I want to share my personal life experience here.
I am blood cancer specialist and blood cancer being bery common in children, lot of parents of very well to do families after their kids were cured used to come to me that they want to do something for cancer kids. They want help them financially.
Cancer treatment is very expensive, not everyone can afford it and many patients die bcoz they cannot afford it. Since my MD days, i have sent lot of patients to my father for financial help, without letting them know he is my father bcoz, if they know i m helping them, patient doctor relationship is affected. So, i used give them my dad's office address and tell them he is my known to and i had told not to tell ne patient that he is my father. So, for me helping ppl was a very normal thing.
Once i had this very well to do family whose 4 year old son i had treated for cancer and he was cured, so they came to me that they are very much interested to something for cancer kids. I had lot of ppl who had volunteered for such help, so i decided i will make a group of such ppl, so i organised a meeting, really spent lot of time to make a blue print for it. So, i called up that family for the meeting and what i was planning. He told me, he is in a meeting, so i shld call the next day. I called him next day, i could believe what he said. He said Dr. Divya, its a gud business to make money in name of charity and patient help.
I was actually stunn hearing that, i shouted back at him. I was very very furious but after sometime i realised that being a doctor and seeing so many kids loosing their life, i am attached to this cause but thode whocome and discuss they cannot feel with same intensity as i do. From that day i never get into these converstions of help and charity with any patient, if they really insost i tell them donate blood for needy, as our cancer patients need lot of blood product but most back out.
My experience says these charity stuff should better if not discussed.
No one is wrong and it leaves u hurt.