Dev and Sona seem lost in that over crowded house

There is something odd about Dev and Sona's relationship. It does not make any sense. I know husband and wife's relationship changes over the years in the sense the physical attraction for each other diminishes, but their emotional bond becomes stronger when kids come into the picture, there is a sense of "our" family. Modern couples usually discuss things with each other and then inform the other elders of the family, that way they are together in their decision and present we are "one" team to the rest of the family members, whether in front of adults or in front of children. I have also never seen a guy in his late 30's so clingy to his mother, that just feels so weird. Ishwari somehow has this sick hold on Dev. I think Sona tried her best to navigate through this dynamics between the son and the mother and finally she seems to have given up totally. There is a very visible gap between Dev and Sona, not just a communication gap, it's also I have given up kind of gap. They have lost each other in that overcrowded house. As much as I respect Mothers and I am a mother myself, this is not motherly love that Ishwari portrays, this is blackmailing that poor Dev with a constant reminder of her sacrifices. What mothers do for their children is out of love for them, in the process they do sacrifice a few things. I don't think any mother feels "oh wow I have sacrificed so much in raising my kids, so they better listen and obey my every single demand I will make the rest of my life"! She is suffocating her own son, daughter in law and the whole house functions like a chaotic circus around her.

Originally posted by: svpg

There is something odd about Dev and Sona's relationship. It does not make any sense. I know husband and wife's relationship changes over the years in the sense the physical attraction for each other diminishes, but their emotional bond becomes stronger when kids come into the picture, there is a sense of "our" family. Modern couples usually discuss things with each other and then inform the other elders of the family, that way they are together in their decision and present we are "one" team to the rest of the family members, whether in front of adults or in front of children. I have also never seen a guy in his late 30's so clingy to his mother, that just feels so weird. Ishwari somehow has this sick hold on Dev. I think Sona tried her best to navigate through this dynamics between the son and the mother and finally she seems to have given up totally. There is a very visible gap between Dev and Sona, not just a communication gap, it's also I have given up kind of gap. They have lost each other in that overcrowded house. As much as I respect Mothers and I am a mother myself, this is not motherly love that Ishwari portrays, this is blackmailing that poor Dev with a constant reminder of her sacrifices. What mothers do for their children is out of love for them, in the process they do sacrifice a few things. I don't think any mother feels "oh wow I have sacrificed so much in raising my kids, so they better listen and obey my every single demand I will make the rest of my life"! She is suffocating her own son, daughter in law and the whole house functions like a chaotic circus around her.

Funny I thought so too. That with time, emotional binding increases, with kids and "our family". But here Ishwari is basking in the fact that Dev is dependent on her and Sona seems to have given up on having a proper partner in her husband. Almost seems like a third wheel in the weird partnership between Dev and Ishwari. Ishwari is taking major decisions and Dev is cool about it. What to say here. People are loving the scenes between Dev and Ishwari and all I can see is how weird it all is, considering I am a mother to a son myself.

I think Dev doesn't realise how meddling his mother is. He's been mute when his mother has openly insulted Sonakshi in the last few episodes. Defending her in private is good but it doesn't help. It doesn't help Sonakshi who might think that he may have the same opinion as his mother. His mother also might think like that.

He seems to have taken her for granted. He should realise how difficult it must be for her to have a MIL like his mother ...who keeps interfering in their lives even after what 10 years of their marriage. Usually newly weds face this over bearing MIL issue...not a couple who've been married for so long. If he doesn't address this then it will create huge problems in their "happy" family.

Originally posted by: CottonWorld

I think Dev doesn't realise how meddling his mother is. He's been mute when his mother has openly insulted Sonakshi in the last few episodes. Defending her in private is good but it doesn't help. It doesn't help Sonakshi who might think that he may have the same opinion as his mother. His mother also might think like that.

He seems to have taken her for granted. He should realise how difficult it must be for her to have a MIL like his mother ...who keeps interfering in their lives even after what 10 years of their marriage. Usually newly weds face this over bearing MIL issue...not a couple who've been married for so long. If he doesn't address this then it will create huge problems in their "happy" family.

That is it. He thinks his mother is fine. He doesn't realize how hard it is to live with someone who is constantly critical of every step you take, every action you take, every thought that you think. He himself gets upset when Bijoy comes once in a while and criticizes him as not being an understanding husband.

So for Sonakshi to live in that house with Ishwari holding the reins as tightly, it would be very difficult. Mind just becomes conditioned to the constant negativity.

Originally posted by: Newbiewriter30

That is it. He thinks his mother is fine. He doesn't realize how hard it is to live with someone who is constantly critical of every step you take, every action you take, every thought that you think. He himself gets upset when Bijoy comes once in a while and criticizes him as not being an understanding husband.

So for Sonakshi to live in that house with Ishwari holding the reins as tightly, it would be very difficult. Mind just becomes conditioned to the constant negativity.

Well this season some of his taunts/criticism towards Dev is justified. He did give sound advise too when he asked to get the DNA test and also in the latest precap. I haven't watched the previous seasons...when I get enough time then maybe I will in sometime. I'm looking at this season as a fresh story. Though the promos were different than what is being shown now...maybe they will concentrate on it now.