are you allowed to have BF/GF? - Page 2

i have dated already. my parents dont really .. now

well have neva really asked my parents n neither did dey tell but.. i think dat if i get a bf now.. dey mite react but if i do a lil later thn dey shud b cool abut it...

Originally posted by: saira_1

same 😳but all my mulsim friends hav bfs n they get away w/ it

See that's d thing im muslim.. so religiously im not allowed.. and plus my parents are really religious. and they would never EVER let me have a BF.. but i did hear my mom saying that if u like a guy make sure that he's ur culture.. soo Hmm.. iono

and anyways as of now i really dont want a BF cuz then i'll get tension and if i break upp wid him (i hope not) then my mind will always be thinking about him.. and i dont want to flunk in my grades all cuz of himm.. soo, soo far im ggooodd!! 😊

Originally posted by: shizajaved

My brothers are allowed to have BF/GF. Well, no one told me that I am not allowed to have one 😛 ..

But I am sure they would be totally against it since I am a girl and I am only a teenager. I, atleast have to be of 20 to get involved in some affair. Because then my Parents would not really mind it.. I guess.

I know, I know.. that age doesn't matter in Love but.. Parents sometime jus don't understand. So I am telling u frm their POV. :)

You allowed... Im shocked.. Most of the families in Pakistan do not allow thier children to be involved.. Including mine and i respect thier judgment to a certain extent!😳

Not at all aloowed if ill do some like this my ami -abu will not sparee me jootiyan pareen ge mamo 😆

Originally posted by: cool_pooja

You allowed... Im shocked.. Most of the families in Pakistan do not allow thier children to be involved.. Including mine and i respect thier judgment to a certain extent!😳

It's not about families in Pakistan.. It's about the religion 'Islam'. Muslims are all over the world, not only in Pakistan. 😊 Well I'd like to clear the whole thingy. Look when my (eldest) brother turned 20 and was in University.. he got a group of friends there which included girls as well. They used to take pics frm mob like daily.. So all the time he used to show those pics to Mom and Dad without ne hesitation asking them which girl do they find more beautiful :).

Because he never wanted to hide nethin frm Parents. and he does say this even today that mey koi kaam chupa kar nahi karta aur na hi karna chahta hoon. because kabhi na kabhi to pata lag hi jana hai nehow. So my Parents used to see the pics with great interest nd they were like.. this one is more prettier.. whats her name nd blah. Finally one day he got committed to a girl and she was from the same group. So one day my bro told us about her. My parents didn't say anything to him. and that's because he is big enough to take a good decision and another reason would be that.. he is a 'He' = 'Male'.

Similarly, when my second brother was in love. He initially had hidden this news frm all of us. But then I got to know. and i dont reali remember how my parents got to know. but erm.. in the beginning they sort of got angry at my second brother. Why is it so? you must be thinking han. That's because the girl was not pretty.. and there were many other reasons for my parents to not like her. and most important reason for bein against it was that my second brother had turned 16 or 17 at that time. But now he is 19 and all is fine. My parents have set their mind that they have to get him married to that girl. :)

But for girls.. its a big no no. It's not allowed. But chup chup ke to sab hi lagey huey hain😃😆. ahaha, Girls are not allowed to have an affair but then again parents want to see their children happy and they would sacrifice their happiness for us. (Jab shaadi ki baat nikle gi).

I hope u got my point now :).

Parents never allOwed that their child invOlved in such activities... cOz nO One knOew whats gOnna be happen...

If yOu dun belive in bOys, then as same nOw-a-days YOu wOnt belive in gurls as well... it might be pOssible that yOu fall in lOve and have a seriOus pOint of view abOut that persOn but dun nO wht he/she think abOut yOu... may be he/she is just passing times....

