Originally posted by: NotAMuggle
You spoke my mind you know. I never understood how people are so fond of Asha as a mother & pissed at Bijoy as a father. To me it's the totally opposite.
Asha is good natured no doubt but she is too soft & she taught her children, especially Sonakshi to be a docile non opinionated doll in order to avoid trouble. Whenever there was a trouble she advised Sonakshi to bow down before it not to fight for herself to overcome it.
When after the first breakup, Ishwari & Dev eventually came knocking on Sonakshi's door asking her to come back, Sonakshi was not all that willing. She loved Dev but she was genuinely hurt at the way he so readily discarded her to please his whimsical mother. And she had every right to say no to him when he offered a reconciliation just because he got permission from his Mummy now. Sonakshi was totally right on her stand & Dev, if really wanted her back, should have gone through at least some realisation what he did wrong. But here came Asha & she somehow made Sonakshi feel bad about giving Dev a hard time & encouraged her to forgive him & go back to him even though he did nothing to earn that forgiveness. 🤔 I personally think, this sealed the fate of their doomed marriage. Because Sonakshi went back so readily Dev never realised his mistake & didn't learn to value her. Ultimately it was Sonakshi bowing down to Ishwari & Dev's decision and that gave the duo an impression that they could treat her however they want. 🥱
I totally agree on your viewpoint about the bday incident.👍🏼
And also I would like to add how Asha was all so welcoming & forgiving towards Dev post leap. Come on! That man just ruined her daughter's life! Married her daughter, but treated her so horribly, forced her to conceive even though that was hard for her just because his Mummy wanted so, threw out her family on the street (I know it was Vicky. But Asha didn't know that right?) abandoned her when she was pregnant & never looked back or came to check on her for 7 years but the moment he got to know he has a daughter with her he shamelessly tries to force his way into her life & blames her for every small things again!!😵 How can her blood not boil just looking at that man for what he did to her daughter??😳 I find Bijoy's reaction in this part of story totally appropriate over Asha's. Asha actually didn't really care all that much that Dev was blaming Sonakshi for keeping his daughter away from him & shaming her for not doing her wifely duties by staying with him even after he kicked her out or that he was blaming Bijoy for helping his daughter to move on & not sending her back into that toxic house from where ahe was thrown out! Asha somehow always skipped over Dev's taunts & blames but always stopped Sonakshi whenever she tried to give him back. She literally sat them down together & said none of them were to fight with the other as if both were equally responsible for all the fights And since then she became so pro-Dev.... she actually teamed up with Ishwari & again forced Sonakshi to forgive him & go back to him when again, Dev didn't really do anything to deserve that forgiveness. And if season 3 is to be taken into account, that was again probably a not so wise decision as far as Sonakshi & Suhana's well being are concerned.
I am actually quite relieved that makers decided to kill off Asha instead of continuing her character with a different actress. If she was here, she would have probably justified Dev's eagerness to force fit Ayush into their lives & would have asked Sonakshi to "understand" Ishwari's point of view too and probably would have pressured her to bend to their demands to establish a happy peaceful environment in the house.🥱