Bulbul's double standards

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I really hate Bulbul's characterisation.She doesn't mind Pradeep going with Anushka and whenever he feels like being with family she readily accepts her daddy but she is not ready Mona going out with Vineet and that too when Mona doesn't have any intentions as of now for Vineeth.Why this double standards .Why she behaves so rude with her Mom I really fail to understand.Compared to her the other two children are a bit more mature though they are young.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I don't agree with Bulbul's behaviour, but I can't blame her either. I have only sympathy for her.

1. A child has a closer bond with her mother. Bulbul is very possessive about her mother. Pradeep was hardly there for the children. Also she has always been told that Anu is the problem and that in the end her parents will reunite. For that cause she even went on and took part into Suhasi (and Mona's) game plans. I believe these are the reasons why Bulbul handled Pradeep's infidelity.
2. After yesterdays episode one thing is clear. She is afraid that like Pradeep her mother will ABANDON her. She does mind Pradeep's behaviour!! In Bulbul's eyes history is repeating. A work related friendship between Anu and Pradeep resulted into her father leaving her! Now another boss - employee relationship is turning into friendship. If Moneet happens she understands it as her mother leaving her and living with an other man. What will happen to Bulbul, Rano and Rajbir? They once were so close to be send off to a boardingschool because of Anushka (the other woman). Why is Vineet (the other man) different? Her classmate lives in a hostel because both her parents remarried. I think this is the reason why she wants her parents to be together so that Bulbul, Rano and Rajbir won't be abandoned.
3. Bulbul doesn't know about her mother's intentions regarding Vineet. Mona tells her she is going for a work related meeting, but Bulbul sees her mother having dinner with Vineet. Mona knows that Bulbul is going through a difficult time and that she is insecure, but protecting Bulbul by not telling her simple things adds to Bulbul's insecurities. What harm was there if Mona simply told Bulbul what the dinner with Vineet was all about. Specially after Bulbul's rude behaviour towards Vineet! It is a good thing that Bulbul now lives with her mother. The next step is a good mother daughter talk of what happened, what changed and what will definitely not change. Before things get out of control Mona needs to make her children understand the situation and Mona has to set some rules as well otherwise in no time Pradeep will be ruling her house!!
4. There is a difference between being mature and not knowing. Rano and Rajbir aren't mature. They are completely unaware of what is happening. For example: if the house is under water they see it as adventurous, but Bulbul thinks there is a 3rd party involved troubling them. She thinks of how much water has been wasted. I also think that Bulbul is a very supportive and a helpful daughter. She understands that her mother has to work, that she has to watch over her sibblings, help them with their homework, she helps her mother in the house. It is sad to see that the circumstances are such that Bulbul is acting more like a mother then an elder sister. Bulbul is also a child!
Edited by aishray - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I think it's natural for a child to feel this way. I can sort of understand her behaviour. But I do feel that she is more harsh on her mother than father. After everything that Pradeep has done, she doesn't have much of an issue with him. Personally, I think she's being highly unfair towards Mona, especially after everything that she has been through.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I think at the moment she is surpressing her feelings towards her father. She is going along with him because she thinks it will help her better her situation. The moment she excepts Vineet I hope she will tell Pradeep her truth! That is when Pradeep will be completely shaken and realise what he has done. Right now the guy only feels sorry for himself and thinks he is THE MAN!!

First thing is that Mona has to make up her mind what Vineet means to her and share that with her children. She told Vineet that he is her friend then that is what she has to tell her children too. They have to respect him for that.



Edited by aishray - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: aishray

I think at the moment she is surpressing her feelings towards her father. She is going along with him because she thinks it will help her better her situation. The moment she excepts Vineet I hope she will tell Pradeep her truth! That is when Pradeep will be completely shaken and realise what he has done. Right now the guy only feels sorry for himself and thinks he is THE MAN!!

First thing is that Mona has to make her mind up what Vineet means to her and share that with her children. She told Vineet that he is her friend then that is what she has to tell her children too. They have to respect him for that.



u r right. it will be a terrible moment.😭😲i don't want that to happen in near future.v can wait 4 it.plenty of things hv to happen before this one.😃
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I have zero sympathy for this Bulbul character. We were shown a way more mature Bulbul throughout, but lately she is going mental day by day. She is not supposed to be DUMB enough to believe that just because her classmate's parents sent her to boarding school, Mona would do the same. On one hand she never had guts to openly insult Anu (Anu would have thrashed her) but with Vineet, she literally barks at him everytime he is around. Even if Mona was involved in Vineet, Bullu baby still needs to be taught manners how to talk to an adult.

I wish Mona ships her off to Pradeep & Anu where Anu will be worst than a boarding school and help bring some discipline in Bulbul
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: suresh555

I have zero sympathy for this Bulbul character. We were shown a way more mature Bulbul throughout, but lately she is going mental day by day. She is not supposed to be DUMB enough to believe that just because her classmate's parents sent her to boarding school, Mona would do the same. On one hand she never had guts to openly insult Anu (Anu would have thrashed her) but with Vineet, she literally barks at him everytime he is around. Even if Mona was involved in Vineet, Bullu baby still needs to be taught manners how to talk to an adult.

I wish Mona ships her off to Pradeep & Anu where Anu will be worst than a boarding school and help bring some discipline in Bulbul

Perfectly said she needs to be sent with Pradeep to Anu's house.Bulbul is pathetic.Mona can be with these 2 sweet children and Vineet and leave Pradeep,Bulbul and Anu in one place.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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children are more attached to their mothers.
when pradeep spent more time with anushka,mona was there to take care of her kids.but now when she also finds someone else ,bulbul might be feeling insecure.
it s quite natural in such a stage.she is mature enough to understand,mona also lied to her,she has a meeeting & she finds mona & vineet in a restaurant ,that also in so close situation. why could nt mona tell her the truth to bulbul about finding a girl for vineet ?
she had a doubt in her mind,cant blame her.the other 2 kids are too small,if they were mature enough ,they also must ve shown the same reaction.
kids want both their parents.dont forget what all things she had done to anushka when they were staying together.she never allowed anushka to live peacefully.
she was not at all happy with pradeep s relationship with anushka.

Edited by unniknairtcr - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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poor girl is just stuck in a bad situation which is beyond her age and understanding. she just doesnt know how to deal with it..

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