It's because Purab's an orphan

Watching Purab being yelled at by Bulbul & Pragya & Abhi in the mandir scene, one thing really jumped out at me: Purab cannot possibly understand the family motivations that made each of them so angry, because he is an orphan.

Consider, Purab has grown up with Abhi as his bhai jaisa dost. He feels close enough to Abhi to call him Bhai because of what they shared as children. He has a chacha chachi and cousin sisters, but he is much closer to Abhi's pariwar. Essentially, Purab has no close family ties, but he found a surrogate family with Abhi & his relatives.

Normally I would say that you don't have to be blood-related to people to have deep family feeling for them, but I think the CVs are showing that whatever the strength of Purab's friendship with Abhi or love for Bulbul, at the end of the day he is not connected to anyone by that "ultimate family feeling." He will not understand how fiercely someone can make a sacrifice on this basis, and he has no one to make such a sacrifice for him. Instead, he is an individual caught in the web of competing family relationships, and he cannot win because he is all alone.

This is why Purab doesn't and couldn't possibly understand:

• that for Bulbul, her romantic love/attraction for him could never be important than her responsibilities to her family, and especially her concern for her Di
• that for Abhi, his walking away from Aaliya twice would be a big enough betrayal to eliminate the special brother-like bond between them
  
• that for Pragya, her mother's health and peace of mind matter more than her personal happiness and integrity, which is why she chose to keep up the lie of her marriage to Abhi from day 1

I think it's really sad actually that the story falls back on the traditional idea of family-as-defined-by-blood; by using Purab this way, the CVs are showing us that orphans can not have "real" families, that their feelings and needs are less important than the bonds between family members. It's an old-fashioned idea that I think really is the powerful, encompassing, not-so-hidden undercurrent to the story.

Purab was not wrong to look out for his own self-interest. For him, walking away from Aaliya was the rational, reasonable thing to do, as well as matching what his heart wanted. But he quite simply doesn't stand a chance of getting what he wants or deserves; his needs as an individual don't match up to the obligation Olympics that bind Bulbul, Pragya, and Abhi to their family commitments.

Ultimately, a daily soap like this serves to reinforce prevailing values. Purab's position as the outsider and orphan will always block his way to happiness, because in traditional values, happiness belongs to families, not individuals.

I prefer purab being alone...rather than bonded by such selfish freaks...giving stupid sacrifices and makes him a scapegoat...or for revenge

I agree...purab being alone is also one of the cause...but more than understanding a relationship...its the lack of guidance becos he has no parents to guide him makes him a confused and not stand up for himself...takes weird decision of his life...not the understanding of relationship...if he doesn't understand relationship...he would not have agree to spoil his life for sisters duo and he really loves pragya alot more than abhi

sometimes i feel...purab did grow up with abhi and his family...but still he was lonely...since he falls in love with BB...he is complete...as she is the one who can give him the family he desires...the love of a wife and kids...which abhi and his family can never give...this is one reason...he loves BB so much...and choose BB over abhi...

but too bad whether...its abhi...BB...pragya...noone understands him...

my eyes are melting to write this...that he is going to live a lonely...miserable and painful life throughout his life...the worst he is a one women's man...who loves to live in memories...it will be difficult for him to move on

Mina, I think even people with mom, dad, brothers and sisters can do the things that Purab did. He could have done this even if he was Abhi's or Pragya's blood brother. I mean to say placing his romantic interests before family. A lot of people do that under romantic motivation.

Originally posted by: -Tia-

Mina, I think even people with mom, dad, brothers and sisters can do the things that Purab did. He could have done this even if he was Abhi's or Pragya's blood brother.

it may but those kids are stubborn and they want to choose it for themselves and we have one great example aaliya..but in the case of purab...who can't take decision of his life...its purely lack of guidance in his life...

Being an orphan has nothing todo with it...rather it's really pessimistic of you to think so. People with families (in many shows and in real life) have done similar things as Purab. Truthfully, I don't put him at fault. Pragya's mother will eventually know...it makes no sense to hide it from her and ruin fours lives (aliya, purab, bulbul and pragya's) and get Purab married. The only mistake he made is that he realized marrying Aaliya is at fault far too into the marriage. Besides that Purab and Bulbul are meant to be. If anything, they're the only self-less two of the show.

I don't think mehras tag him equal to abhi...they grew up together but look at abhi's nature...he supports his blood than his friend...if he supported his friend...this whole mess will not happen and tried to make his sister understand

purab still respected abhi-aaliya till he got to know their actual plans...thats why he elope...what is the point going through a hell marriage...when lives are being destroyed...his decision was right...but wrong approach...wrong move...by the way what abhi was talking abt...aaliya crying...the women hatch another plan against pragya rather than crying

Originally posted by: toxiclycute

Being an orphan has nothing todo with it...rather it's really pessimistic of you to think so. People with families (in many shows and in real life) have done similar things as Purab. Truthfully, I don't put him at fault. Pragya's mother will eventually know...it makes no sense to hide it from her and ruin fours lives (aliya, purab, bulbul and pragya's) and get Purab married. The only mistake he made is that he realized marrying Aaliya is at fault far too into the marriage. Besides that Purab and Bulbul are meant to be. If anything, they're the only self-less two of the show.

beautifully said... ⭐️

Its nice that you somehow saw this side of Purab. It kind of justifies his actions, but that doesn't mean what he did was right. I agree that Abhi, Pragya and Bulbul has no right to tell him to get married to someone he doesn't love. But why can't he stand up and speak for himself? There were lot of posts regarding Pragya's inability to speak up. But what about his? He ran away from the marriage and wanted to get married secretly to Bulbul. I think the reason he is acting this way is because he is blinded by the love for Bulbul. (hint: they are wrong for each other)