & override all other previous committments, love & loyalty? Is it even right that it should?