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Should a man trust his wife even if visual evidence indicates to the contrary? Is visual proof tenable evidence? Should the accused be pronounced guilty without being given an opportunity for defence?
These are some of the questions that yesterday's episode brought up. At the core of all of this is the concept of atoot vishwaas or absolute trust! It is generally believed that this is the basis for any relationship and, more importantly, a marriage. Without this, any relationship is likely to flounder. Where does this trust come from? In my opinion, it comes as much from faith in yourself as it does from faith in the other person. When you fall in love, the first thing you trust is your emotions, your judgment and your instincts. You do not look for tenable proof that your judgment is right. You go with blind faith. Only time tells you whether your faith was justified at all.
In Ashutosh's case, he had two things to go by on the basis of which he pronounced Nidhi guilty. Indications are that he did not believe that Nidhi intented to harm Mallika grievously but rather wanted to warn her off. I say this based on his statement that little kids should not play with knives and that Nidhi needed to be taught a lesson. So clearly, he thought Nidhi was impulsive enough to do something as drastic as that because of her youth and immaturity. Secondly, he also told Nidhi that her earlier words indicated that she would not tolerate the presence of a third person in their lives.
I suppose each and every word a person says cannot be taken at face value. The context, the body language etc are huge indicators with regard to this. Even while Nidhi said she was ready to kill, her body language was indeed playful and her tone jovial. So, it makes no sense that somebody would take her words so seriously that they would actually believe her capable of murder or causing injury to a fellow being, simply on being confronted with possible visual evidence. There is such a thing as circumstantial evidence but I understand that, in a fit of anger, your mind does not work right! However, Ashutosh decided to put two and two together and come up with 22. He did not for a moment think that the person accusing Nidhi was mentally unstable and had, only a couple of days ago, told him she was not in control of her actions. ( the tablets issue)
All of this is fine except in terms of the concept of atoot vishwaas. I don't know about men but women, in general, do not admit to a failed relationship or a failure in judgment so soon. Intrinsically, they don't want to give up on relationships or be dubbed a failure so very soon. Maybe it is different with men or maybe Ashutosh is an exception.
When Ashutosh believed in circumstantial evidence and let Nidhi go yesterday, I thought he broke this code of marriage - the absolute trust code or at least the give the girl a chance code. In doing so, more than letting Nidhi down, he had let his own judgment down. In essence, he let himself down! A hotheaded teenager's impulsive actions are understandable but you expect greater maturity from a middle aged surgeon!
From all of this, a simple question rises. If Ashutosh believed that Nidhi's rash behaviour, her impulsiveness etc stem from her youth and immaturity, what would he blame his own lack of judgment on?
These are some of the questions that yesterday's episode brought up. At the core of all of this is the concept of atoot vishwaas or absolute trust! It is generally believed that this is the basis for any relationship and, more importantly, a marriage. Without this, any relationship is likely to flounder. Where does this trust come from? In my opinion, it comes as much from faith in yourself as it does from faith in the other person. When you fall in love, the first thing you trust is your emotions, your judgment and your instincts. You do not look for tenable proof that your judgment is right. You go with blind faith. Only time tells you whether your faith was justified at all.
In Ashutosh's case, he had two things to go by on the basis of which he pronounced Nidhi guilty. Indications are that he did not believe that Nidhi intented to harm Mallika grievously but rather wanted to warn her off. I say this based on his statement that little kids should not play with knives and that Nidhi needed to be taught a lesson. So clearly, he thought Nidhi was impulsive enough to do something as drastic as that because of her youth and immaturity. Secondly, he also told Nidhi that her earlier words indicated that she would not tolerate the presence of a third person in their lives.
I suppose each and every word a person says cannot be taken at face value. The context, the body language etc are huge indicators with regard to this. Even while Nidhi said she was ready to kill, her body language was indeed playful and her tone jovial. So, it makes no sense that somebody would take her words so seriously that they would actually believe her capable of murder or causing injury to a fellow being, simply on being confronted with possible visual evidence. There is such a thing as circumstantial evidence but I understand that, in a fit of anger, your mind does not work right! However, Ashutosh decided to put two and two together and come up with 22. He did not for a moment think that the person accusing Nidhi was mentally unstable and had, only a couple of days ago, told him she was not in control of her actions. ( the tablets issue)
All of this is fine except in terms of the concept of atoot vishwaas. I don't know about men but women, in general, do not admit to a failed relationship or a failure in judgment so soon. Intrinsically, they don't want to give up on relationships or be dubbed a failure so very soon. Maybe it is different with men or maybe Ashutosh is an exception.
When Ashutosh believed in circumstantial evidence and let Nidhi go yesterday, I thought he broke this code of marriage - the absolute trust code or at least the give the girl a chance code. In doing so, more than letting Nidhi down, he had let his own judgment down. In essence, he let himself down! A hotheaded teenager's impulsive actions are understandable but you expect greater maturity from a middle aged surgeon!
From all of this, a simple question rises. If Ashutosh believed that Nidhi's rash behaviour, her impulsiveness etc stem from her youth and immaturity, what would he blame his own lack of judgment on?
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