Misplaced Anger - Feb 10 - Page 2

Originally posted by: dreamy.tiara

Amazing post 👏 I agree with almost all your points👍🏼

However, I have a slightly different view on Jatin being a pillar of support for Sona. I don't know what are CVs intentions behind mentioning Jatin as a pillar of support (i.e. making him a justifiable prospective groom or something like that)...but my view what I generally believe in, irrespective of what CVs motive was.

I feel that every human being needs a pillar of support, whether a man or a woman, no matter how strong they are. There are people who are clingy, needing support to even lift a cotton. That is definitely very unhealthy. Also, there are people who feel they are very strong and need nobody's support - no matter how dire the situation is. This frame of mind creates an emotional strain on the person. I did not say Men or Women, as it is applicable to both. For example, in male chauvinist societies, men are expected to be strong, saviors and providers. Men who somewhere do not meet these traditional requirements suffer from inferiority complex; which is absolutely ridiculous, because they would not become any less man if they require a woman's support at some point in their lives.

Now, reverse the genders in the above example. And that is how I see Sona's case. The girl broke her heart, her marriage, found out she is infertile (it is not ultimate, but it is still very important) and she was shattered. She was gathering her pieces and putting herself together. So, if her childhood friend comes ahead to lend her support in her worst time, should she back out just because he happens to be a guy? Would she become any less woman if in spite of being a strong and independent girl, she needs support of a guy? Did Dev become any less man when a woman (Sona) helped him and saved his life? I feel all answers are no.

Empowerment is fine. But it is not a bad idea to let people help you when you need help (irrespective of gender); we learn a lot from them and grow when they help us.

Let's not create unnecessarily strain on both ends of gender.

Also, I feel the term "Women Empowerment" itself is a sexist term. Women don't need any empowerment, because we are not handicapped - we are much able, like every normal human being. We just wish to be treated as equals. "Gender Equality" is a better term.

PS: Sorry for spoiling your post with my blabber..😆. and I loved the intro where you described all the changes that happened in a day😆

Originally posted by: sweeti1104

I do not agree in all points.

Fair enough..Thanks for taking time to list your points, I will try to reason to them to my abilities. Lets agree to disagree where needed😊

* Sona' anger regarding that newspaper article was ok with me because Dev told all those things intentionally to get her reaction and he got it. Sourbha has many reason to judge Dev so no complain.

That reaction would have been apt if they both hadn't saved each other and shown their vulnerabilities glaringly to know they still care for each other even though in pretense. Moreover that article didn't degrade Sona in anyway, infact he applauded her for her success. Like Sona is proud of her success , Dev obviously is proud of his and quips people tend to try to become like him but its quite impossible. Unless Sona is affected by Dev emotionally , there was no need for that reaction especially when she is acting cool in front of him. Saurabh is always shown to think before judging and in a way he was responsible for all this mess and he knew majority of truth in that 5 lakh fiasco..just like he has many reason to judge, there are many reasons to not judge Dev as well.

* I thing I saw their sad faces ( Sona, Asha and Bijoy), when Soha were kissing her dad's photo and for me there should not be a guilt. It is completely Sona's decision with soha's choice and Sona has her own reasons but as a viewer how I see is

## Dev asked Sona to get out from his house.

## Dev throws Bose family out from their house.( I know as a viewer we know its vicky but for Sona its Dev and even he accepted infront of her.

## Prenup papers signed by him with children clause.

## Dev said some harsh things to Sona like tume mujhse paiso ke liye shaadi ki, achch hua tum maa nahi ban sakti kyuki agar tum banti toh ek buri maa banti, tum logo ko ghas phus khilakar yeh loan kabhi chuka nahi paogi.

why I am remembering all these? Because I have doubt

Agar Sona apni prgnency ya Soha ke baare me batane jati to use yeh nahi sunna padta ki wo yeh sab paiso ke liye kar rahi hai aur shayad wo yeh prove bhi mangte ki yeh bachcha Dev ka hi hai. Kuch bhi possible hai kyuki Sona ke liye jo Dev ne bola wo bhi unexpected tha par hua to yeh bhi ho sakta tha.

Sona had so many reason for not telling him and only one reason to tell him that is he is Sona' biological father.

Agree ! Just like Ishwari leaves Dev to decide his most important decision in his drunken state, Sona leaves a 6 yr old to decide!! If Sona can remember all these bad things, can't she remember atleast one thing of Dev?

