Asha Salute U - Page 2

i see so many people taking side of sona or dev or bijoy claiming how each one of them is the best within this forum.

Asha is truly amazing...what is to do with that intelligence and smartness that doesn't help one to save their most loved relations..
Having little more patience and understanding and giving relation some time doesn't make any one doormat...no one is perfect in this world..if we want people to adjust and accept our flaws and love as who we are.. first we should start doing that..
when we truly love someone and value that relation.. we have to work on making each other better instead of judging...that is the way to value their existence in our lives .. we don't do that because of #successful marriage goals but we truly want that partner in our life all along...

Originally posted by: randomramblings

i see so many people taking side of sona or dev or bijoy claiming how each one of them is the best within this forum.

one single statement from Asha shows the reality of life. Yes we as human beings play various roles in our lives and for every relationship we have more than one person to vouch for us. a mother/father can have more than 2 kids, we can have 2 or more siblings tell us what kind of a person we are. but in our life, we will have only one spouse at any given point in time to tell us what kind of a partner we are to him/her.

Asha and only asha can judge what kind of a husband bijoy, was, is and will be to her. same goes with Dev only sona can say whether he is successful or a failure as a husband. same with sona, only dev can say was she a good or bad in his wife's roles unless they take on other partners. Even then they can be a good partner to the next person but not necessarily to each other.

hats off to the writers who are teaching great values to the people in general by using subtle characterizations.

After hearing asha i am pretty sure sona can no longer boast of her baba being the best husband or husband goals. bijoy is best because asha knew how to bring out the best in him and ignore the worst.😉

Originally posted by: mily_mathew

Really Sargesh don't agree with u. What could hav sona done. Did she even get a chance. Just tolerating ur husbands idiosyncrasies does not make u a good wife. I don't quite agree with Asha today. This means we r again going to see a mellowed sona in Dixit house. And ish is no abla nari for Dev to be dis angry. The way bijoy behaved was wrong but his anger is justified.

I haven't seen todays episode but read the update...I purposely gave it a miss because Ishu and My BP levels don't go hand in hand ...especially this season...

Regarding Asha's comment its so true...once I had told my mother that my husbands character should be somewhat similar to my dad's character...and she laughed and said ...then you will have a tough time...and I was really angry at that ...that's when she said...u know your dad ...and love him because you and your sis are his lil girls...he gives in for most of ur wishes ...plays with you ...helps with your projects/HWs...and tries to control his emotions and anger when it comes to the two of you ...but that's is not the case with the role of a spouse...there husband and wife are equal...husband and wife is such a relationship in which both will not hide their feelings and will not be scared to speak out ..in which you will know the other person completely ...you know his as your dad but you don't know him as a husband!!

Then she went on to tell me that the first year few years marriage ...especially the first year after a child is born will be the most difficult years in a marriage ...once you survive the period in most cases marriage will work...Also added that it doesn't matter whether its a love marriage or arranged marriage ...once married its all the same..( hence had a love marriage rofl )



Never understood what she meant , until I got married

Originally posted by: randomramblings

mily, you are missing an essential thing here. All the while for sona her baba was husbands goals, she never thought even for a second that her mother might not have been happy with him and not everything was rosy for asha from the start. Today asha has shown her the mirror.

It takes two to tango, and what you see/believe as the best might not be the best for the other. all this while sona believed her dad was best husband, asha subtly refuted it. same goes with ishwari, she believes that she always has the best interest of dev while deciding, but as we all know that is never what dev wants. same goes with bijoy he feels he has the best interest of sona and soha while deciding for them, but that does not necessarily mean its always the best for them.

most important fact in life is our relationship with others should be based on how we feel about them and not based on what the people have to say about them in general. Asha made a valid point , dev might have failed in every relationship , but according to soha he is the best dad, she was right, she can never formulate an opinion about dev based on how sona defines him or bijoy visualizes him. she and only she can define what kind of relationship she is going to share with dev.

if dev is wrong in mistreating bijoy, bijoy too never leaves a chance in taking a dig at him , they were, are and will forever by at loggerheads because of the equation they both share. it does not necessarily mean that the people around them too have to be at loggerheads by taking sides.

