Originally posted by: grace4317
How about staying with the same person, who after spending 5-6hrs with me in the labour room and being the first person to hold our son, went and complained to his mother that night that they did a big mistake of getting him married to me, without enquiring much about our financial background...and that too, when this child was special as I had a miscarriage almost 12 months back. The more important thing is that I came to know about this conversation between mother & son almost 8 months after it happened and that too on a day when I had to give back to my MIL, when she insulted my parents as money-grabbers...😊. I am not joking...this is my real life experience and I am now leading a very happy & blissful life with that same person...And to be frank, my hubby is not a handsome guy as Dev; but rather he is a gem of person at heart.
Don't roll your eyes, when I say he is a gem of a person...He is indeed one among few, who don't keep grudges even to those who tortured/insulted him during his childhood days...I will just explain what happened to him that day inorder to behave or talk like this. After my first miscarriage, within 2 months I again got pregnant; and due to the first case, I was on bedrest for 5 months...As we are living abroad, there was no one to support us physically, except some of our friends...And those days, since he was new to his job he had to even spent late nights at office...On top of it, as we both were the eldest in our families, we had to be support system of our families...especially for him, as he was the bread-winner of their family and same like in the case of Dev, it was him & his mother who brought the family of 3 out of poverty...So, without anyone to give him a mental, physical & financial support and in addition due to the office timings, towards the time of delivery he was getting exhausted. I couldn't go to my parent's house, as they were already burdened with the studies of my younger siblings & were financially stressed those days...My hubby didn't force me too...And since I was in such a state, he didn't want share his worries with me...Two days previous to the date of delivery I got admitted to the hospital due to some discharge; That night my hubby had to be in the office full night due to some urgent work and then next day afternoon he missed his afternoon nap also, as I was getting discharged since there was no improvement in my dilation...Later that night by 10pm pain started; but since I knew that my hubby was tired due to sleep-deprivation, I told him about the pain only 3hrs later. after I was convinced that he had a good sleep atleast for those 2-3 hrs...From then onwards, for the next 14hrs he was with me through-out the whole process...One point to be noted is, he is a person who turns his face at the sight of blood or a person in pain...Yet, that same person was with me calming me down, comforting me and making me feel special...Later, after my delivery, he had to go to the airport to pick my MIL who was coming that night to take care of me and the child...And by the time he reached home, he got exhausted due to lot of things - 12 months of frustration of having noone to share his griefs & worries, 2days of sleep deprivation, seeing my state in the labour room etc etc. To add to it, most of his friends who married at the same time had lots of support from his in-laws in all ways...So in that state, if he poured out his heart to his mom in such a way, whom am I to judge him...After all, he is also a human being. I never questioned him on this incident...but, what annoyed me was he hid this conversation from me till I heard it from my MIL, 8 months later...Because, during all these 8 months I had to suffer lots of taunts & insults from my MIL and every time I was wondering what happened to her, as during the few days I stayed with her after marriage, she had treated me like a princess...Same as in the case of Ishwari, she was not angry with me as a person...she was angry with the person who brought pain to her son. So, if I had knew about the conversation earlier, it could have avoided lots of hurt & pain I had to endure those 8 months...But, I don't regret those 8 months at all, because i see it as a period of time God used in my life, to teach me how strong we women are and how with little patience and mature thinking we can change our lives. On the other hand, if I had left with my son that day when I came to know all these, then for sure I would have regretted of depriving my son of having a wonderful father, of depriving my parents of having a very caring & loving son-in-law and last, but not the least, of depriving myself of a truly romantic & golden-hearted husband...☺️
Again, to be clear, I just shared my experience here not because I have any bitterness in me. But, rather it was an reply to your statement, ' in reality very few woman could forgive that'.
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