Parents mOstly afraid Of such things... speacially in case Of their daughters, cOz if sumthing seriOus happen(tht happen mOstly in serials Or films...eg, rape Of sumthing etc) sO in such cOnditiOn, if the guy leave the gurl after dOing such things, a gurl's life gOnna be tOtally guilty while the guy dun have any prOblem... 🤢

Originally posted by: Lovers Ka Love

Parents never allOwed that their child invOlved in such activities... cOz nO One knOew whats gOnna be happen...

If yOu dun belive in bOys, then as same nOw-a-days YOu wOnt belive in gurls as well... it might be pOssible that yOu fall in lOve and have a seriOus pOint of view abOut that persOn but dun nO wht he/she think abOut yOu... may be he/she is just passing times....

yeah i agree with you there!! i have seen it happen tooo many times and trust me it ain't a nice feeling. when you like someone but he/she doesn't think like that!!! and especially wen they think of you as a past time- mostly guys! (sorry boys)

Parents mOstly afraid Of such things... speacially in case Of their daughters, cOz if sumthing seriOus happen(tht happen mOstly in serials Or films...eg, rape Of sumthing etc) sO in such cOnditiOn, if the guy leave the gurl after dOing such things, a gurl's life gOnna be tOtally guilty while the guy dun have any prOblem... 🤢

most parents of girls are scared to let thier daughters into relationships at a young age! but i think that if the girl is at a decent age like maybe of 20 or so then having a BF would be fine, only if they are serious about each other and want to get married!!

here in uk there are sooo many muslim girls who have BF behind their parents backs which i think is just wrong!! most of them get caught anyways one way or the other! so why bother!! lol 😆

Rimzy x

haha every1 has there lil boy/grl story..😆

well mee? imm DEFINATLY NOT ALLOWED

my dad is the most gussa wala guy ever..

soo ya lol lemme tell u the lil story

my frnd ( a boy) called my house once.. nd we 3-wayed wit my frnd so it was 2grls nd a guy on the phone.. TRUST ME we all were nuthin but frnds.. nd my mom SCREAMS SOO loudd..

b4 tht she found a card tht my frnd gav 2 me for my birthday nd it was frm the same guy who isss on the phone wit me too LOL.

. nd then i got in soo much trouble u wudnt believe itt.. nd my mom is lyk if u were 18 or sum nd had a BF it wud b ok.. nd im lyk.. I DNT HAVE ONE HES JUST MY FRNDD..but she wudnt belive me.. cant ggrls nd guys jus b frndz 😭

&& after tht she LOST ALL TRUST IN ME

nd i didnt even doo nethin wrong nd now my sister is alwayz watchin out for me at skool too.. its soo annoying

but ya other then tht.. i dnt mind or care if u hav a BF at a yung age but noot rele yung lyk 12 nd older is gud

( my lil cuzin whoss only 6 had a boyfrnd I WAS SOO SHOCKEED cuz wht ever happened to cooties or boy germs or nethin wow lil kids r gettins oo IN OVER THERE HEAD IN THE U.S 😆 )

but ya

newayz to b in a serious marriage relationship i think u shud b 20 nd older

nd i dnt get y parents r soo scareeeeeeed..

GRLS CAN PROTECT THEMSLEVES!! unless ur one dumb grl..cuz i kno for a fact i can protect my self..i may do dumb things but i kno how 2 watch out for myselff..😆

but ya if my dad ever knew i had a BF i wudnt b writting all this i wud b dead..

&&

i believe in LUV-RANGED marriagee.. every1 shud b happy.. 😆

Nope. I'm not...but i think if i go up to them with a guy after my education, i don't think they'll say no.
Right now, im doing my degree and cant be bothered :P

So, do i have one? Nope. I'm too much of a "goody 2-shoes" 😆

Originally posted by: Day_Dreamer

not me, and i dont want any either, waise hi tensions kam hain kya ke aur tentions lon?? 😆 😉

😆 exactly! too much to think about! My younger bro however has a gf...they were together for about 2-3yrs...but now have broken up coz she's movin to a diff school....and i asked him if he'll go out again and he said no, "it's too much of a hassle" 😆