I agree sorry I don't know ur name, only a wife can judge a husband. But I found that scene as a clever attempt by the CV's to justify ish and Dev. Compromises are a part of life, but sometimes u hav to ask the question whether it's worth it. Asha clearly said bijou compromised too. But I din see that anywhere in Dev. But sona always put their relationship first, took all insults, became ready for painful medical treatment, let me mil direct her sex life and yet even today all ish and dev does is blame her. I'm just scared that sona listening to Asha will again becomes the miserable self for sohas sake. Bijou was wrong esp to the innocent golu but dev should introspect that if this much hurted dev this much how much sona would hav hurted. Asha stopping sona from pouring her frustrations out to dev only prolonged Dev's realizations. And seriously maami and Neha has said much worse things to sona, but I never saw Dev this agitated. I'm also a Devakshi shipper but seeing this I feel bad for sona. Dev is heavily attracted to her, but never loved her enough to care about her feelings. Sometimes the worst things are done with the best intentions. Asha did just that to Sina today. I'm just scared for sona coz there are lot of ppl waiting in IN to take her class and she will tolerate everything for soha. Dev won't move a muscle as usual. And I don't think sona is letting sona's perspective abt her dad to be influenced by the bitterness of her failed marriage.

Loved Asha today.kaise woh bijoy jaise admi ko bardasht kar rahi hai? Poor Asha. I felt bad for Golu too.

Originally posted by: mily_mathew

I agree sorry I don't know ur name, only a wife can judge a husband. But I found that scene as a clever attempt by the CV's to justify ish and Dev. Compromises are a part of life, but sometimes u hav to ask the question whether it's worth it. Asha clearly said bijou compromised too. But I din see that anywhere in Dev. But sona always put their relationship first, took all insults, became ready for painful medical treatment, let me mil direct her sex life and yet even today all ish and dev does is blame her. I'm just scared that sona listening to Asha will again becomes the miserable self for sohas sake. Bijou was wrong esp to the innocent golu but dev should introspect that if this much hurted dev this much how much sona would hav hurted. Asha stopping sona from pouring her frustrations out to dev only prolonged Dev's realizations. And seriously maami and Neha has said much worse things to sona, but I never saw Dev this agitated. I'm also a Devakshi shipper but seeing this I feel bad for sona. Dev is heavily attracted to her, but never loved her enough to care about her feelings. Sometimes the worst things are done with the best intentions. Asha did just that to Sina today. I'm just scared for sona coz there are lot of ppl waiting in IN to take her class and she will tolerate everything for soha. Dev won't move a muscle as usual. And I don't think sona is letting sona's perspective abt her dad to be influenced by the bitterness of her failed marriage.

Bijoy is also good. He has seen his family in pain due to them. The anger is natural

Originally posted by: randomramblings

hi mily my name is geeta. coming to your apprehensions, i too agree with you . on a serious note, what happened with sona seven years ago was because she entered dixit house as wife of dev. today dev entered bose house not in the role of husband but as a father. tomorrow sona too will enter as a mother and not as wife. As wife she might have put up with lot of nonsense but i dont see any rational reason why she needs to put up with the nonsense anymore. same with dev, he might have been indifferent to her feelings as a husband but as a mother to his daughter, if anyone were to cross their boundaries there is no reason for him to remain silent.

both dev and sona have time and again made it very clear to the families that the story is no longer about them. its about what suhana wants.

Today dev had a complaint about bijoy because he had insulted golu, his mother being insulted was least of his concern. agreed ishwari is manipulative, but that does not mean bijoy can keep insulting dev for as long as he stays in bose house . if mr bose has complaints then he need to sort it out with his daughter. agreed he cannot tolerate dev , but what right does he have to keep dev away from soha? unless sona is willing to move out of bose house along with soha, there is no way out.

all asha did today was to show sona a mirror as she was trying to fire at dev imagining him in her husbands' role. dev might have failed miserably as a husband, but he is not a failure as a dad (yet).

there is no reason why sona has to fire at him , that's why asha cooled her.

lets not forget asha was the first one to support sona on the fateful night when she decided to confront dev.

asha is not teaching sona to be a doormat. all she is saying is for every instance there are many perspectives and it for you to decide which one you chose, without ignoring the fact that others exist.

she is only asking to give up the denial phase.

Agree Geeta, Asha 's a sensible woman. But her advise today was totally out of context. She reacted as bijou daughter and not as sohas mom. He needs to understand empathy. If he feels so bad when ppl disrespect his mom, sona too will feel bad when he disrespect her dad(and yes he did that on a major scale twice) just like ppl said it takes two to tango. If Asha expects sona to make compromises someone should be there to show the mirror to dev as well. Making compromises alone, sona will one day break under the stress. I totally understand whatever Asha said, I don't see it having any positive influence on Devakshi relation. And I wanted sona to question dev not as his wife but as bijoys daughter. He'll I would never tolerate that kind of behaviour from anyone to my father.