* I want all of yourself

* Sometimes my love for you may be replaced by our tiny Khargosh

* I want you to be Miss Bose always and not win "Keechu bhai part 2 award"

* Sending gifts to his in_laws even without Sona's knowledge.

* Don't give me that power to hurt you..When you are hurt am hurting too dammit

* I have chosen you over my mother..etc etc etc

If she can justify her action for punishing a father over his unstable drunken state taunts without thinking even for once if he was really capable of doing those nasty things, I have nothing else to say. If Sona can believe Vicky over Dev and sign a paper because of anger, I can say Dev's below the belt remarks were also in anger .

Dev also has not taken any efforts to find about Sona even when he knew they are homeless. May be if he took any effort so would have come to know about Soha.

This I completely agree as long as we get to be see what really happened !

so why only blaming for Sonakshi.

Nobody will blame Sona if she is far away some place peaceful with her daughter even I supported her decision till yesterday's episode. But when she is facing him everyday and seeing her daughter's growing compassion for a father figure, leaving that decision to a 6 yr old kid is not fair especially when that kid was subjected to how uncomfortable her dada feels about meeting her father !!

* Jatin only invested money on her business and rest all hard work is done by sonakshi only.

I have no problem with Jatin being a friend and support, I just dont want Boses to carry this eshaan burden to future😆

* I would have agreed with u in that harrasement matter if Sonakshi bought that office intentionally but step back becoz its her ex hubby's place is not cool for me.

Yes she didn't buy that office intentionally and I applauded her for that commitment too but when the situation gets out of control, its wise to take alternate route especially when it involves a child's future. No goddamn ego is bigger than a child's life that too a single parent one.

* Jatin and Sona just behaved like friends but if he thinks differently because he has dated so many girls. Its not Sona's fault.

Agreed...No body is saying its Sona's fault here😆

* Friends can say I love u to ecah other.

Agreed and I didn't complain about that at all ..did I?😳

Just my opinion.

I know Dev has suffered lot in these years, he made mistakes, learns from some mistakes and will get great relief in form of Soha but sometime you get big punishment for big mistakes so is Dev getting. Dev has started but he has a long way to go and get back Soha and Sona in his life.

I guess 7 years of nomadic purposeless life without a single soul to respite with the exception of Golu is big enough punishment Dev already sentenced for his 4 months crime😳 It s time to introspect the other side of the coin !!

Originally posted by: supercool3

Deepa (that's your name right? 😃), I'm actually quite ecstatic after today's episode and that's mainly due to Jatin's entry. You know I'm a total DevAkshi fangirl, but for the first time ever I'm actually thrilled with the third angle (I wonder if I lost my mind too 😆).

Yo Yo, you got the name right😆 but still kanjoosi in revealing yours🤔😆 Hain you were thrilled?! no wonder... you always bring different view here😆

I think both Dev and Sona are being absolute fools right now, and if you let them continue like this, then they'll keep themselves in misery all their lives. (Sometimes I wish this OTP could be smart, but I guess it's okay to be irrational and stupid in love 😆)

Oh the biggest of fools they are... undoubtedly 😡 Unfortunately have to agree with you that they will continue to bite their heads off especially after seeing Sona's reaction to that article

These past few weeks had been a bit of a mess for me in the sense that the writers were establishing all these different storylines and I couldn't come to a conclusion on where it was all heading. But today's episode was a bit of a revelation for me, hence I actually feel relaxed (Funny, just up until yesterday I was dreading Jatin😆). It's kind of like, everything is set and the writers just needed something or someone to tick of a reaction. And voila, we have Jatin!😆

I never liked third angles SC😆 but as you say, from precap I can see Jatin can be that calming force Sona needs right now to think in correct direction..may be he might convince her to take Suhana to meet Dev and it might open whole new can of worms...Well the reaction has already started with the party...more fun on the way😆

If anything, this "love triangle" would only be in Dev's head. As for Bijoy wanting to pair Jatin and Sona, I don't think he'll be too impressed that Jatin wants Soha to meet Dev. 😆

Thats quite an interesting take on Bijoy.."rubbing hands in glee" 😆 Lets see how this goes!

Originally posted by: deepsel

Exactly! I didn't expect either from Saurabh Dada