Guys, I like this discussion. Now recovered😊, so jumping right in.
A promise is a promise is a promise, forever?😲
I don't think so. I have had to deal with a few people in my family who are hell bent on fulfilling promises based on the premise of stupidity, much like what Abhi is doing. I get very irritated when I hear this argument, I already promised, so I have to do xyz..., without thinking about the consequences. Here, they are not thinking about anything else, not the consequences, not how it affects people or situations, they are of the single minded notion " person X will not go back on their word" . Abject stupidity is what it is😡
Here is a simple example we can look at. Let us say, I told my 7 year old that I would bring her a chocolate bar and a puppy at two different times and on two entirely different occasions. Do these both carry the same weight? About the time we would go look for that puppy, let's say we got a great professional opportunity and have to move half way across the world. Then what do I do? From my child's standpoint, I "promised" her a chocolate bar and a puppy. No problem with the chocolate bar. . Should I fulfill the "promise" of a puppy? If I didn't take stock of the new and changed situation we are in, would I be a bad mother, an " unprincipled" one, one who doesn't have ideals and go back on my words? Or should I be shaking in my shoes that my child is going to be scarred for life, will not have self esteem, loses all confidence in her mom? Or should I be taking a more balanced approach with my daughter explaining how life doesn't come with guarantees in anything and sometimes we have to change course based on situations and it is very important not to stress a puppy with a move, uncertain circumstances and environment, and in turn hurt the puppy? I would do the latter, and will avoid stressing an innocent life. My child will be disappointed for a bit, but is it not my responsibility to do the right thing by everybody ( puppy and my child ) and not blindly following on my promise or looking out just for the happiness of my child?
Unfortunately, people get into this circular argument. Sadly, there is no recourse to this kind of an argument. What do you say to a person who says " my principles and my word are important than anything else, my people, my love, my life, your life or consequences " So Pragya really has nothing left to do. So I am happy with her being silent. There is nothing more to fight for, when the object of her affection, love of her life doesn't want to be with her 😭 But I just couldn't bear to see her face today, tear stained, drained and looked like somebody who is totally defeated and deeply hurt. Years of uncertainty with regards to her position in his life has finally taken its toll on her😲. I don't know how Sriti is made to look like that or what she has done to herself, she was brilliant
But for the sake of argument, I want to ask what if Abhi is told he is married or that the witch is a witch, then what happens to his promise? Will the promise then be null and void or will he still say " I promised her, cards printed, I am principled, I know the truth that I am married or the witch is a witch, but can't sacrifice my usool". Because if a promise is a promise is a promise no matter what... Where is the end to this argument? I don't know when he suddenly became somebody whose life's mission is fulfilling his wadas😕
Anyway, I hope I haven't confused you guys. Sorry if the lecture became too long, just my opinion😳
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