should I wait for love?

around 11years back when I was 16 I met a guy online and we started chatting,after 1 year of chatting he proposed me,it was sooo perfect,my life was so good and we kept talking for another 4 years,i started my university, he moved abroad and in all these 6 years we couldn't meet as we are from different countries of Asia but now he moved to another continent for postgrad though I planned to start our new life abroad and as he moved there we started talking more often, all my friends became his friends also but after 1 more year he disappeared from my life without telling me anything,i was shattered as i never had any other friend except him in all these years.I felt like i should quit,but somehow i survived,completed my studies started job n completely lost believe in love,last year i got a msg from him,I was happy angry sad everything, we talked for few days,i realised i still love him and he also realised i still love him,all he said was he didn't want me to give false hope so he left as we are from different countries,different religion it can't work and i was numb as we both knew all these but all those year he never felt that n after all these years he realised it,he says we were kids then n now we are grown up so we should move on.SO I tried moving on i thought atleast someone someday will some who will not leave me and love me like i wanted to be loved

This time my parents chose this guy for me,he is really senior to me,initially I thought 9 years may not be an issue as he seems to be nice.As we started talking I realised he doesn;t like anything I do.If i feel bad he never understand or try to say something nice to make me feel better.He says all my bachpana n filmypan will go with time, these are just my illusion, real life isn't like this.He is not even exited about wedding ,he thinks marriage life is more imp,obviously it is but does that mean I shouldn't be wearing my dream lehenga or dance or have fun or have a mehendi night or photographers or anything?..He cancelled the mehendi plan that my brother had for me as they waqnted to have fun as dance n may be drink but he said no.He has problem with everything I do, he finds everything childish,the glasses I wear he finds them funky but everyone wears them,he doesn't want me to have male frieds even,in 2 months I feel suffocated,my parents say i should adjust as the kind of love i expect doesn't exist.BUT I never dreamt a life like this.I am confused should I compromise or I should wait?..what if i get the love after marriage?